After I wrote What I Learned After 1,000 Days of Marriage, a few people commented that the Husband should write a similar post. So – we sat on the couch and I typed as he shared his insights. Here’s what Kristien learned after 1,000 days of being married to crazy old me. Lord help him.
1- Try not to go to bed angry.
2 – Never let money control you or your relationship.
3 – Share the remote.
4 – Clean, cook, or take out the dogs even when it’s not your turn. She’ll appreciate it more than you realize.
5 – Be malleable with your schedule. If you go into a day with a set plan, be open to changing your plans if your partner has other things in mind.
6 – Listen with your ears and your eyes.
7 – Neither person should ever make unilateral decisions.
8 – Encourage, support, and be excited to take part in your partner’s hobbies, even if it isn’t your thing.
9 – Never say, "Is it that time of the month?"
10 - Kiss and hug. All the time.
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I love this! I really agree with never going to bed angry! its it so important! we have only been married 3 months but I already agree with so many of these!
haha! Looks like you paid attention to your #1!
xoxo
That is awesome — it’s clear your hubby is supportive by participating in this awesome (and helpful) relationship series:)
I like that Kristien mentioned “hugging and kissing”…it’s so important on so many levels. I remember in grad school, in my marriage and family class, hearing that on average after 10 years of marriage, couples on average only touch 13 times per week! SAD!!!
that is sooo sad. going to go hold the husbands hand!
Love the “listen with your ears AND eyes” one. SO important. I think I need to tell my fiance that.
I have had trouble describing that that is what I need, but that is the perfect way to work it.
um, hi, why are you guys so adorable??
Love it! Especially #6. If you’re listening, the rest will be known.
#4 made me smile. It really is those small, unexpected things that make me the happiest. When I come home and my boyfriend has made the bed, I want to pounce him. Weird, but true.
Definitely kiss and hug all the time! Great list!
awwww
I already shared the first 1000 days of marriage post with my boy of 6 years. He said he liked it but he wished there was one from the guys perspective. Yes!
There you go
Thanks for reading!
Now I’m curious to ask my hubs what he’s learned from being married to me!*
So cute!
this was great to see the husband’s point of view and thoughts! what really strikes me is the difference in communication styles: the husband is a man of few words, above, while your post was much more involved and detailed – which is very representative of a lot of couples!
hahah seriously. i’m so wordy.
Love this! I shared your 10 things with the husband, now I’ll have to show him Kristien’s
Love this post from the husband’s point of view!
This is great!
Numbers 8 & 10 make me smile.
Hahahaha, #9!
I have a friend whose boyfriend actually knows when it’s about that time. And my dad can usually tell for the three women in our house. Almost scary, but when you’re around someone for a long time, you kind of figure things out.
I totally agree with #6 – listening w/ your ears AND eyes is so very important. I am going to ask my husband his thoughts on this topic. Great idea for a follow up post.
love this! although, i have to say i agree with your #10 more than the husband’s #10
Sweet and to the point, I like it! I’m going to have to interrogate my hubby on what he has learned. Fun!
#9! Bahaha!!!
listen with your eyes too, love it! I have always valued people who intently look when they are listening to you, I think its a true sign they care.
Agreeeee
Go him ;D
AWWW that is awesome!
Too cute!
your husband is a very very smart and wise man! You know what they say…happy wife happy life.
It’s always that time of the month!
Ha ha…. I tell my boyfriend this!!
Bawhahah yes.
The husband sounds like he’s a pretty smart cookie.
And he has a English accent and everything. And he’s a doctor.
*jealous*
So adorable… I have a major crush on your hubby! x
Awwwww! What a sweet husband
good man k, good man!!! so funny bc i always tell my bf listen to me pls…and look at me! lol and also i always tell him…i want more hugs and kisses. but he’s the one who actually encourages us to make mutual decisions!
Awww, what a sweetie.
Looks like the hubby has it cracked- he sounds like a great guy! Also isn’t it funny the difference in length of both of your posts–> boys will be boys!
Hi Caitlin,
Since the last 1 week, I get this message pop up and need to answer YES everytime I am on your blog..
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Any issue on explorer (or something) here?
Hmmm I will ask my web guy – so sorry!
Sounds Like you learned a lot! lol
Aww!
Please teach my husband numbers 4 and 9!
Email him the list
awe i love what the husband learned! i chuckled when I read “never ask if its that time of the month” but its so sweet that he said kiss and hug all the time, and listen with your eyes and ears…great things to know! i hope my husband knows this stuff too! haha
Number 9 made me chuckle. Love this post!
Love 1 and 10! A wise married couple gave my boyfriend and I advice: never go to bed angry and without kissing each other. I can’t promise I live up to that yet. It does run through my head when I’m breaking that tip at least.
10 things learned is impressive! After reading this, I asked my boyfriend what he had learned from being in a relationship with me…it took him two hours to come up with five things haha
And then he said “Did I pass your quiz?” 
Heheh I think he passed! Keeper.
How sweet! Great list!
Kristien, I hope for your sake that you learned #9 quickly. That is one of my least favourite questions ever.
Love both of your lists
I love the Never say, “Is it that time of the month?” I want to kill my husband when he asks that. (He is usually right, which makes me more angry.) But woah if you want to play with fire ask me that question, you never know if your going to get anger or tears. I think my hubby thinks like to poke at me. I’m glad your hubs gets it. Good for you Kristien!
Rawrrrrrrrr I agree.
YES! Similar deal: I HATE it when guys say things like, “you are just being irrational.” do.not.discount.my.feelings.
I told my bf early on that that phrase is a trigger for me and to just not say it – even if he’s thinking it, even if I *am* being irrational! To his credit, we’ve been together 7 years and he’s never said that to me (well, not since that first time that led me to tell him how I felt about it!).
haha! men are so succinct
i like #’s 9 &10
SO cute.
Haha! Love the list! So typical of a guy to concisely develop a top ten list that is very accurate.
I think this is great. One of the most important things hubby and I learn (continuously) is that men and women THINK differently. It is very important to check in with the other person and say “Is this what you meant, because this is what I heard?” That, right there, can save a ton of disagreements and confusion. Love that your hubs thinks kissing and hugging alot are important. We do lots of hugging but the hubs is not a big kisser. We do make sure to kiss goodbye every day and say goodnight to each other every night.
I like it. I like it a lot. and we’ve been married for 13 years.
Smart guy you have there
I think my husband would agree with those as well. Especially the hugging and kissing. Even if we are just lounging in front of the TV we are usually holding hands or snuggled up close. Non-sexual physical contact is so important.
hahaha to #9!! Mike pulled that one time when I was giving him a hug after I realized how bitchy I had been and it totally ruined the moment.
Love #9!! Ha!
Totally agree – sorting arguments out before bed is so so important!
These posts were a great idea! And congratulations on 1000 days of marriage!
That man is S.M.A.R.T. His ten list is probably a large reason why your #10 is on YOUR list! What a keeper…
Oh, he’s good! Great post!
Love the guys perspective! I am off to ask my hubby what he learned from our marriage..:)