I have always known that I wouldn’t want to find out my baby’s sex while pregnant.  Even when I was a teenager, I knew I wanted to be surprised.


There were multiple reasons for waiting:  I liked the mystery of waiting; I thought waiting would be a good motivator during labor; and, to a lesser degree, I was interested in keeping my thoughts about the baby ‘gender neutral.’  Side note:  gender concerns the social differences between men and women while sex is a biological distinction.  Anyway, I once read a study that described how moms who know their baby’s sex tend to use gender generalizations to describe them in utero (“My girl kicks like a dainty ballerina!” v. “My boy is strong like football player!”).  I liked the idea of not conferring personality characteristics on the baby simply because I knew their sex (not that you’re psychologically harming a child by doing this, of course – it’s just an interesting theory!).   


Additionally, regardless of whether we had a boy or a girl, I wasn’t really into the idea of buying tons of ‘girly’ or ‘boyish’ things for the baby.  I happily purchased about one dozen neutral onesies, socks, and hats and called it a day.  I am 100% sure that not knowing the sex seriously reigned in our pre-birth spending.  It also motivated me to buy our baby gear – like the car seat – in neutral colors like black; hopefully, we’ll get two kids’ worth of use out of them. 


For many years, the Husband was well aware of my desire to wait, but he wasn’t entirely convinced.  Then, one of his friends from high school had a baby and waited to find out the sex; he told Kristien that it was an amazing experience.  I think that conversation sealed the deal for Kristien.  When we found out that we were expecting in September, we instantly agreed to wait. 


Our decision to wait drove some of our friends and family members crazy, but we were generally fine with it.  We both really enjoyed the mystery of it, the possibilities that came with not knowing if BabyHTP was a girl or a boy. 


The only drawback to not finding out the baby’s sex was that it made our future seem a bit hazy.  I had trouble visualizing the baby and imagining what our new life would look like because I didn’t know the most basic fact about our baby – boy or girl.  Obviously, I loved BabyHTP so deeply, but I do think knowing the sex ahead of time makes it a bit easier to emotionally connect.  The Husband reported that he felt the same way.


Despite our commitment to waiting, the 20 week ultrasound, which is when most people find out the sex, was really hard.  I was SO tempted to sneak a peek at the bits and find out.  Knowing that the answer was right there (and someone else – the ultrasound tech – KNEW!) was terrible!  But I kept my eyes closed, as did the Husband, and we asked the tech not to write down the sex in our chart so no one would accidentally spill the beans.


I never minded when other people would try to guess the baby’s sex.  It was so funny – I’d be in the grocery store and the cashier would be proclaim that I obviously was carrying a girl; I’d walk out and a woman in the parking lot would say that I was clearly carrying a boy.  I was only irritated by strangers who had the nerve to ask whether I really wanted it to be a boy or a girl.  My favorite response to, “What do you hope it will be?” became:  “A human.”


At the urging of some friends, I tried the old fashioned gender predictors just for fun:


  • Chinese calendar predictor guessed it was a boy
  • How I carried (high) meant girl
  • Baby’s heart rate (over 140 BPM) meant girl
  • I craved sweets, which indicated girl
  • Mayan predictions indicated girl
  • My clear skin meant boy
  • My lack of morning sickness meant boy


Of course, everyone wanted to know: “Don’t you have a mother’s intuition of whether it’s a boy or a girl?”  The short answer:  Ummmm… No.


If pressed, I would guess that we were having a girl, mostly because I had two girl birth dreams.  It was also very hard for me to settle on a boy’s name, which I chalked up to the fact that I was probably not having a boy.  However, I do so much charity work with girls and run the Operation Beautiful site, so a part of me thought my ‘girl sense’ was because I was so used to girls.  I think my work with girls definitely influenced my prediction. 


Similarly, although he hated to guess, the Husband thought the baby was a girl, too. 


Obviously…. Henry is a boy.


Whoops.  Sorry, Henry.


Not knowing the sex of the baby was a HUGE motivator during labor.  Whenever I wanted to break down and quit (not that I could’ve…), I thought to myself, “Just a few more hours and you get to find out if it’s a boy or a girl!”  The excitement of not only meeting our baby but finding out something so basic about him or her was tremendously motivating.  And after three hours of pushing, I got to hear the sweetest, most amazing news ever:  the Husband shakily announced that it was a boy, and Henry began to wail.  I’m so glad we asked the midwife to let Kristien announce the sex because it made it even more special. 


My initial reaction was, “Oh, of course it is a boy!”  It just felt like the way it was supposed to be.   The Husband was more convinced we were having a girl, and he said that he was pretty shocked to see Henry was a boy.  But he was also instantaneously very excited.  It doesn’t hurt that Henry is basically a miniature version of Kristien! 


All in all – am I glad I waited?  Yes.  Do I think more couples should find out ‘the old fashioned’ way? Yes! It’s so fun!  Will we wait to find out Baby #2’s sex?  I think we will. 


It really all boiled down to that one magical moment that Kristien said, “It’s a boy!”  


I’m sure that no matter when you find out your baby’s sex, it is a special moment, but the rush of emotions that accompany delivery PLUS the joy of seeing your baby for the first time PLUS finding out the sex after 40 long weeks is overwhelming. 


In that instant after delivery, it stopped being about whether the baby was a boy or a girl.  It just became about meeting Henry.  The little boy that I was always destined to have.


If you want to see more of Henry’s newborn photos, head over to Jen’s blog.  Our newborn photos were taken as part of a services swap by Jen at New Shoe Photography.  If you’re in the Charlotte / Western North Carolina area and are interested of a shoot with Jen – she does all sorts of portrait work – she’s offering HTP readers a 20% discount off the session.  You can check out New Shoe Photography for contact information. She also did our wonderful maternity pictures.


Did you wait to find out your baby’s sex?  Would you?  If you didn’t wait to find out, how did you reveal the sex to your family and friends?



  • Stellina @ My Yogurt Addiction July 2, 2012, 12:07 pm

    I don’t have a baby yet but I think I would wait to find out the sex. At first I thought that I would want to know for buying purposes, but I think it would be more fun to be surprised! By the way all of your photographs are beautiful! I love how you incorporated the pups too!

  • Stacie @ Snaps and Bits July 2, 2012, 12:11 pm

    I found out the sex both times. I really wanted to know and could not stand it if someone else knew (the Dr always knows since there are different premie issues). For me, that was the right decision. It’s fun to read about the other side but I don’t think anything would have convinced me!

  • Jen July 2, 2012, 12:11 pm

    We’re waiting…only five more weeks (hopefully!). I can’t wait to hear the husband tell me, until then I think it’s a boy- but not for any particular reason.

  • Nicole of Raspberry Stethoscope July 2, 2012, 12:13 pm

    LOVE YOUR PHOTOGRAPHY SHOTS! Gorgeous!! I also don’t want to know the sex when it’s my time to have kids. My mom didn’t with the 3 of us, and my sister didn’t know for her two boys:)

  • Cyndi Eggers July 2, 2012, 12:14 pm

    Some of your predictor criteria seem flip-flopped. I knew you were having a boy as soon as you mentioned the baby’s HR way back at the beginning of the pregnancy, I learned 140+ meant boy – think high energy! Carrying wide generally means a girl while all in front = boy. Clear skin is from a boy as you’re not getting a double dose of estrogen, same goes for lack of morning sickness. As these indicators unwound over your pregnancy I was sure you would have a boy – I have 2. Enjoy all things baby!

    • Jackie July 2, 2012, 5:30 pm

      The legend is that high heart rate is girl.

      • Liz A July 2, 2012, 6:48 pm

        that’s what I’ve heard too (girl)

    • Caitlin July 3, 2012, 7:45 pm

      I don’t think there’s any real rhyme or reason to these OWTs.

      • steph April 29, 2014, 12:36 pm

        If anyone takes 10 seconds to look it up that theory on heart rate is false. It has been disproven over and over since the 60s. My son had a heart rate of 186. Eat that

  • Nicole of Raspberry Stethoscope July 2, 2012, 12:15 pm

    Also, I love your comforter! where is it from??

  • Marissa C July 2, 2012, 12:16 pm

    This is lame, but I think I will wait to find out for baby #3…I need to know what Baby #2 is (when I get pregnant!) for logistical reasons!

  • Amanda July 2, 2012, 12:17 pm

    With our first we found out together at the u/s and it was special. With the second, he was on deployment, and part of me wishes that I had waited so we could have had that moment together since he was able to be back for the birth but I wanted to know if it was another girl or not. Now, whenever we have our third I think I’ll have to know ahead of time if its three girls since our cap is three, however, if he is deployed again when the 20 week rolls around I think I may wait.

  • Verna July 2, 2012, 12:18 pm

    I can see how it would be fun to wait. I like knowing and my husband likes to know so we always find out. Thanks for sharing your “after” thoughts! Henry is such a little cutie!

  • Janae @ Bring-Joy July 2, 2012, 12:20 pm

    I never waited for any of my four kids to find out their gender & liked it that way. I liked having some time to prep mentally for who was coming. I have two boys, followed by two girls, so each time I was on pins & needles until the ultra-sound & was always so grateful to have 20 weeks to prepare for that little girl or boy.

    That said, I admire your self-control & ability to wait. I can’t imagine what a fun surprise that must have been when you did find out.

    Lovely pictures by the way. You are goregeous, & Henry is so handsome.

  • Katie @ Year of Katie July 2, 2012, 12:21 pm

    Your pictures are so beautiful! I have always thought I would want to know the sex of my baby so I could better emotionally connect, but honestly your approach to not assigning a gender to the baby prematurely is something I respect so much. And it doesn’t seem like you had too much trouble emotionally connected, and even if you did it seems like none of that matters now! Consider my mind changed (although it’s probably going to be several years until this is even something I have to think about). Your family is so wonderful. 🙂

  • colleen July 2, 2012, 12:21 pm

    We found out before delivery for all three kids. I just had to plan everything and couldn’t wait. We didn’t do anything special with annoucing the sex, but we did when we annouced we were expecting. One of my friends had the tech place the sex print in a sealed envelope. She then took the envelope to the store and asked the lady to open the envelope (after she left) and fill the box she brought in with balloons (blue or pink) and seal the box. The box was opened by her two sons and in front of her family. Blue balloons flew out and everyone was surprised – her oldest was actually upset because he wanted a sister. It was just a creative idea.

  • Kim L. July 2, 2012, 12:23 pm

    The pictures are wonderful. I especially love the one of you with Henry on your shoulder- you look so happy! We did not find out the sex of either of our children and I loved the excitement of finding out as they were delievered. And just so you know, we had one of each. A girl first and then a boy. Although my husband won’t admit he was rooting for a boy the second time around- he cried when he saw him the first time.

  • Lindsey July 2, 2012, 12:24 pm

    I 100% agree! We also waited to find out the sex of our baby (a boy!) and I have never regretted that decision. I also liked that we did that because then I couldn’t create a lot of preconceived expectations about our baby and how he/she would be. I also don’t want to find out the sex of #2 when we get to that point for the same reason – then I won’t have any preconceived expectations about our boy and his sibling. It will just happen as its suppose to!

    I was a little irritated at how many family members and friends actually got UPSET when we didn’t find out. It may have made it easier for them to buy us things (but we didn’t want pink girl things or blue boy things anyway), but why did they care so much?!

    PS: your pictures are absolutely gorgeous! 🙂

  • Megan@ The Running Doc July 2, 2012, 12:28 pm

    Whenever children enter the picture for me, I’m going to wait. Ever since I was a little girl and my Mom bought me a Magic Nursery doll where you didn’t know if it was a boy or girl until you dipped the clothing in water I knew that I would wait to find out the sex when I had a baby. Besides I like neutral colors better anyways!

  • Jenn (eating bender) July 2, 2012, 12:29 pm

    Love this post, Caitlin! I definitely think we will wait, for sure. My parents waited for me (I’m the oldest) and found out when they had my brother, so I could see that happening in our case, too.

  • emily July 2, 2012, 12:29 pm

    Caitlin, these are beautiful photos!

    I don’t think we’ll wait – patience is not my strong point! …Which maybe means I should, just to get some practice 😉

  • Lindsay July 2, 2012, 12:31 pm

    Love the pictures!!

  • Alicia July 2, 2012, 12:33 pm

    Beautiful photography! I just have to laugh at the “clear skin” means boy. That is SOOOO not the case with my pregnancy! I am definitely expecting a boy and am having worse acne than when I was a teenager.

  • Brita July 2, 2012, 12:39 pm

    So, obviously, I clicked over to see more photos of Henry and, um… the photo of him yawning? I literally went “OHH!” He’s so cute, Caitlin. Congrats again to you and Kristien for growing a seriously adorable human 🙂

  • Kendra @ My Full-Thyme Life July 2, 2012, 12:41 pm

    It is so funny that you wrote about this today! I was just about to start writing my post about this very topic after an encounter I had this weekend. A mom that I met at a child’s bday party made it sound like finding out was the worst thing a parent could do and completely took all the excitement out of the experience. As a parent who found out the first time and will find out again in a month or so, I found her comments hurtful and judgmental. I’m sure waiting is wonderful, exciting and the perfect way to do things… for some people. That is their choice and that is special. But for parents that can’t simply wait and are dying to find out the sex of their baby, it is still just as exciting! There is still so much to look forward to even if you know the sex. What will they look like? Who will they resemble? What if the technician was wrong and we end up with the opposite at birth? You still have to keep that in mind if you find out!

    I love that you waited and I love hearing why you did and how it was hard at times. I love that you and Kristien were on the same page and it was a huge part of your birth experience. I can also say the exact same things about me and my husband as well as our birth experience having found out the sex. I just wish the gal I met hadn’t taken the approach of one is better than the other. Know what I mean?

    Love your pictures! You have a lovely family, Miss Caitlin! 😉

    • CaitlinHTP July 2, 2012, 12:43 pm

      Gah. How lame! I mean, whenever you find out is special and awesome, obviously, and I think a lot of it depends on your personality. What did you say back to her?

      • Kendra @ My Full-Thyme Life July 2, 2012, 1:09 pm

        I said, “the excitement that my husband and I felt in the ultrasound room was one of the best feelings ever and I wouldn’t have done it any differently.” She said, “it’s just not the same.” I was super annoyed that she was arguing something like this! It’s so personal and it isn’t a “right or wrong” type of topic. I was still bothered by it this morning…

        • Jackie July 2, 2012, 5:34 pm

          People are so silly! We are waiting, but I totally don’t buy the “surprise” argument. A) it’s not a huge surprise, it’s 50/50. B) You are not any less surprised in the ultrasound room. and C) Having a baby is not akin to opening Christmas presents!

        • Liz A July 2, 2012, 7:05 pm

          how does she know that “it’s just not the same” if she only did it her way? gah. rude.

  • Elaine July 2, 2012, 12:45 pm

    Great post. When I was born my parents hadn’t found out my sex and the first thing my dad screamed when I was delivered was “He’s a girl!”

  • Jenny July 2, 2012, 12:46 pm

    Those newborn photos are some of the most gorgeous pics I have ever seen! Your family looks so happy, content and beautiful 🙂 congrats, again.

  • Rachel July 2, 2012, 12:49 pm

    i could barely wait until the 20wk ultrasound to find out so i know i’d never last the whole 40! i had my daughter 1st, but b/c i knew i was going to have another child, i still bought as much of the “big” stuff gender neutral (cuz i’m cheap that way ;). i like to plan & knowing each baby’s gender helped with that. and now i have one of each & i’m done w/ babies! 🙂

  • Amber @ Busy, Bold, Blessed July 2, 2012, 12:52 pm

    Those pictures are beautiful! So happy for you 😀

  • Whitney @ Whit Likes Fit July 2, 2012, 12:59 pm

    Beautiful post and pictures. Your family is adorable. No babies for me yet but when it does happen I want to know. I like the idea of talking/bonding with the little person who will be inside of me and I think that would be easier for me to do if I knew it was a boy or girl. Plus I want to decorate the nursery 🙂

    • Liz A July 2, 2012, 7:08 pm

      Caitlin still somehow managed to decorate Henry’s nursery (beautifully, might I add) without knowing he was a boy!

  • Dori July 2, 2012, 1:00 pm

    The photos are phenomenal, and Henry really is such an adorable and gorgeous baby. He is so sweet! I also love James being splayed out on the floor in the family shot.

    I don’t think I’d wait to find out the sex because I am such an impatient person, it would drive me crazy knowing I *could* know but don’t. But I totally understand wanting to wait and I applaud anyone who does it.

  • Katherine July 2, 2012, 1:00 pm

    We found out for out little girl and I do think it helped visualizing her, but I would love to wait to find out when we are ready for baby #2, but my husband has already told me there is no way he has the patience to wait. So funny….and I know he couldn’t keep it a secret from me if he found out and I didn’t. We will see when the time comes for that. Congratulations. My little one is 1 year in 9 days….it is so fast and incredible!

  • Leah July 2, 2012, 1:03 pm

    We found out that our daughter Sophie was a girl (baby #1) at our 20 week u/s but now pregnant with baby #2 we have decided to wait. I think it will be fun to have two children with two different experiences! I can completely relate to the 20 week ultrasound where I knew the sonographer KNEW and it bugged me so much to know there is someone in the world who KNOWS and I don’t lol! So far I am happy with our decision (now at 23 weeks), but somedays I think about going for a 3D u/s just to find out! Love your pictures!!!

  • Sarah S. July 2, 2012, 1:06 pm

    Love this post; it summed up all my feelings in a nutshell. We are on baby #3 right now and just had the ultrasound and chose (again) not to find out. We have two boys and still truly want to be surprised on this little baby’s birthday. My husband also announced each time and that feeling of him saying “it’s a boy” is just completely overwhelming after waiting all that time.

    Love the pictures, what a happy little family!

  • Margaret July 2, 2012, 1:12 pm

    I love your “we’re expecting a human” response! That’s exactly what I want to be saying someday. Did you actually say that out loud to people? What was their response to that?

    I’m completely with you on the not wanting to form such specific gender associations. I also would take advantage of not knowing to minimize (or at least delay) being given gender-specific items for baby. I think I’d actually use items that are allegedly for a specific gender regardless of the baby’s sex. Refusing to dress a girl in pink is kind of the same as only dressing a girl in pink, you know? But I would totally dress a baby boy in pink too.

    Re: gender vs. sex: I went to christian college with a lifestyle agreement as part of the application (including no premarital sex), so when we took intro to sociology and discussed that we’re born with a biological sex but acquire our gender from culture, we thought it was hilarious to say “we learn gender, we have sex”.

    • CaitlinHTP July 2, 2012, 1:14 pm

      Yes, and I accompanied it with an icy cold death stare. I don’t have a lot of shame when people are being rude and boundary stomping.

    • Stephanie C July 3, 2012, 1:30 am

      I’m curious where you went to school. I also had to sign a contract!

  • Lisa July 2, 2012, 1:13 pm

    The bf and I both discussed this topic for when we have kids and we both want to know ahead of time. I’m not a very patient person and I’m also a planner. It would drive me nuts not knowing!

    On top of that, I had some friends who had kids recently and didn’t find out. It was the biggest pain in the butt trying to find a gift that was generic enough.

    • CaitlinHTP July 2, 2012, 1:15 pm

      It’s very hard to find neutral clothing.

      • Jackie July 2, 2012, 5:42 pm

        It is sad that by the time the kid is old enough to be engendered, everything is even more gendered!

  • Leanne (Simplicitlee) July 2, 2012, 1:13 pm

    What gorgeous pictures! I especially love the close up one of you and Henry.

    If my husband and I have children I think we will wait to find out the sex as well. I can only imagine how it must be tough not knowing but like you said, to find out when he/she is born (& having your hubby be the one to announce it!) must be such a special moment.

  • Kristy Doyle July 2, 2012, 1:16 pm

    I have ALWAYS wanted to wait to find out! Like you, I just love the idea of my husband saying, “It’s a ___!” and it just really ups the excitement of the whole pregnancy. Trying to decide between boy names AND girl names is fun, and guessing is fun. Also, I really hate going to baby showers when people know the sex, because EVERYTHING is pink or blue. I like a variety of colors, people! Also, those photos are amazing!

  • Brie July 2, 2012, 1:18 pm

    Love the pictures!

    We found out the sex of our baby at 19 weeks. For us, it was really about connecting with the baby–we both felt like after we knew he was a boy, it became more real and concrete. We were going to have a SON, not just a baby. We’re still buying all of our large things gender neutral, too.

    Also, it was still a wonderful surprise…just a little earlier than it would have been to wait!

  • Alison July 2, 2012, 1:23 pm

    My husband and I waited too. And, like you and Kristien, wouldn’t trade our experence for the world. Funny, how our decision to keep the sex of the baby a surprise seemed to really people … like we were crazy or something. I’ll take crazy any day.

    Beautiful pictures …

  • Devonshire July 2, 2012, 1:28 pm

    wow i never really thought about all the other thoughts that go into knowing or not knowing the sex of the baby. My husband and i aren’t having kids but i get excited for my friends when they are and that’s usually the first question i ask them! I always get frustrated because i love baby shopping and it makes it easier knowing pink or blue. But i guess i never thought about the gender notions (the football player vs. ballerina), the spending (i would go overboard!) etc. Great post! Thanks for sharing!

  • Alex @ Raw Recovery July 2, 2012, 1:30 pm

    My cousin had a baby boy a few days after you did and they decided not to find out and it was a great surprise for us all. I love these pictures of all of you-especially the last one, it’s absolutely breathtaking! Congrats Caitlin!

  • Jolene (Homespun Heritage) July 2, 2012, 1:32 pm

    The Chinese gender predictor has been 100% accurate for me…even for my adoptive children…strange how that works right? So far, this is a boy according to the Chinese.

    We never find out the gender its more fun that way!

  • Ashley // Our Little Apartment July 2, 2012, 1:32 pm

    It’s such an interesting topic!

    I just want to add that we found out our baby’s gender at the ultrasound, but I think the more important gender stereotyping comes later. The way you treat your fetus in the womb has much less of an effect on the way they develop than they way you treat them as a baby and toddler.

    We call my son ‘pretty,’ I don’t make a big deal if he wants to wear my necklace or pretend to put on blush, and I certainly don’t buy him only ‘boy toys.’ We’ve become society that focuses SO much on the dichotomy of the genders, and I want to do my part to treat my son the same as I would if he were a girl! He’s nearly 2, and he’s super affectionate and sweet. I reject the idea that males can’t be nurturing or caring – I think that it’s the way parents and others treat their boys that cause them to develop that way.

    My husband is getting his PhD in psychology – so this topic is fascinating and comes up often! 🙂

    • CaitlinHTP July 2, 2012, 1:40 pm

      Great comment

    • Liz A July 2, 2012, 7:21 pm

      yes, this. great comment, Ashley!

  • Annette@FitnessPerks July 2, 2012, 1:35 pm

    Great points for sure!! I will not wait though, I think it’s generally kind of silly. And I am impatient and would want to decorate right away. Haha 😉

    Great photos!

  • Laura July 2, 2012, 1:38 pm

    I haven’t commented in about 3 years, but I just have to say Henry is GORGEOUS. So, so adorable (in the manliest way possible!) You must be incredibly proud. Alllmost convinces me to overturn my decision not to have kids! OT but I bet he will love having a dual passport when he is older.

  • Mary M. July 2, 2012, 1:46 pm

    oh my gosh…your pictures are stunning! I cannot believe how amazing they look. You have such a beautiful family and I’m so happy that everything is going great.

  • Jill Will Run July 2, 2012, 1:48 pm

    We did not find out, and it seems like it makes other people really upset. They throw things around like, “Well, how am I supposed to know what to get you?” And my mother-in-law knits a sweater for each new baby. She made us two since we didn’t find out… and I fully intend to put my baby in either one no matter what gender we get (one is navy blue, the other is pale green.)

    Your post here has kind of made me feel like I should write about this topic on my site… I’m 6.7 weeks away from my due date and finally finding out. I sometimes think not knowing the gender has made it harder for me to have any connection to this pregnancy, but since it was unplanned and I’ve struggled with depression throughout I don’t know for certain that knowing the gender would have made it easier.

  • Lindsay July 2, 2012, 1:48 pm

    We are waiting to find out the sex of our baby until s/he is born and it has really been a struggle at times. I will sometimes analyze the 21 week ultrasound and try and figure out based on skull shape what we are having and compare it to other people’s ultrasounds who know what they are having but ultimately I have no idea. For a long time I was convinced we are having a boy and then I thought girl and now I really have no idea.

    I would agree too that it’s really helped with not over buying for baby because there are so many cute boy and girl clothes but when you are forced to buy neutral I find that I have bought hardly anything.

    I am curious to see what others are predicting and am hosting a baby pool survey where everyone can guess when they will arrive and what sex they will be. It’s so exciting and I can’t believe we will find out so soon (Due July 12)

  • Ali July 2, 2012, 1:51 pm

    I’m 30 weeks pregnant and are waiting to find out the gender. I am so happy that we are waiting!

    The heartbeat has been around 145 bpm throughout the whole pregnancy, the chinese prediction says boy, had no morning sickness and have had clear skin so far. If I had to guess, I’d say boy but the suspense is killing me!

  • Amy July 2, 2012, 1:59 pm

    Love the idea of waiting to find out the sex, makes the day of labor that much more exciting. I also love that is forces a neutral decorating of the nursery. I think that is important in allowing the baby to grow into who they are without pushing society norms right off the bat.

  • Caitlyn July 2, 2012, 2:01 pm

    Your family pictures are adorable!

  • nancy July 2, 2012, 2:06 pm

    We have 3 children (all teenagers now!) and we didn’t find out gender with any of them. We were typically the only couple in childbirth class who made that choice (and we took the class 3 times). With babies 2 and 3 it would have made a lot of things easier if we had chosen to find out ahead of time. I always wanted the surprise at the end and, like you, used it as motivation during the home stretch. At that time ultrasounds were also not 100% accurate. The error rate I think was around 20%. In the event we found the gender ahead of time and it turned out to be incorrect, I did not want my baby to experience anything that felt like parental disappointment in his or her first moments of life. If I had it to do over again I think I’d do it exactly the same way. No regrets 🙂

  • Reenie July 2, 2012, 2:12 pm

    Adorable photos. I especially love the entire family ones ~ in the nursery ~ James stretched out…and Maggie close by ahhhhh!!! So cute. Love the one of you holding Henry looking down.

  • Amber K July 2, 2012, 2:18 pm

    I admire the patience it takes, but I could never wait. As sooon as it is possible, I want to know. I want to be able to feel like it’s all really real.

    And while I do just want a healthy human, I do have a preference for what I want my first to be. Not that I will love the baby any less if they aren’t the sex I feel is coming first, but I have to admit that I just do have a preference.

  • Jen July 2, 2012, 2:19 pm

    We waited to find out for all 3 of my children, and all 3 are girls 🙂
    But unlike you, my mom took me shopping for a layette for each one. We filled one cart with girls things, one with boys things, and the store held them both until I gave birth, when my mom went to pick up the right items. By the 3rd kid, our boy cart was full and the girl one was practically empty cause we had so much from our other girls. (I guess having 3 girls saves us $ in the short term, but I’m sure not in the long term!)
    If we have a 4th, I’ll probably find out: first, just to feel what it’s like to know, after 3 times the other way. Second, I just don’t want to fill up a boys cart for no reason a 4th time!

  • Lauren T July 2, 2012, 2:21 pm

    Beautiful pictures! I wish I lived in your area so I could use New Shoe Photography! I don’t think I will have the patience or will power to wait to find out if it’s a boy or girl, but you make it sounds like such a great idea! Maybe when I’m pregnant I’ll try, but I have a feeling I won’t be able to stand not knowing 🙂 I loved this blog post though, thanks for sharing!

  • Robin July 2, 2012, 2:43 pm

    Those pictures are priceless!

  • Kelly July 2, 2012, 2:58 pm

    What fabulous newborn pictures! I love them! Henry is simply precious!

    As for waiting to find out the sex…I see pros and cons to both sides. I applaud you guys for waiting mostly because I think I am way too impatient to know. I always said I would want to know immediately…but reading this post and sharing in your pregnancy experience along the way has made me rethink that choice. It has given me new things to think about.

  • Jen July 2, 2012, 3:11 pm

    Love your newborn shots!

    And I love you for defining sex vs. gender. Such a pet peeve of mine.

  • Ravyn July 2, 2012, 3:11 pm

    I love this post!! We aren’t QUITE there yet, but we’ve always agreed to wait to find out the sex of our future babies. I’ve heard friends say their pregnancy felt real once they found out (around 20 weeks), but I figure there are SO FEW moments in life that we’re truly surprised … and this seems like an awesome time to just let it happen. Such a cute family. Love the photos!

    • Natalia July 3, 2012, 8:03 am

      But isn’t finding out the gender during the ultrasound also a surprise?? It’s just at a different time, but a surprise none-the-less!

  • Cailin July 2, 2012, 3:14 pm

    Gorgeous family photos!!!!

    All of my life I thought I would surprise (in fact it wasn’t until I was in child bearing mode that I realized people found out earlier)!
    However, my husband, the excited, impatient planner, convinced me otherwise. He comes from 7 generations of boys- so we were shocked when we learned we were having a girl (shocked in a good way- I always dreamed of having girls!)—- we found out again (#2) was a girl and now again (preggo right now with #3)- another girl. Loving it!

  • Tara July 2, 2012, 3:16 pm

    I have always known I wanted to know the gender. DH was always more of a “Let’s be surprised!”…until we got pregnant, then he didn’t want to wait either. It was funny though. My family was absolutely convinced we were going to have a girl. To the point where when I called them to tell them we were most definitely having a boy, they kept saying “she” until I finally stated for the 4th time “IT’S A BOY!!!” They were so shocked!

    I’m pregnant with our second and I think we’ll find out again. For me, I like knowing so I can start deciding on what names we like and I feel like it helped us bond more when we knew it was our son in there.

    I do admire people who can wait though! I think it would be a fun surprise if you have the patience! 🙂

  • jameil July 2, 2012, 3:21 pm

    I thought almost all first babies carried high. I definitely want to be surprised on birth day! I don’t have the husband convinced but I’ve used all sorts of bargaining tactics. We’ve not yet landed on the agreement. Since we’re not even trying to have children right, there’s still time! I’m thinking secret for the first AT LEAST, we might find out for the next 1 or 2. Either way, for everyone else, I want to do the cake reveal party where the sex of the baby is revealed in the color of the cake’s interior. I think that’s so cute!

  • April July 2, 2012, 3:23 pm

    ABSOLULTEY 100% waiting to find out the sex of my baby was the BEST thing ever!!! I get chills just thinking about it:) Love this post Caitlin, so precious!!!!

  • Debbie July 2, 2012, 3:24 pm

    We did not find out the sex of either of our children…and no, our family was not happy! With my first child I was fine with it..after the ultrasound I didn’t even think much about it. She was a girl! I thought for sure I was having a boy, so I was surprised. My second was harder not to find out…my husband wanted a boy so bad and I only wanted two kids…I knew if it were a girl, he would make me do it again! 🙂 I was very stressed up to the end and then there was a delay in the delivery room…no one was telling me the sex, I kept asking “what is it?”…finally, they said it was a boy!! Relief…but of course, now I want another girl 🙂

  • Debbie July 2, 2012, 3:26 pm

    …my sister found out the sex..they told her it was a girl 100%…she gave birth to a 10 lb baby boy!

  • Julie July 2, 2012, 3:28 pm

    LOVE all the photos.

  • Lexi @ You, Me, & A World to See July 2, 2012, 3:31 pm

    I’ve obviously never been pregnant, but I’ve definitely though about the sex of the baby I may one day have! I don’t think I’d have a preference. Like you, I’d just prefer that the baby is human 😉

  • Elisabeth July 2, 2012, 3:39 pm

    Henry’s newborn photos are beautiful! I just love the one of the family in the nursery. 😀

  • Hillary July 2, 2012, 3:56 pm

    My parents waited until my brother and I were born to find out our sex, and my dad swears it was one of the best decisions he ever made. He puts it this way: how many genuine surprises can you have in your life anymore?

    That being said, I am so type-A that I think not knowing would TOTALLY freak me out! Haha.

  • Kelly July 2, 2012, 4:29 pm

    your pictures are GORGEOUS!!!

    I have the opposite opinion — I would HAVE to find out the sex!! But I love your story!!!

  • Jennie July 2, 2012, 4:30 pm

    We didn’t find out with any of our 3 kids and loved it that way each time! We are very much “planners” and prepped for “any baby” every time. Didn’t matter to us if it was a boy or a girl. We’ve got 3 boys! Congrats on adorable baby Henry!

  • Kath July 2, 2012, 4:43 pm

    I feel the same way as you on the genderization and am also not a blue vs. pink type of person (hence all the yellow + grey – which we would have probably done either day) but I am sooo glad we found out 🙂 I think it’s funny how we both feel so strongly with opposite opinions. We did what fits us best!

  • Julie July 2, 2012, 5:01 pm

    Those pics are GORGEOUS!!!

  • corrie anne July 2, 2012, 5:05 pm

    Your pictures are so stunning. Love the way you listed out the predictors. FASCINATING!! 🙂

  • Marci July 2, 2012, 5:08 pm

    I waited and thought it was the best. I always knew I wanted to be surprised. I so looked forward to the moment in delivery we all found out together. So fun!

  • Claire Zulkey July 2, 2012, 5:11 pm

    We are waiting for a lot of the same reasons you said. I kind of like knowing, too, that as neurotic I can be, there is one thing in my life that I can give up having control/knowledge about.

    Most people are telling me boy, based on how I am carrying (once even from a woman who just walked past me on the street.) I haven’t had a lot of dreams about it but I kinda just refer to it as a boy, plus we decided on a boy name a long time ago but haven’t figured out a girl yet so I figure that’s a sign.

  • dreampiano July 2, 2012, 5:11 pm

    I saw someone who really looks like you in west LA today! LOL…is it you? :)

  • Caryln @ carylnrambles July 2, 2012, 5:22 pm

    I don’t have any children, but my parents never found out if I was going to be a boy or a girl before I was born. My grandma was CONVINCED I was going to be a girl so she started to buy me tons of girl clothes. I think she even convinced my parents because they got a male cat right before I was born and gave it the name I was supposed to have if I was a boy. Grandmas intuition???

  • Joanna@DrizzleofSunshine July 2, 2012, 5:53 pm

    First off, your pictures are so beautiful. You all look great. Your photographer did a great job capturing the love. So precious!

    I am about 22 weeks pregnant now and I am so happy to read this post. When the question of whether or not my husband and I wanted to find out the sex, I was sure he wanted to know. But it turns out he was strongly for waiting. At first I was torn because I really wanted to know, but now, 22 weeks in and not knowing is actually pretty fun. I love all the guesses people make and testing out the old wives’ tales. I know the baby will get everything he or she needs in terms of cute clothes and nursery decor which really isn’t all that important I’ve learned. I love that you used it as a motivator during your labor and I will definitely do the same.

  • Amanda July 2, 2012, 5:55 pm

    My husband really wants to wait. I *think* I want to be surprised as well, but I have no idea what it will be like when we actually become pregnant.

    Lovely pictures 🙂

  • Sophie @ threetimesf July 2, 2012, 6:24 pm

    The best part about this post is the photos – they’re so adorable!!

  • Molly @ RDexposed July 2, 2012, 6:32 pm

    For reeeeal-how is this kid so cute???

  • Liz A July 2, 2012, 6:36 pm

    love this Caitlin! my husband really wants to know what our baby is (due Nov 6), but he is agreeing to wait with me, for pretty much the same reasons you wrote about. I’m so excited!

  • Rachel July 2, 2012, 7:18 pm

    Your pictures are amazing! Jen did a great job!

    I could see myself waiting to find out the sex of the child. It is one of the few things in life that you can still be surprised about, and it also heightens the anticipation (just like Christmas when you’re a child).

    Also, I really like your stance on ‘gender neutral’. I saw the movie, Brave, this weekend, and it reminded me of some of the gender stereotypes that I can’t stand! The mom is always the strict, rule-abiding disciplinarian while the dad can be the ‘child’, care-free, and the ‘fun’ one. I see this stereotype everywhere, and it drives me crazy! There’s also a commercial I keep seeing where the mom keeps saying “no” to her kids, her husband, etc. (but she says yes to the product). I really want a show, movie, or commercial where the dad is the disciplinarian while the mom is care-free. I dislike that society tells girls to grow up while boys are allowed to be boys longer (even sometimes forever). Do you have anything thoughts on some of these gender stereotypes? I’d love to see more posts on gender and stereotypes.

    • Caitlin July 3, 2012, 7:50 pm

      Did you like the rest of the movie?

      It’s all so very interesting, isn’t it? I would recommend reading Selling Girlhood and Selling Boyhood if you find the marketing of gender stereotypes intriguing.

  • Katie @ Peace Love and Oats July 2, 2012, 7:43 pm

    I definitely understand waiting, but I have no idea what I’d want to do!

  • Alison July 2, 2012, 7:45 pm

    We waited – for pretty much the same reasons as you – and I thought the anticipation was so much fun! I also love surprises and delayed gratification, so I found the wait enjoyable.

  • Julia H. @ Going Gulia July 2, 2012, 8:10 pm

    Gosh, such beautiful photography. Your family is gorgeous! I love that you wrote this post. I’ve always known I want to keep the sex a mystery, too (I’m nowhere near having kids, but I still think about that!). It’s really interesting that you guys both felt a little less connected to the baby while you were pregnant since you didn’t know if it was a boy or girl…never would have expected that!

  • Jessica Engram July 2, 2012, 8:10 pm

    Such cute pictures!! My favorites are the ones with he doggies in their too! 🙂

    • Lara July 3, 2012, 1:44 am

      Ditto! I love that you included the pups 🙂

  • Jess July 2, 2012, 8:32 pm

    Caitlin, I teared up by the end. This was such a beautiful post!! I am so far from having my own kids (not even dating someone now), but you’ve pretty much convinced me to wait if I ever do. 🙂

    Also, Henry’s adorable and those pictures of your family are wonderful!

  • Kristina July 2, 2012, 9:15 pm

    These photos are stunning! Beautiful family, and another great post.

  • Janelle July 2, 2012, 9:25 pm

    We were surprised with both of our boys, and I absolutely agree that it curbs pre-baby spending…and also meant that at the shower, we got a bunch of the very useful but somewhat boring (car seat, baby bath, change table) stuff as gifts, instead of cute baby outfits. Those came after we announced the birth of the boys!

    I remember having to work hard to convince the ultrasound tech NOT to tell us the sex. So glad we waited – best surprise yet!

  • Abby July 2, 2012, 9:52 pm

    We waited with our first and are 31 weeks into waiting for our second! I like the thought that it makes me work a little harder in labor! My husband and I and my mom all had dreams our first was going to be a boy so when the Dr. Announced we had a little girl it was the best surprise!

  • Keri July 2, 2012, 10:36 pm

    I always thought I’d want to know, but I think you’re right–the mystery will be awesome. More natural 🙂

    Also, you look gorgeous! What a beautiful, healthy family!

  • Lara July 3, 2012, 1:43 am

    I really admire your patience! We were 100% sure we wanted to find out as soon as possible (I am a little impartial to using the phrase “keep it a surprise,” since it is always a surprise, regardless of whether you find out at week 20 or week 40!).

    For us, it came down to what you wrote about envisioning our future child and feeling closer to that child during pregnancy. I know some couples don’t need that to feel close, but it really helped us. I wrote about it here (and also cited that I am a self-professed control freak): http://accordingtolara.com/2012/02/on-finding-out-babys-gender/

    We have made a conscious effort not to make too many assumptions about our son based solely on his sex, though. For example, I don’t just assume he will be straight, or like trucks, etc. We also have not named him, because we want to wait and meet him first to make sure our choice fits his little essence 🙂 Great post and I appreciate your perspective.

  • Lara July 3, 2012, 1:44 am

    P.S. Henry is freaking adorable.

  • Nicole of Raspberry Stethoscope July 3, 2012, 5:06 am

    Now that you DO have a boy, will you focus on buying more boyish items or stick to the neutral stuff? I mean, some of the gender specific items are just too cute!

    • Caitlin July 3, 2012, 7:51 pm

      It’s almost impossible to find neutral clothing post-newborn. It’s sad.

  • Charity July 3, 2012, 5:13 am

    We did find out what we’re having. Before we found out though I HATED when people would ask me what I REALLY wanted the baby to be boy or girl. I always answered with healthy. I really and truely did not care whether we had either, I just wanted a healthy baby that’s all that mattered to me.
    I will say ever since we found out it’s a boy I do not use gender generalizations to describe him. My friends do but I have never said stuff like he kicks like a soccer player. When I describe his movements I usually say stuff like he’s worming his way around in there all over the place! Or he’s kicking and hitting like he’s trying to escape through my belly button. I never do this intentionally it just comes out that way.

  • Dannii @ Hungry Healthy Happy July 3, 2012, 6:19 am

    I would wait to find out the sex of my baby for the same reasons. I would need something to keep me going through labor.

    Henry is beautiful.

  • Brittnie (A Joy Renewed) July 3, 2012, 7:57 am

    We found out the sex at the 20 week ultrasound. We then filled a pinata with color coded candy (pink/purple for girl and blue/green for boy) and had our niece and nephews bust the pinata to revel the sex. It was so fun! Girl for us!

  • Angie All The Way July 3, 2012, 8:02 am

    Yes we waited for exactly all of the same reasons you so perfectly explained. It was perfect. I was also convinced I was having a girl and felt a bit like Kristien did – momentarily on the shocked side which quickly dissolved into “that’s my baby BOY!” Because I was leaning towards girl, I didn’t have a solid name decided on for the boy, but somehow I blurted out his name right then when my husband asked me what I wanted to name him. I ended up picking one of his suggestions coupled with my father’s middle name and all of the angst not being committed to a name was over and it felt right 🙂 He’s 100% a Cameron Alexander and hearing him now start to try to say his name is so friggin cute – sounds like “anyon” in toddler speak so far.

    Your photos are beautiful – Henry is something special and you all look beautiful! 😉

  • Krista July 3, 2012, 8:23 am

    These are so gorgeous! Is there a reason Kristien doesn’t show his teeth when he smiles?

  • Sneakers2Sandals July 3, 2012, 8:31 am

    This post made me laugh and cry and laugh again. I love the photos and the story of why you waited 🙂 I’ve always told my husband that when I get pregnant I want to wait also. I always say I’ll never really know if I’ll actually be able to wait once I’m pregnant but I’m book marking this post when the temptation strikes in the future 🙂 Your reasons for waiting are SO valid and I completely agree with your comments about gender stereotypes. Just because the baby is a girl doesn’t mean she won’t want to get down and dirty in the football field or visa versa…

  • Katie July 3, 2012, 9:15 am

    We waited. It was awesome! We will definitely do it again for baby number 2. I agree it helped cut down on pre baby buying AND I also feel that I was a little less connected pre birth because I didn’t refer to the baby as a he/she. Good post. Glad you did it this way because I thought it was so fun! I also found once we got past the 20 week ultrasound then it wasn’t really an issue to not know and I didn’t think about it much. I also had a hard time picturing the baby because I didn’t know what to imagine. Congrats again!

  • Stephanie @ Food and Fitness 4 Real July 3, 2012, 9:55 am

    With my first child, we waited to find out. It was hard (and yes it drove everyone crazy, including my husband) but I LOVED the thrill of finding out at the delivery. We were convinced I was having a boy so we were shocked when my husband looked down and said “Oh my gosh, it’s a girl!” It was harder for me to connect emotionally to the baby, because in my mind it was just a baby for so long – not a boy or girl.

    The second time around my husband got his way and we found out we were having a boy. Instead of finding out in the technician’s office, we had her write in down and put it in a sealed envelope. The next morning we woke up and opened in bed – to find out we were having a boy! My daughter cried (she said she wanted a sister) but soon became excited for a little brother. I was already emotionally bonded with my little boy by the time he was born, which was good because he was a TERRIBLE infant. Now he is a sweet little three year old.

    Good thing about buying gender neutral car seat, stroller, etc. the first time is that we could use it with our son too!

  • JennF July 3, 2012, 10:00 am

    The photos are amazing. It looked like James was always too sleepy to sit up in any of them 🙂

  • Courtney July 3, 2012, 10:26 am

    I loved this post because we will find out who our little peanut is in 7 weeks, maybe less!!!

  • Katy July 3, 2012, 11:04 am

    Love the pictures! How old was Henry when you had them taken?

    • Caitlin July 3, 2012, 7:52 pm

      He was 10 days old.

  • Sally July 3, 2012, 11:35 am

    You look so beautiful in the pictures. And Henry is a really cute baby (and I rarely say that about newborns!!!).

  • Carrie July 3, 2012, 12:10 pm

    We waited with our first. At the time, I thought it was the only way to do it and I was really glad we did (thought it was a boy, it was a girl!) Second pregnancy was twins and I decided immediately to find out – multiples just changes the game too much and I really felt the need to be prepared. Now I’m pregnant again with my fourth and after doing it both ways, I decided I really wanted to know. For several reasons – I felt more bonded and emotionally connected throughout my pregnancy to my twins than I did with my first and just enjoyed pregnancy more knowing who was in there; I had three little girls who were dying to know if they were getting a brother or sister; and finally, this pregnancy was a total surprise so once again, I felt the need to be prepared (by the way, I was convinced it would be another girl and it’s a boy!) 7 more weeks to go to meet him and we all are so excited to welcome him into the family. Knowing he’s a boy makes the surprise of the pregnancy make sense – he completes our family!

  • Jaclyn July 3, 2012, 12:53 pm

    I think it’s cool that you decided to wait! Although personally, I couldn’t do it. My hubby and I are expecting a little bundle in October (YAY) and we both knew that we wanted to find out at our 20-week ultrasound (which for us was actually at 21 weeks). So we were on the edge of our seats (for him, literally, for me, figuratively) the entire time until the tech told us that it’s a GIRL. I was shocked because I thought it was a boy, but knowing that she’s a little girl, I feel the way you did about Henry when you finally found out – it was just meant to be this way. I have definitely felt that knowing she’s a girl has helped me connect with her more, and while I do understand where you’re coming from with not wanting to assign her personality characteristics just by knowing the sex, I don’t think I’ve really done that. When she kicks I imagine a little soccer player! Congratulations on Henry, he’s gorgeous.

  • Bobbie July 3, 2012, 1:22 pm

    We waited with all 3 of ours and I loved it that way. For our first our family and friends were so annoyed by this and we got lots of yellow and mint green at my shower. I would have preferred to just not get clothing other than onesies and such but we got lots anyway. Shortly after my daughter was born my husband ran right out to get some pink outfits b/c we just knew she would be so pretty in pink 😉 Over 7 years later and we now have 3 girls! Would have loved to have a boy thrown in the mix but we are done now and I know that our girls were meant for us!! Of course 😉

  • Jennifer (take the day off) July 3, 2012, 3:55 pm

    We chose to find out at 22 weeks, but wanted it to be a little more personal and special than having the ultrasound tech tell us at the doctor’s office.

    Here is how we planned to do it:

    And here is what we found out!:

    no matter how you do it, the day he/she is born or beforehand, it is so special and unforgettable!

  • zoe July 3, 2012, 4:33 pm


    these photos are gorgeous. henry has some old soul eyes, no doubt. he’s precious. sending positive vibes and love to you all. congratulations 🙂

  • Diana @ frontyardfoodie July 3, 2012, 6:57 pm

    I definitely wasn’t patient enough to wait to find out at delivery since there’s an option to find out sooner.

    Either way, you do find out one way or another…twenty weeks can make a difference or not. I knew immediately with my first that I was having a boy but with the second I was certainly confused. The symptoms were the same but my belly was slightly different. Turned out to be a boy as well!

    I like know before the little person arrives for the sake of preparation but think that gender neutral clothes are probably the cutest haha.

  • Heather Eats Almond Butter July 3, 2012, 8:06 pm

    Gorgeous. 🙂

  • You Could Look HERE July 4, 2012, 1:13 am

    What a information of un-ambiguity and preserveness of
    valuable familiarity concerning unexpected emotions.

  • Claire July 4, 2012, 3:49 am

    We waited to find out with all three of our kids and wouldn’t do it any other way, it’s the best surprise ever!

  • Michelle July 4, 2012, 6:32 am

    We waited to find out and I am glad we did.
    Lots of gender neutral clothing and a jungle animal themed room.

    My husband announced the sex after a very short / 6 week early labour and incorrectly announced we had a boy. A few minutes later one of the nurses told us we had a beautiful healthy baby girl.

    It all happened so quickly and she was only on me for such a short time and he mistook swollen genitals for boy bits.

    It is quite funny now and I don’t want to find out when we come to #2 either I imagine my husband will check more closely before announcing next time around.

    I was convinced we were having a boy as well so it was a bit of a shock when the nurse said.

  • Morgan J. July 4, 2012, 11:34 am

    At first when I found out you were pregnant and didn’t want to know the sex I was like…WHAT?? crazy lady! Mostly because it’s just not something most people do :] But now that you mention the reasons it would only make sense to me that when I have a child I wouldn’t want to find out the sex either

    You’re pictures are beautiful!

  • Anna July 6, 2012, 2:08 pm

    Hi! Not sure where to post this comment but I was wondering what happened to your mind/body after baby updates? I know a lot of ppl were touched by and drawn to your update from week 1, and I wanted to know if there was a deliberate reason (other than no time, which of course is understandable) that a new post-post hasn’t shown up. I have wondered if you are back to “normal” (or a new normal) and feel fear that you’ll have negative responses to having bounced back so quickly? Or if you’re struggling and not sure how to discuss it. Either way, your candid and engaging style always has me coming back for more (mom to an 11 month old, Elliot). No pressure for a post-post but would love to know if the omission is intentional!

    • Caitlin July 6, 2012, 2:16 pm

      Elliot is a cute name 🙂

      I’m planning on making them monthly updates, so stay tuned for an update next week!

  • Ginger July 6, 2012, 2:20 pm

    Such a joy reading about another couple that waited to find out! I have many of the same “feelings” that I may be having a girl… Glad to know I should be working a little harder on my boy name list…

  • Hannah July 9, 2012, 6:02 pm

    Just wanted to say Henry is precious, and your nursery looks amazing. I love the walls!

  • Jessi July 12, 2012, 9:56 pm

    Such a sweet post! I want to wait to find out when we have our first and my husband wants to know. Still working on him. =)

  • Vicki July 23, 2012, 7:41 pm

    While I don’t have any baby plans for the immediate future, I think I’d wait to find out the sex. There are so few things in life that genuinely surprise people anymore, with pregnancy being one of them. Also, love all the professional pics!! So precious!

  • Traci July 29, 2012, 10:46 am

    I’m a long time reader of your blog, Caitlin, but I’m not sure that I have ever commented. I feel inclined to do so because this is such a beautiful post! The photos are wonderful–props to the photographer and your family. I also love the nursery walls.

    Thanks for sharing!

  • Becky January 13, 2013, 7:55 pm

    Thanks for sharing this. We have been trying to decide if we should find out or not (never wanted to… but ppl keep telling us how much “easier” it will make preparations). Our own reasons for not wanting to find out are confirmed after reading that it really does add so much to an already special experience. Also, we hadnt thought about having Husband tell Wife! What a special idea. Thanks again.

    • Caitlin January 13, 2013, 10:56 pm


  • Ilane January 19, 2013, 5:50 pm

    These pictures are gorgeous!! What a pretty family!! God bless you all.

    Do you remember where you bought the star knobs for the dresser? And what about the diaper changer where Henry is on sleeping like an angel? I loved the blue and white cover!! Thanks! 🙂 🙂

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