Little One: 30 Weeks

in Little One, Pregnancy

30 weeks.  Holy hell!  I gave birth to Henry in Week 39.  Assuming I follow the same pattern, that means that we’re in single digit week countdown mode.  <—If you could see my face right now, it’d be an combination of sheer panic and utter joy.

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I feel the blog has been rather baby and parenting (and pumpkin recipe) heavy lately – I’m sorry!  I know some of you *love* these posts and others would rather have a greater variety.  But it’s just way that my writing has worked out lately.  Plus – it’s kind of what my life is about at the moment (especially the pumpkin – hah).  I promise some variety is forthcoming!

 

A comparison of then and now:

first v second pregnancy

Week 30 Q&A:

 

Total Weight Gain: 31 pounds… I think I’m going to end up somewhere around 40.  I read the other day that the baby now weighs THREE POUNDS, which sounds so big.

Clothes:  NOTHING FITS ME.  Because I’m only 4 pounds away from my maximum gain with Henry, and because he was born in the summer instead of the winter, I am pretty much screwed when it comes to winter clothes.  I pulled on my favorite jacket this morning, and it was truly comical. 

Movement:  Tons!  I can video it now – the rolls are visible from the outside, which is always a cool milestone.  I love the videos I have of Henry in my belly.

Best Moment of the Week:  I was laying in bed with Henry and he randomly said, “Mommy, you are NOT going to hold the baby.” My heart started to break because I thought he was being jealous.  I said, “Well, Henry, sometimes, I am going to have to hold the baby a lot because little babies can’t sit up or walk yet.”  And he goes, “No, mommy, you are NOT going to hold the baby – HENRY going to hold the baby!”  Awwww.

Things I Miss:  Being fit (i.e. the ability to climb the stairs without dying), not busting out of my clothing, wine, wine, wine, and the ability to sleep more than three hours without having to wake up to pee.

Boy or Girl:   I’m back to “I have no clue” mode about the baby’s sex.  

Names:  Still waffling on boy names.  We have two strong options and a third back-up that the Husband really loves but I think is kind of meh.  Girl’s name is locked down.

Birth Class:  I scheduled a refresher crash course with a Bradley Method instructor.  Excited!  I still haven’t cracked open my books.

Thoughts on Birth: I’m in denial about the birthing process.  Truthfully – I do not want to do it again.  I need to get my head around it and gear up, but I feel like I have seen something that cannot be unseen, know what I mean?  Hah.

Belly Button:  It’s totally flat.  Thankfully, this time around, my belly ring holes are not insanely itchy – last time, they KILLED me.

Wedding Rings: Still fit – probably not for long!

Things I’ve Bought: A few really adorable newborn sleepers in baby blue and grey. SO LITTLE. SO CUTE.

Sibling Presents:  In the hospital, we’re going to have Little One “bring” a present for Henry (and Henry give one to the baby).  I’ve heard this can really help ease the initial shock of seeing Mom holding a new baby – plus, who doesn’t like presents?!  Henry will be giving LO a cute elephant lovie, and LO will be giving Henry the Cars DVD (and then I plan for us all to snuggle in the hospital bed and watch it).

Things I Need to Buy:  But I have been making a list of things we need to replace or get double of… Thanks for everyone who made suggestions.  Here’s our final list!

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From top left to bottom right (FYI – affiliate links):

 

Boppy Newborn Lounger – This was our #1 most used baby item with Henry.  We still have our old one, but it’s kind of become a dog bed… Time for a fresh pillow!

Baby Merlin’s Magic Sleepsuit – Never tried it with Henry but have heard so many great things about it that we’ll definitely use it with LO.

Bottle Brushes – I pumped a lot in my bedroom, so it’s nice to have a brush/drying rack in the master bath AND the kitchen area.

WubbaNub Pacifier

Diaper Ointment – No experience with this particular brand, but I’ve seen it everywhere on social media and want to give it a try.  If you have a newborn coming, DEFINITELY have diaper ointment on hand. 

Naturepedic No Compromise Organic Cotton Classic 150 Crib Mattress – Our big splurge item but well worth it (Henry has the same mattress).  There is no off-gassing, it’s super comfy, and – frankly – other crib mattress don’t compare.  I remember that he started to sleep SO much better when we moved him onto this mattress!

Organic Swaddles – I can’t wait to make baby burritos again!

Nipple ShieldsBecause I’ll probably need them, and you can never have too many (those suckers disappear faster than socks in the laundry).

Ergo 360 and the Newborn Insert – Our second big splurge.  Soooo many of you recommended this carrier when I said I wanted one that could be forward- or chest-facing. It certainly isn’t cheap, but I learned with Henry that cheap carriers are really terrible for my back, and I anticipate that this baby will be in the carrier a lot. 

 

If you’re looking for other baby gear recommendations:

Newborn: Baby Gear We Love

4.5 Months Old: Baby Gear We Love

8.5 Months: Baby Gear We Love

 

Other Little One posts:

In the Oven {Again} (Announcement Post)

First Trimester Recap

17 weeks

22 weeks

27 weeks

Things I Learned About Having a Newborn

Panic-Free Pregnancy: Round Two

And all my Henry weekly updates.

{ 56 comments }

 

  • Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine September 24, 2014, 11:08 am

    Henry is going to have so much fun with a sibling! Haha!

  • Caitlyn @ City and the Cubicle September 24, 2014, 11:09 am

    Can’t wait to find out boy or girl 🙂 Henry will be a great big brother!

  • Carolyn September 24, 2014, 11:17 am

    Hi,
    I rarely ever comment… but wanted to give you some encouragement. I just gave birth to my second child 5 weeks ago. I had both children naturally – first at a birth center and second at a hospital. I was honestly scared – one to move into a hospital setting and deal with “medical interventions” pushed on me and second for the act of giving birth (I pushed for 3 hours with my first and the recover was HORRIBLE).

    I’m writing to say, the second birth was AMAZING. I loved being at a hospital and still got a water birth, and I honestly pushed TWO TIMES and he was out.

    It’s totally cool you are in denial about this…. but you have this.

    GOOD LUCK.
    Carolyn

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 11:20 am

      Yay! I hope I have a similar experience 🙂 Congrats!!!

    • Christine September 25, 2014, 1:50 pm

      I had a similar experience where the second birth was better than the first. And one thing that honestly helped me when preparing for the second was reading your birth posts about Henry. You also had a long delivery the first time around, but your reflections were more positive than mine (!) and you gave yourself credit when due and a break when needed – like how you would treat a friend. It was reassuring to read and made me feel better. (Thanks for that!) I hope it goes well for you too.

      • Caitlin September 26, 2014, 7:26 pm

        Thank you sweetie!

  • Samantha Angela September 24, 2014, 11:18 am

    It’s been way too long since I’ve visited your blog and I didn’t even know you were pregnant! Congratulations!

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 11:20 am

      Thank you!

  • Liz September 24, 2014, 11:19 am

    Question about the Boppy lounger….I am pregnant with my first and working on my registry. Would you recommend getting both a regular Boppy pillow and a Boppy lounger, or can I just use the regular Boppy pillow for breastfeeding AND as a lounger? I’m wondering if, for newborns especially, it makes a big difference that the Boppy lounger has the hole in the middle filled in with cushioning or if they will generally do okay sitting in the regular Boppy pillow?

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 11:23 am

      I had a Boppy Pillow and I gave it away. I know some people LOVE it but I just stuffed a regular pillow under Henry and it worked find. I seriously LOVED the lounger because you can put it anywhere (kitchen floor, bathroom floor) and the baby is completely comfy. I feel like you could put a newborn in the pillow and have the same effect but they may be more on the floor because their butt would sink in?

      I’ve heard good things about My Brest Friend, too, as opposed to the pillow…

      Maybe some other readers can weigh in?

      • Jamie September 24, 2014, 11:35 am

        I used the regular boppy pillow all the time for nursing and really loved it. Personally, I would register for both.

      • Nicole September 24, 2014, 12:00 pm

        Hi there! I have both – the lounger was awesome. My daughter is 15 months old and still nursing with the Boppy pillow. I would also say register for both and see if you like it or not.

    • Liz September 24, 2014, 4:20 pm

      Thanks for the feedback! Registering for a baby is so hard, I feel like I’m just groping in the dark since I’ve never done this baby thing before and have no idea what I really need! Thank goodness for the internet 🙂

  • Jamie September 24, 2014, 11:34 am

    We had the Magic sleep suit. Just be warned, it is EXTREMELY hot in that thing. My daughter is a sweaty little thing and she was so uncomfortable in it. I live in Colorado so it’s not like it is really hot here. Hopefully it works better for you. We used it half a dozen times and then I sold it on Ebay

  • Julie September 24, 2014, 11:53 am

    I think your tummy actually looked a little bigger at 30 weeks w/ Henry!

  • Erin September 24, 2014, 12:08 pm

    Love this updates. Can’t wait to meet him/her! Second the Ergo is a must-have, so you can be on-the-go with Henry while baby snuggles.

  • Britt@MyOwnBalance September 24, 2014, 12:09 pm

    You look great!! If you need some more clothes but aren’t interested in shelling out a ton of money, you can try Mine for Nine. It’s a maternity clothes rental site. I got a bunch of cute things from them for summer but am going to check out what they may have for winter. They have some nice brands and some of my clothes even came with the brand tags still on!

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 12:16 pm

      NICE! Thanks!

  • Samantha D September 24, 2014, 12:52 pm

    I really like posts like this. I generally follow fitness and healthy living bloggers, and I think the best posts relate to what’s going on in someone’s life right now, even if it doesn’t technically relate to what they started blogging about.

  • CL September 24, 2014, 1:47 pm

    Are you thinking of doing a post on your thoughts on breastfeeding this time around? Are you planning to Epump like with Henry, something else, or just see how it goes? Curious.

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 2:59 pm

      I definitely will! I hope to make breastfeeding work but I am also kind of resigned that I may end up EPing with this one too. I hope not – I’m really going to give it an effort and try not to use the pump as a crutch in the first few weeks.

  • Stacy K. September 24, 2014, 2:06 pm

    I feel you’re anticipation, I’m three weeks from 39 weeks and am freaking out, but it’s baby #2 so I’m not too worried. We just moved into a new home and don’t have a thing set up for new baby yet, but luckily I know I have all the necessities should he choose to come early.

    I like your tip about having a bottle cleaning station upstairs, as we just moved into a two story home and we lived in a 1 story with our first. Do you have any other random tips for living in a two story with a baby? We do plan to have a pack n play set up downstairs with a diaper changing station, but with a toddler and having a csection I am really trying to figure out how we are going to manage those first few weeks without going up and downstairs a million times a day. Anything else I should buy double of?

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 2:56 pm

      Ooooo good question! I think you should really try to move more of your first kiddo’s stuff downstairs too – like extra clothes and diapers and stuff?

    • Mrs SPB September 24, 2014, 3:10 pm

      I hope you don’t mind me replying to this but thought I could help. My first is a toddler and my second is 4 weeks old. We have a diaper changing station downstairs and in both kids rooms – we use the downstairs one most. We have a crib upstairs for night time but our son’s old pram downstairs which the baby naps in or can be put in when toddler needs something, or when I leave the room for a second as toddler cant reach the baby that way!. We also have 2 bouncy chairs – one downstairs and one in toddlers room which we use when putting toddler down for his nap and bedtime. Hope that helps! x x x

  • kristin @ W [H] A T C H September 24, 2014, 2:23 pm

    you look fabulous!

  • Shannon September 24, 2014, 2:55 pm

    The ergo carrier is wonderful, but the insert is kind of a waste. You can get the same effect with a blanket and swaddling your little one, and they grow so darn quickly.
    Just my two cents!

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 2:59 pm

      Awesome thanks!!! I may save my cash 🙂

  • Mrs SPB September 24, 2014, 3:13 pm

    Having a sling is a lifesaver! My toddler forgets the baby is in there when we’re playing and baby is asleep – lovely to be able to have two hands free for playtime. Good luck with the last 10 weeks!

  • Regina September 24, 2014, 4:21 pm

    You look amazing and your hair!!! It’s so shiny! As someone who is losing he bulk of hers from postpartum and grabby baby hands I’m even more jealous 😉 my first son was born in August, my second in April so I was pretty much pregnant the exact opposite times of year. I highly recommend hitting up consignment shops. I got all my winter maternity clothes from consignment for probably $20 total!

  • Lizzie September 24, 2014, 4:25 pm

    I hear you on the fear of going through delivery again, but it’ll be so much better this time. Couple pushes and you’re done. You seriously might laugh.

    Quick tip someone gave me when we introduced our 2-year-old son to our (now four-month-old) daughter at the hospital that I ended up really loving: Instead of having grandma/etc. bring the 2-year-old in to the hospital room where you are with the new baby, you can ask the nurses to bring the new baby to the nursery before your 2-year-old comes. Then you, your husband and your 2-year-old can all walk over together to “pick up” the new baby. I really liked that it was less about the 2-year-old coming into this group of three as an outsider, and more about the three of us welcoming his new little sibling together. Good luck!

  • Ali September 24, 2014, 5:00 pm

    Love these updates! If I’m recalling correctly, I think you said in one of your mind/body after baby posts that you ended up losing more weight than the amount that you gained while pregnant with Henry. Do you think maybe that’s why it seems like you’re gaining a little more weight with baby 2? Here’s a link for other readers on what the Institute of Medicine recommends for gestational weight gain based on pre-prenancy weight status http://www.acog.org/Resources-And-Publications/Committee-Opinions/Committee-on-Obstetric-Practice/Weight-Gain-During-Pregnancy

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 5:07 pm

      Hmm I don’t know – interesting thought. I only lost an extra few pounds compared to my pre-Henry weight so I’m not sure. My BMI was always around 20 – 21 so I don’t get pushed into the “underweight” category for the second pregnancy’s weight gain. I had such bad morning sickness in the beginning of this pregnancy and ate a lot of French fries and potato chips, hah. I gained weight a lot faster in the beginning so I think I can mostly blame my shitty eating habits. 🙂

      • Ali September 24, 2014, 10:14 pm

        I agree with all the other readers that you look very healthy and beautiful! Wishing you a comfortable next several weeks and easy birth. Thanks so much for letting us all follow along 🙂

        • Caitlin September 26, 2014, 7:27 pm

          Thank you!!!

  • pippa@popovertopippas.com September 24, 2014, 6:09 pm

    I’m pregnant with my first child (20 weeks as of tomorrow), and this list is so helpful, thank you! Did you find with Henry that you needed both the Boppy Lounger and a Swing/bouncer, or do you think that the lounger is enough?

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 7:16 pm

      I think it depends on the size of your house – in a bigger house or one with two stories, it’s nice to have multiple places to put them down safely. And of course, the pillow doesn’t move like a swing would…

  • Hannah September 24, 2014, 6:18 pm

    Ah, you look great!! So exciting! I’m pregnant with my first, and I’m curious about the crib mattress. I’m considering springing for an organic one as well. Why do you have to buy another one if you already used the same one for Henry? For such an expensive item I would be hoping to use it for more than one child!!

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 7:16 pm

      Henry didn’t transition well to his twin size mattress so he’s in a toddler bed which uses the crib mattress soon. At the rate he grows, he’ll be in it for another year.

  • Bron September 24, 2014, 6:45 pm

    I’ve also heard another good thing to do when you are introducing your toddler to their new sibling is to have the dad holding the baby so that you can still hold your toddler? just something to think about anyway! I love the present idea and will definitely be doing that when we have a second child! good luck 🙂

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 7:15 pm

      Good idea. I was thinking of sending the baby to the nursery right before Henry gets there so we can have some alone time first.

      • Bron September 25, 2014, 4:25 am

        that’s a good idea! we don’t have a nursery at the hospital in NZ – your baby just stays with you in your room the whole time so I forget that you have that option in the US!

  • lori September 24, 2014, 7:16 pm

    Just wanted to comment on birth the second time around. I just had my second Bradley Method style about 3.5 weeks ago. I know what you mean about knowing what you’re in for. I was scared too. I hope you’ll take comfort in my story – definitely no harder than the first time! My first labor was 20 hrs, this one 9. Didn’t have to push as long this time. First baby weighed 7lbs 8.5″oz, this one, 9lbs 11oz! Hahaha! Could not believe it! Amazing thing was, my big boy was no harder to push out! I only tore a little, same as the first time. The only thing that was scarier this time was that transition happened so quickly that I thought I was gonna have the baby in the car. For reals. Got to hospital at 1am and he was born at 1:22. But that’s the Bradley goal, right? Ha! With the first I was dilated 7 or 8 when I got there and had him about 2.5 hrs later. This second time was truly surreal. Labor and delivery we’re exactly the same as first time, just faster. You’ll do great!

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 8:23 pm

      Hahah that IS the Bradley goal. This birth story gives me hope 🙂

  • simplesallymae September 24, 2014, 8:28 pm

    You look great mama! I wanted to let you know that you’ve inspired me to take my first bradley method birthing class with my second baby, due in March! I am so looking forward to learning more about it and it is something I never would have heard of were it not for your blog! Thank you for the recommendation and congratulations on 30 weeks! The countdown is on!

    • Caitlin September 24, 2014, 8:29 pm

      Yay! Awesome. You will love it 🙂 Congrats on your second!

  • Amanda @ Living on Grace September 24, 2014, 8:51 pm

    YAY! You are looking great!
    I love the idea of baby giving Henry a gift (and vice versa).
    When my baby girl was born, my son came in to meet them and I was holding the baby and still in the hospital bed and still in the L&D room (which is pretty “medical”). He was REALLY upset and wouldn’t look at me or the baby.
    The next day, when he came in, I was out of the bed and I wasn’t holding the baby (my mom was) and he came and sat next to me. In hindsight, I feel like the first scenario was a little overwhelming for him.
    He was only 21 months though, so he might be very different than my boy,
    but I wanted to share my experience in case it’s helpful!
    (This is the story of their meeting: http://www.thekriegers.org/2013/06/establishing-a-hierarchy/)

  • Dana September 24, 2014, 11:26 pm

    We swear by the Grovia Magic Stick. We still use it on our 19 mo old. It clears up any red/rash instantly. It’s all natural and smells great too. It’s for cloth diapers but we use for disposables.

  • Nicole @ Broken Road Creative September 25, 2014, 5:32 pm

    I gave my 5 year old daughter a “big sister kit” in the hospital and she had a gift for her baby sister. I think it was one of the best ideas ever (thanks Pinterest, lol!). A lot of my family members pitched in on the kit, so she had plenty to keep her busy while she waited for baby sis to be born.

    Oh, and I so know what you mean about not wanting to go through that again… I really didn’t want to leave my house when I was in labor this second time around because I just knew what I was in for and I wasn’t ready, lol. Ahh, ignorance really can be bliss, haha. Luckily, the babies are so worth it! 😀

  • Cristal September 26, 2014, 9:27 am

    I hope you don’t mind I am TOTALLY stealing your idea of bringing my daughter a DVD to watch with me in the hospital when her brother or sister is born. I’m 32 weeks today, so I share your anxiety of not wanting to go through the birthing process again. The first time I was so naive.

  • Lyndsey September 26, 2014, 12:31 pm

    Hey, wanted to let you know your site is staying cached in Firefox on your “currently” post from earlier this week. I thought it was strange you hadn’t posted the past few days, but when i opened it in Chrome, there were the new posts! You may want to look into it (unless it’s just my weird work computer)

    • Caitlin September 26, 2014, 7:23 pm

      Thanks so much – I will let my web guy know but it could just be your work computer – try clearing your cache1

  • Emily September 26, 2014, 7:16 pm

    I hear you on the birthing reluctance! To be perfectly honest, I’m not 100% looking forward to all that again. I’ve been listening to some birthing meditation podcasts that seem to help though. The first time around I was like, “La la, let’s see what happens! Oh boy, new experiences!” Now I’m terrified and trying to get into the mindset of, “Grr, I’m a warrior woman; bring it on!”

  • Kristin October 7, 2014, 10:41 am

    I also have been using nipple shields for breast feeding and found that keeping a container in the breast feeding station to keep the shield in has prevented me from losing it. The lactation consultant at the hospital gave me a plastic dentures container (ha!) to hold it in and I’ve just been using that – so nothing fancy necessary! I also keep an extra shield in the diaper bag for when we are out.

  • Leila Dishes October 13, 2014, 12:08 am

    If you haven’t already purchased the Ergo 360, look into the Beco Gemini. It also does facing out, but the straps cross in the back instead of being on like a backpack. It is much more comfortable (in my opinion) than the Ergo as a result. I had the Butterfly II and Soleil with # 1, and purchased the Gemini with #2 because of the facing out option. My friend tested both out through Heavenly Holds (http://www.heavenlyhold.com/baby-carrier-trial/), and if you have a local babywearing group on facebook you might be able to do a trial of both without worrying about shipping to/from.

    • Caitlin October 13, 2014, 7:28 am

      Oh I will look into this – thanks!

  • janine October 22, 2014, 12:56 am

    My 21 month old has been having a rough time sleeping and so in a desperate attempt to help, I just bought that mattress with overnight shipping… i have this feeling that it IS the mattress that is causing some of his hardship so wish us luck!!!!

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