i suggest everytime her husband does the fat talk, she replied with a compliment for her husband that way he’ll be more confident!:)

my ex boyfriend would fat talk. and he still does, though he doesn’t realize he does it. he just talks about how much weight he needs to lose all the time, and makes jokes about it a lot. he says he is “fat and sassy” and he’s teasing and hurting himself.
i never figured out how to get him to stop but when we were together, i would fat talk a lot because i was battling an eating disorder. he’s one of those people i just have to say SHUT UP to, because he just doesn’t get it.

I think the statement about mimicking in a relationship is true of many relationships, not just romantic ones but friendships too. People who spend a lot of time around each other tend to rub off on each other whether they know it or not. I think the best way to deal with the fat talk issue with her husband is to just talk to him. Because she knows she was a big influence in starting the fat talk, it doesn’t have to be in an accusatory way, but rather “I know you picked this habit up from me and I’m trying very hard to stop and I need your support.”

My husband is constantly putting himself down when he talks about his weight. We’ve been together for three years now and a few years before I met him he had lost over 100 pounds. He has kept it off for so long but keeps talking about how disgusting he is…. I think he is at a healthy weight for his body and that he shouldn’t lose any more but he won’t hear it…I don’t know what to tell him anymore because he certainly won’t listen to me. Yes, help?!

I totally agree with Jassy. Give him some confidence, girl! Tell him a shirt looks amazing on him (only if it does, you don’t want to overload with fake compliments). Tell him it’s not “fat”, you like the fact that he’s more buff/less scrawny now. If he really does get down on himself for his weight, offer to go to the gym, or workout together (or even just go for a walk every night). Do something that’s both fun and healthy (physically and emotionally) for you. Best of luck!!

I think this is a good topic because there’s this impression that men are naturally comfortable with themselves and never ‘fat talk.’ I think just as bad habits can rub off on people, good habits can too. So perhaps if Adrienne continues this trend and makes a point to say something to her hubby, it will stop.

I think this can also relate to kids who are begining to fat talk. I notice it more and more (my little brother) 😕

I am not a fat talker, but I have to say that I used to be. I don’t think I rubbed off on my husband, but I do think he is noticing imperfections in himself more lately. I get up and workout early. I feel good about myself and I think that is rubbing off on him. I cook healthy and he has started to become aware of calories/fat/nutrition. He has started working out now too. I think it is important for people to know that baby steps are ok when it come to transforming into a healthier lifestyle. You don’t have to wake up one day and train for a marathon. It can be as simple as noticing what you eat or doing a little fifteen minute workout of something that you like that is physical. I love that my husband is starting to work on his own stuff. He is NOT over weight at all. He just wants to feel healthier and that is a good thing.

My fiance is not a “fat talker” but more of a “thin talker”. He wants to gain muscle, but in a healthy way. I am very fortunate to be marrying someone who is just as much into healthy living as am. We work out on a regular basis, cook healthy meals together and keep our health a huge priority.

I think if the reader above just simply stops the fat talk and replaces it with positive thoughts, her husband will eventually mimic that attitude in the same way he previously mimicked her “fat talking”. It can be contagious in the same way. Replacing every negative thought he says with a positive one will eventually wear on him.

My boy is actually really good with not fat talking, but lately he has been talking a bit about losing some weight. Not in a negative way though, just in a way that he recognizes he might want to change a few things.

He’s open to going to healthier restaurants with me and open to the healthy meals I make, and he’s also going to go to Bikram Yoga with me tonight! I can’t wait to see how he does.

caitlin thank you for bringing this up! my hubby is a fat talker….he can be worse than women and i hate it. i chaulk it up to the fact that he used to race bikes and racers are all so crazy about weight when racing. sometimes i want to scream when he says he is fat-he is in such good shape it is unbelievable!

Wow, this is interesting. I never thought about MEN participating in fat talk! I’m way more into health than my bf, and it used to bug me SO much and I always nagged him to exercise, which I later would feel bad about. I finally backed off, and although he still doesn’t have the BEST habits, I can see improvements. I just try to encourage him to keep going along the way!

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