When I speak to younger kids, I understand that I’ve got to keep ‘em interested or I will lose them to a flurry of whispers and giggles. One way to hold the attention is to keep them engaged. I pass out index cards and have them write one positive thought and one negative thought that they’ve had about themselves. Their positive and negative thoughts can be about their appearance or personalities.
I ask for volunteers to share their thoughts at different points in the presentation.
One of the things that I noticed this morning is how, when we’re discussing negative thoughts, everyone says, ‘I am weird’ or ‘I am different’ or ‘I don’t look like everyone else.’ But then, when we discuss positive thoughts, everyone says, ‘I am UNIQUE!’ or ‘I am a limited edition!’ or ‘I am an individual.’ An interesting dichotomy, huh? Wanting to be like everyone else but knowing that being unique is desirable, too? That was always the hardest thing for me during my middle school years… Wanting to stand out but blend in, wanting to be accepted but wanting to be myself.
I think it’s always nice for the girls to hear that everyone feels a bit ‘weird’ every now and then. Even the ‘cool’ girls who seem so pulled together admitted to feeling out of place sometimes. It’s interesting to think how a roomful of girls can all feel so alone at the same time, huh?
My negative thoughts of the day:
I am lazy and am not getting enough done. My e-mail is imploding.
Why does Henry keep getting the sniffles? I should clean better; I’m clearly doing something wrong.
Step 1: My negative thoughts are ridiculous. I am doing a good job, and I need to learn how to relax more so I can be happier overall. Everything important will get done. The world will not end if I have to push a deadline or two. And babies get sick; that’s what babies do. I can’t control everything that happens to him.
Step 2: Positive thought time!
I am a hard worker.
I am a good momma.