So clichéd but so true – time really starts to fly when you have kids!  Can you believe Claire was born two months ago?


It’s been a really wonderful two months!  A friend asks me how I was feeling about going from one kid to two, and my response is that I feel like Claire just slipped into the fray.  It’s like she’s always been here.

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Let’s do a quick “me” update and then I’ll do a Claire update!


Mind After Baby


Like I said, I’m doing really well. I don’t feel overwhelmed and nutty like I did after Henry.  I know how to do this baby thing, and I think I can do it pretty well, so we’re surviving.  Also, the lack of sleep isn’t impacting me like it did last time.  I was CRAZY SLEEP DEPRIVED after Henry.  This time – not so much.  Sleep deprivation does terrible things to your outlook and mood, so I’m thankful.


The hardest part of my day is doing bedtime with two kids when I don’t have other adult help.  That really does me in.  Henry becomes a typical needy toddler at bedtime, and Claire usually has a screaming fit, and I end up feeling pulled in two directions.  That’s the worst feeling – when I can’t comfort anyone and everyone ends up upset. 


(Henry made us all necklaces!)


The other thing that I’m struggling is a life-work balance.  I’ve always felt like that phrase was total bullshit anyway, but now I’m really struggling to find enough space in my schedule for all the work that I want to do.  I can cook, clean, exercise, or even read a book while being “on” but I can’t work.  We don’t have additional childcare for Claire at this point but it may be necessary at some point.  I feel perpetually behind!


Body After Baby


I’m really proud of the things my post-baby body is doing!  I’m back to running and even did a 4.0 mile race.  I feel pretty strong and capable.  And I’m really, really enjoying having that ‘me time’ again.  It’s also a great no-kids social outlet for me because I occasionally run with my girlfriends.


I’m still breastfeeding, although I actually breastfeed half the time and do pumped bottles the other half.  I do this for all the reasons that I exclusively pumped with Henry – I find public breastfeeding awkward, I need the ability to leave Claire with a bottle, I still have to use a shield because of flat nipples, and – quite frankly – I just don’t love it.  I’m owning all those feelings (instead of feeling bad and guilty about it like last time) and just rolling with it.  It’s nice to be able to breastfeed in the privacy of my home – I actually enjoy it and appreciate how much easier it is than pumping.  But pumping works for me, too, and I appreciate all the benefits that pumping allows.  I don’t feel as hostile about pumping as I did after Henry, and I’m just trying to chug along until the end date that I’ve set in my head.


As far as post-baby weight loss goes… it’s going!  I’ve lost about 25 pounds since giving birth, which means I have another 15 or so to go.  I’m trying to eat mindful portions and not go nuts on the chocolate and wine, and I’m losing about a pound a week.  Slow but steady progress.  


And a Claire Update


Okay – the fun part!


Gosh, I love her SO MUCH.  She is terribly adorable and so sweet.  She is incredibly easy.  I feel very blessed to have such an easy kid (I prayed really hard for a good baby!).  She LOVES to smile and cracks a big grin whenever she sees me, the Husband, or Henry.  She’s also started to coo and squeal and will “talk” to you.  She’s getting better at tracking people with her eyes and will turn her head to watch you leave the room.


She is CHUNKY and I love it.  Henry was always a skinny kid per the growth charts, but Claire is a chunker.  She’s busting out of her 3 month clothes and has all these amazingly awesome rolls on her inner thighs.  I die.


Henry v. Claire:

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She is an award-winning sleeper, too!  She wakes up about twice a night to eat – at 1:30 and 5:30.  Then she does a light sleep until around 7:30 (so I end up being woken up a few times, but it’s not a big production to console her). She goes down easily, and I’m trying to implement some ‘pre-sleep training’ techniques (like not always rushing to her immediately and patting her stomach v. picking her up to calm her) to try to move the process along even faster.  The twice-a-night wake-up thing isn’t TOO bad but, obviously, I can’t wait to sleep through the night again.


Henry is LOVING Claire, too.  He is a great big brother.  He sings to her and gives her pacifiers and like to pet her head.  He has even given her a few bottles! 


Once, he asked me if we could leave Claire at home while we went to the playground, and I died laughing before explaining that, no, we can never leave Claire alone at home.  He looked disappointed but quickly rebounded.  That’s the only real sign of jealously that I’ve seen.  It’s been much, much better than I expected overall.


Here’s to many more awesome months!  <3



  • Ash Diamond January 26, 2015, 1:44 pm

    Momma you look great! I am so looking forward to catching up in Savannah!

  • Kelly January 26, 2015, 1:46 pm

    You look FAB! And the fact that you’re feeling better, overall, this go-round is terrific. I also wanted to say that I find reading your blog refreshing. I read a couple of other bloggers that have had a second baby, and it seems like all they do is gush over the baby and imply negative connotations towards their first born! I thought I was imaging things, but a few friends have also noticed how the second baby always get positive attention (“I love him/her so much” or “best baby ever”), yet the older one is referred to negatively. I get that kids in their 2nd and 3rd (and way beyond!) years do go through some tough growth spurts and have trouble adjusting and etc., but I just find it off-putting that these definite distinctions are put out there. I don’t get those vibes off of you, which is great. It may be why Henry has shown very little jealousy towards Claire because you haven’t put any vibes out there to be jealous of!

    • Caitlin January 26, 2015, 1:57 pm

      Aww, thanks. I love Henry to bits and pieces. He’s so special to me!

  • Rebecca @ Bring Back Delicious January 26, 2015, 1:50 pm

    Congrats, she’s precious. I laughed at the last picture of your son feeding her. It looked like he was trying to squeeze the milk out like it was a ketchup bottle (though I’m sure he wasn’t).

    • Caitlin January 26, 2015, 1:56 pm

      Haha he probably actually was.

  • Rachel Rosen January 26, 2015, 2:08 pm

    I have a 4 month old and a 2 year old and I feel the same way you do! I thought the transition was so easy. My second one is even easier than my first! And we haven’t seen really any jealousy at all. One time, my 2 year old said “mama, don’t feed Judah! Judah isn’t hungry!” when he wanted my attention, but that’s about it. I think it’s because we are really careful to be super positive about their interactions. We don’t tell Elijah (my older one) “no!” or “be careful!” or “don’t touch the baby!” And we praise him like crazy when he does nice things like bring him toys or throw away a diaper. I’m so glad to hear from someone else who has found it to be such a joy to have two children.

    • Caitlin January 26, 2015, 2:09 pm

      🙂 Aww your kids sound so cute.

  • janine January 26, 2015, 3:14 pm

    first of all, this is my fave blog of all time and I LOVE your little family like I actually know you in real life (weird?)
    you and your insights have provided a wealth of knowledge with my own soon to be 2 year old son..
    So please know all of that when I say, I kind of cringe at the “good baby” thing.. my son wasn’t a horrible cryer or anything but i have some friends who are really struggling with the newborn colic and I kind of hate it when people use ‘good baby’ because it suggests that if other babes are more difficult at that age they are ‘bad baby’ or not as good at least.. I’m honestly not usually sensitive with things like that but it’s just one I thought you might want to know about from other mamas and I feel like you are one of the few blogging mamas who actually welcomes discussions like this, otherwise I’d never say it 🙂

    So happy everything’s going so well for your little family!!!!

    • Caitlin January 26, 2015, 3:54 pm

      Aw that is definitely not what I meant and you’re right – others could find the word choice troublesome. I guess “easy baby” is a better word choice. xoxo. thanks for reading!!!

  • Ali January 26, 2015, 3:31 pm

    Love these updates! Would you mind saying just a little bit more about how your anxiety is different this time around – particularly around infant sleep? I remember with Henry you were very worried about him when he was sleeping at night so you often lost sleep yourself making sure he was okay. What’s helping you stay confident?

    • Caitlin January 26, 2015, 3:36 pm

      I don’t know – I am just not terrified she’ll die in the middle of the night like I was with Henry. I think the enormity of caring for a kid was overwhelming with my first and that;s how it presents to me – as fear.

  • Caitlin January 26, 2015, 4:51 pm

    Aww, love this! I had a lot of the same feelings you did after I had my son so it’s sooo nice to see things going well with the second baby! Makes me happy!

  • Sagan January 26, 2015, 5:06 pm

    Aww, little cuties! So glad it’s all going well for you 🙂 And you look great!

  • Rachel January 26, 2015, 8:18 pm

    Wow, you guys make some *adorable* babies! My “baby” will be 3 next month, so when I see the pics of Claire she looks especially tiny 🙂 Wanna smooch those cheeks!

    And I totally agree, bedtime when it’s 2 against 1 sucks. We usually divide and conquer but my husband travels a lot for work, so I’m often tackling bedtime solo. Insert crying emoji here

  • Nicole @ Broken Road Creative January 26, 2015, 10:27 pm

    Love these posts, Caitlin!

    I’ve always felt like I relate to you really well but sometimes it freaks me out… on my own personal blog, I have written several times already about my second daughter, “It’s like she has always been here.” Then you said it about Claire! Lol.

    I feel constantly behind though, too, and so far I haven’t really found the solution other than to just ride it out because I know it’s just a matter of time before this baby is starting kindergarten like my first and spending time with the babies always trumps work and house cleaning… if only I could get healthy meals to cook themselves… 🙂

  • Katie sB January 27, 2015, 12:10 am

    Thank you for the update! Your kids are sooooo cute.

  • Sarah F. January 27, 2015, 4:58 am

    I love these updates! Even though I don’t have any kids, I love hearing about how they’re developing and doing. So cute that they’re already bonding as siblings.

    Good for you for still finding time to exercise. I’m sure it would be so easy to just spend more time relaxing when you have the chance, so I find it very inspiring that you still make it out the door to exercise.

  • Lissy January 27, 2015, 6:28 am

    She is so cute! I can’t believe it’s been 2 months, though somehow I can believe our LO is four months. He I is not am easy baby. I bought those booties after your review… guess who kicked them off, lol

  • Michelle January 27, 2015, 9:39 am

    You have a beautiful family Caitlin! I just love your blog 🙂

  • Reenie January 27, 2015, 10:27 am

    Awww! So sweet. How are James & Mags with Baby Claire?

  • Ashinmt January 27, 2015, 3:11 pm

    So, writing one handed while nursing but need mom advice. My one month old is refusing to take our attempts at introducing a pumped bottle. We just started trying the last few days but not having good luck. Any tips or tricks? This new mama needs pops to be able to feed him occasionally:)

    • Caitlin January 27, 2015, 3:17 pm

      I have noooo idea. I introduced a bottle immediately with both kids. So sorry!

  • Ashley January 28, 2015, 1:03 am

    I have to say I cringed when I read that you prayed for a “good baby.” In our culture we equate calm and easygoing babies with being “good.” This can be quite detrimental to babies and the mothers of babies who are not easygoing. In fact, I recently talked to a mom who was told by strangers that her crying baby was “bad”. As you, the creator of Operation Beautiful, know all too well – there is an immense power to the words we use to describe others. When people tell me my baby is “good”, I often respond with, “all babies are good babies.”

  • Stephanie @ Whole Health Dork January 29, 2015, 7:17 am

    Aw, it sounds like you’re all doing great! It must be such a relief to feel like you have the baby thing down and are able to handle it all with a bit more ease. I sincerely believe that kids can sense their parents’ anxieties and will react accordingly. The more laid back a parent is, the more laid back the kid will be. Easier said than done and I know I will most likely be a anxious parent, at least the first time around, but I try to keep reminding myself of that!
    What a sweet big brother Henry is! I loved being a big sister.

  • Kendra S. January 29, 2015, 5:05 pm

    I used to work with the loveliest 80+ year old woman who had 8 kids (and like a million grandkids)! When I was pregnant with my second she told me something that really helped when I felt pulled in two directions like you do at bedtime. She said, “always go to the one who will remember first.” Sure it’s hard to leave a sweet little baby crying in her crib or swing, but as long as she’s just fussing and not truly in serious need of immediate attention, then there’s no harm in tending to the toddler for a moment.

    You are doing a great job!

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