When we moved to Charlotte, the Husband took up running.  He had never really joined me on runs before, but suddenly, he wanted to run with me all the time.  At first, I really liked having him around for my runs.  After a few months, however, I started to get really cranky when we ran together and couldn’t figure out why. 


One day, I realized what was bothering me – he ran about three steps in front of me.  All the time.  At the same pace.  But just three steps ahead.  And it really, really fried me. 


That’s when I realized:  I have totally irrational ‘rules’ about running with a buddy.  None of my ‘rules’ were ever a problem before because my two other weekly running buddies (Megan in Orlando and Nicole in Charlotte) happened to operate under the exact same rules as I did.   And the other buddies that I ran with regularly pretty much followed the same procedures.

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Maggie is a good buddy, although she is not a good running buddy.


Anyway – here are the five running with a buddy rules that I follow – whether rational or not, they’ve been ingrained in me since I began to run.  I’m not sure where I picked up these preferences (oh, and for what’s it’s worth, I explained Rule #1 to the Husband and he happily obliged his crazy wife, and now we run quite happily together).


Rule #1:  Run next to your buddy, at the slower person’s pace.


If you’re running together, I think buddies should run next to each other.  The reason that I hated the Husband running slightly ahead of me is because it made me feel incredibly rushed.  It also made it difficult to talk (see Rule #2).  I am also a firm believer that running buddies should run at the slower person’s pace.  If you want to work hard and push yourself, you should probably do it alone so there’s no pressure on your buddy to keep up (if they don’t feel so great that day or are sore, running too fast can lead to injury).

Rule #2: Agree to either talk the entire time or listen to music.


A long time ago (pre-blog), a friend asked me to go on a run with her.  I showed up without my iPod because I thought we were ‘running together.’  She had music and popped in her earbuds.  Either you both run with music or you talk to each other.  And personally, I prefer to talk to my buddy.  Music is for solo runs!  Every buddy that I’ve ever ran with can attest that I love to hear every single intimate detail of their life on our runs.  Just keep up the constant stream of chatter so I can forget how much my legs hurt!


Rule #3: Don’t cut corners.


Okay – this is one of my slightly crazier rules.  If you head out with a buddy and agree to run a certain distance together, don’t cut corners while the other person runs the complete distance… meaning, if the turn-around point is just up ahead, don’t say, “Oh, you run up and turn around, I’ll wait right here for you.”  This one drives me BONKERS because it makes me want to slack, too.  Of course, if you really need a break, ask for it (I am more than happy to walk; see Rule #4), but there’s just something about cutting corners that gets to me.


Rule #4: Be willing to walk.


I have ran a few times with people who made me feel really, really bad about taking walking breaks.  I would say, “Whew! I really need to walk,” and they would groan or roll their eyes.  I am a HUGE fan of walking breaks and, quite honestly, simply need to regularly take breaks.  Again, I don’t think buddy runs are for pushing yourself, speed-wise.  If you’re running with a friend, it’s a social experience!  Don’t make them feel bad for walking. 


Rule #5:  Don’t make a promise you can’t keep.


It inevitably happens… you train with a buddy for weeks on end, decide to sign up for the same race, and then, in a moment of excitement, decide to RUN THE RACE TOOOOGETHER!  The Race Promise.  Now, I have ran many races with buddies and many races solo, and I have to say – it’s really fun both ways.  But it’s important to discuss the down-and-dirty details of your race plan with your buddy in advance.  How fast do you want to go?  What if one of you gets cramps?  What if one of you gets runners’ trots and needs to spend 15 minutes of the race in the bathroom?  Is the other person going to wait?  Basically, decide in advance in what situations you will or will not abandon each other – otherwise (trust me), there will be some hard feelings!  Also, if you are running a race together, cross the finish line together.  Don’t be that person who ditches their buddy with 100 yards to go and sprints across the finish line first!


Want more?


Do you have (occasionally crazy) rules about running with a buddy?  Have you ever made the Race Promise with a buddy and regretted it?



  • Priyanka December 19, 2011, 7:26 pm

    I hate it when the husband does that to me too. I mean if you are fast and have a good pace just go ahead, I have no problems with him running way past me but just few steps ahead is irritating.

    Did you mean to add Jen (?) and Emily’s picture instead of Nicole and Megan?

  • Army Amy* December 19, 2011, 7:39 pm

    I agree that a race strategy is a must! When my husband and I ran a full marathon together, we did every step together. When his foot hurt, I slowed down. When I wanted to quit, he gave me a pep talk. We did it together! Shorter races though, all bets are off, and it’s every runner for herself/himself.*

  • Morgan December 19, 2011, 7:43 pm

    I never run with my husband for the same reason, plus he is really fast and I always feel like I am slowing him down.

    I strongly believe in the rules you posted. I recently ran my first half marathon with a friend and we actually discussed splitting up beforehand because we did not want to slow one another down. We actually ended up finishing together at exactly the same time, which was AWESOME, but I am glad neither one of us felt like we were being held back. Running a race with someone like that is really amazing, the extra motivation is so helpful.

  • CJ @ http://healthy-happy-whole.com/ December 19, 2011, 7:46 pm

    this is a really interesting post because i never really considered the “rules” of running with a buddy. I do have to say though, the first race I “ran with” my husband, he totally ran like 4 minutes faster than i did but was waiting for me at the finish line. the second time we ran together i explained how that made me feel and i was just recovering from my ED and got the OK to run so he agreed to go at my slow pace and finish together. he held my hand as we crossed the line and it meant the world. even though my time was not the best, the moment made up for it. 🙂

    • CaitlinHTP December 20, 2011, 8:50 am

      Awwww what a guy!!

  • tracey December 19, 2011, 7:48 pm

    Yay for walk breaks!! I love that you talk about the need for walk breaks. I feel so inferior to other runner blogs I read because I am an interval runner. But you know what – those walk breaks helped me take 11 minutes off my half marathon time, so meh to anyone who rolls their eyes at the mere mention of a walk break!

  • AmandaonMaui December 19, 2011, 7:49 pm

    I say that these are good rules. They seem like common courtesy to me, but as we are all learning courtesy is often not so common.

    Interesting thing about Rule #1: in Ham Radio practice, CW (or Morse Code) users have the rule that you only transmit as quickly as the slowest person.

  • Sana December 19, 2011, 7:53 pm

    The ex boy and I had a great system, we would run together but he would be ahead and I would have the direction of the run written on a post it. He would be within ear shot if I got in trouble but I would still have a target to chase after and it would be a fun puzzle because I would be focused on getting to the right street.
    sigh. so much fun!

    • CaitlinHTP December 20, 2011, 8:51 am

      That is a fun system!!! I like that idea.

  • Ashley @ This Is The Place December 19, 2011, 7:55 pm

    Interesting. I agree with the 1, 3 and 5 but not 2 and 4. As a faster runner, I think running together is about compromise. On long runs, Husband runs ~10min/pace when he runs alone; I run about 8:40. We try to compromise around 9:30. Honestly, slowing down to a 10min pace hurts my joints. And I love running with faster people because it pushes me harder and makes me run faster. That’s how I get better!

    And walking…only if you get permission first. If I plan on running with a friend, I expect running!

    • CaitlinHTP December 20, 2011, 8:51 am

      I love it when the girl is faster than the guy 🙂

  • Christine @ BookishlyB December 19, 2011, 8:00 pm

    I have a really hard time running with people- I think I feel too much pressure to be a good/fast running buddy. I can’t wait to make my chocolate lab into a running partner, though. He has a few months left to go, and then it’s on!

  • Katie @ Peace Love & Oats December 19, 2011, 8:15 pm

    I definitely agree with these rules. If you agree to run with someone, it’s a social experience. If you need a serious training run, then do it alone or have a specific running buddy who goes at your pace and you know that you two are going to push each other.

  • Brooke @ sweats & sweets December 19, 2011, 8:25 pm

    Love these rules! I run solo just because I’m used to it, but when a friend joins me for a race we basically follow the same rules.

  • Maddie December 19, 2011, 8:31 pm

    Caitlin this post was awesome! Thank you! I will keep these rules in mind when I run with my buddy tomorrow.

  • Jamie @ Don't Forget the Cinnamon December 19, 2011, 8:41 pm

    I’m 100% with you on the running next to each other and music vs. talking rules. But, I have to disagree with the walking breaks one! When I run with people who do want to take walking breaks, I often get frustrated because when I start running again after walking, I majorly cramp up and have a very difficult time with the rest of my run!

  • Laine December 19, 2011, 8:41 pm

    This goes for hiking, too. I hike with a friend who turned out to be someone who hikes much faster. The first hike I tried to keep up and was miserable. The second hike, I just let her go ahead since it was clear she didn’t want to hike at my pace.. The third hike, I invited a different friend. Much better!

  • Sarah December 19, 2011, 8:47 pm

    I disagree with the walking breaks and the music one. I really get frustrated with people who want to walk. Its best to pick people who are similar to you in terms of talent level/ speed so this isnt an issue. The other one is more personal. I almost always run w/ my best friend so we tend to just switch off between music and talking throughout the run. But we kinda have a mind meld that enables us to know when the other person wants to talk vs. listen to music.

  • Jacalyn December 19, 2011, 8:52 pm

    Never thought about these, but I feel like they will make me a better running buddy!

  • Lee December 19, 2011, 9:05 pm

    I disagree with the music one. I like to talk and then, when the run is getting tough, switch to music.

    • CaitlinHTP December 20, 2011, 8:52 am

      Oooo good point. Sometimes music is better than convo!

  • Lane December 19, 2011, 9:08 pm

    These rules pretty much follow my own. I have had some awesome running buddies in my life and some have really pushed me hard. I had a great friend a few years ago that trained for a triathlon with me and wasn’t even participating in the race! Now that is dedication. I also must admit, that I have difficulty running a race with a running buddy. I don’t know why, but I find it difficult to focus and really prefer to go it alone.

  • Annette @ EnjoyYourHealthyLife December 19, 2011, 9:13 pm

    I don’t have any rules for running with buddies-prob because I don’t do it much. Hah. But you have good points!

  • Jes Suazo December 19, 2011, 9:17 pm

    Definitely not crazy! My running buddy, Caroline, and I have the same unspoken rules. When one of us wants to walk, we have to call a reasonable stop & start landmark. We also run at the same pace & no music allowed.

  • Eleah December 19, 2011, 9:24 pm

    That looks like Emily from DG…

    • Emily Malone December 20, 2011, 1:22 am

      That’s me! 🙂 Caitlin and I used to run together sometimes in Charlotte.

  • Chelsea December 19, 2011, 9:29 pm

    I complleteely agree! I always play music minus the headphones when I run with friends at a quite enough sound where I don’t have to talk over it if we’re talking, but if we get in the zone and stop talking at least we’re shoulder to shoulder with music playing to stop the awkward silence. I’m the friend that’ll push you to just never stop, but I’ll walk if I know you really want to.

  • michelle marie December 19, 2011, 9:29 pm

    my boyfriend runs about one step in front of me– it’s infuriating. i attribute it to masculine pride: he doesn’t want to be seen as slower than a/his girl. i’ve learned to just get over it and enjoy the run– not every tiny thing has to be a power struggle!

  • Cara December 19, 2011, 9:57 pm

    I absolutely agree with all of these, def not crazy rules!!

  • Christie December 19, 2011, 9:59 pm

    I like and definitely agree with these. I have to be honest- #3… really?! That really surprised me that someone would do/say that. Kinda made me laugh.

    My husband used to occasionally run with me and would do the same thing. I always knew that if I pushed the pace he wouldn’t be able to keep up (which I would do to get him in check)! 😉

  • Anne December 19, 2011, 10:03 pm

    These are all so true! Ive never run with anyone except hubby, and he always does the three steps ahead thing too. Drives me nuts! We usually run with music, but we’re joining a training group for our first marathon, so I’m interested to see how that will play out (pun intended…)

  • Alexa @ SimpleEats December 19, 2011, 10:23 pm

    I always say you have to run next to me, not in front in me!

  • Rebe December 19, 2011, 10:24 pm

    I rarely comment but your rule about running in line with your buddy is completely one of my “rules” but it pertains to anywhere! I have a friend who always walks 3-4 steps ahead when we’re going to a restaurant or wherever. She always has to do this weird head tilt thing to listen to what I’m saying so I’ve stopped talking when she does that and call her out on it by saying “I’ll just tell you at dinner b/c I feel like I have to yell for you to hear me when you’re walking ahead of me”. Usually she gets the hint b/c I make it sound like it’s *me* with the problem but … the restaurant/spa/store/car will still be there if you walk 3 steps “slower” to walk with me!

    • CaitlinHTP December 20, 2011, 8:53 am

      The thing is that they dont have to walk or run any slower because if they are constantly 3 feet in front, they are moving at the same pace!! GAHHHHH

  • Alyssa @ Don't Look Down December 19, 2011, 10:39 pm

    My boyfriend would always run in front of me too and it drove me so nut-so that I don’t like to run with him anymore.
    I agree with all these rules although I think it is great to run with faster friends to push yourself sometimes. As far as walking breaks I think it is great when my friend would push me to run a little longer before I started walking but I definitely would not want to feel bad if I had to walk.

  • Willow @ My Own Trail December 19, 2011, 10:43 pm

    So true! These are the same rules I follow. There are certain people I would love to run with, but I know I can’t because they would never follow any of these rules. That just makes for a terrible run, and I would rather run solo than run with a bad running buddy.

  • Kate December 19, 2011, 10:46 pm

    I had just started running when I signed up for my first half-marathon with a friend. I trained for a few months and we ran together occasionally, but she didn’t train for it and when it came to race day, she assured me it was okay to split up, so we did- but I felt so bad about it! I do wish I had a running buddy, though. It can get so lonely to do long runs by yourself!

  • Gina @ Running to the Kitchen December 19, 2011, 11:23 pm

    I don’t normally run with people but I agree on all of these for the few times I do. Especially #1. That frustrates me to no end!

  • Becky December 19, 2011, 11:24 pm

    Re: Rule #1 – it’s called one-stepping (or, it sounds like in this case, three-stepping). And in collegiate and professional running communities, it is a major no-no!

    • CaitlinHTP December 20, 2011, 8:54 am

      SEE! I didn’t make this up! LOL

  • Khushboo December 19, 2011, 11:46 pm

    I am a solo runner but I agree with every one of these! I think the reason I prefer running alone is because I don’t want that pressure of feeling like I’m slowing them down.

  • Katie December 19, 2011, 11:53 pm

    OMG YES on rule #1!!! I introduced my former roommate to running (as in she never ran for exercise until she lived with me). I am a slow runner but she was slower at first and I always used to slow down and run with her or take walking breaks with her. As she got faster she started running ahead of me all the time and it drove me nuts to the point that I never wanted to go running with her. It made me feel like we were competing (and I was always losing) and it took the fun out of the run. So I totally understand how you feel and completely agree.

  • allison December 20, 2011, 12:15 am

    I. love. your. rules.

  • alex m December 20, 2011, 1:32 am

    This will be a good reminder for the half marathon I’m doing next year with a friend!

  • Jennifer December 20, 2011, 2:12 am

    #1 made me laugh. My boyfriend does the exact same thing, except that when we hit a hill the 3 steps ahead turns into about 30 steps ahead. At first I used to push myself to catch up to him but then when I did he would just accelerate again! That drove me crazy! Now I just go at my own pace and he slows down or waits for me every so often. I still like running with him :).

    I completely disagree with #4 though. I would never run with anyone who insisted on taking walking breaks. Running is running. It is not walking. Caitlin, you are a non-overweight 20 something year old woman who has been exercising regularly for years so I don’t think that you ‘need’ to take walking breaks when running 3 miles. Unless you have a medical problem the only explanation for this is that you’re not willing to push yourself at all (which is kind of what running and other endurance sports are all about). Note: I am talking about your running pre-pregnancy.

    • Amber @ Busy, Bold, Blessed December 20, 2011, 7:57 am

      Whoa now… people are all at different levels and run for different reasons. If you’re running to enjoy yourself and you feel like talking a walk break that doesn’t mean “you’re not willing to push yourself at all”. I think running preferences should be discussed by buddies beforehand, and if you’re not willing to walk, then don’t run with someone who likes to.

    • CaitlinHTP December 20, 2011, 8:58 am

      I don’t ‘need’ to take walking breaks even now (I ran the 5k last weekend without walking breaks!) but it makes the whole experience so unpleasant for me. IMO, not every run has to be a hard run, ya know? I think some people LOVE the feeling of really pushing themselves, it makes me just want to curl up and quit. LOL

    • LauraJayne December 20, 2011, 2:23 pm

      I don’t think walking breaks have anything to do with fitness levels – they are just different ways to view running. They are an integral part of my training plan and help to keep me injury free!

      • Kelli December 20, 2011, 4:04 pm

        Many training plans that are put together by professionals (Jeff Galloway, for example) incorporate walking as part of the plan. This has helped thousands of people actually cut time off their races. So I have to disagree completely with what Jennifer said. I walk when I train but it actually helps me complete my training & racing at a faster pace than when I run the whole time. It has nothing to do with how willing a person is to push themselves.

  • michelle December 20, 2011, 7:33 am

    YES to rule number one! I also realized this rule while running with my husband. I always felt rushed and annoyed. We talked about it and he called me crazy so I ran just ahead of him at 3 steps and he kept saying it was no problem. Then after 3 miles he got it. He was totally annoyed. lol!!

  • Melissa @ Be Not Simply Good December 20, 2011, 8:07 am

    I think your rules are reasonable. It’s a good idea to hash out your expectations in advance if possible so there are no surprises/hurt feelings.

  • Molly @ RDexposed December 20, 2011, 8:16 am

    I wish you could have heard my reaction when I scrolled down to find belly-faced Maggie. “Bahhhh! :)”

  • Chelsea @ One Healthy Munchkin December 20, 2011, 8:19 am

    Love these rules! If all runners were like you, then I wouldn’t be so nervous about running with other people. I’m always scared I’m going to slow my friends down or hold them back.

  • Katy @ HaveYouHurd December 20, 2011, 8:45 am

    Omg I am so right there with you on the whole “hubby running three steps ahead of me” thing. My husband did the same thing. It totally stressed me out and made me feel like I was behind the whole time. He doesn’t do it anymore 🙂

  • Prairie Simple December 20, 2011, 8:47 am

    I totally understand these rules! When my husband runs with me he treats it more like a contest, which means he’s actually running far ahead of me and I’m behind him seething with irritation. I didn’t realize that him being ahead of me was the reason for my irritation until now though!

  • Halley (Blunder Construction) December 20, 2011, 8:51 am

    I trained with a friend for a half marathon once, and on all the training runs we stopped for walking breaks every so often. I thought we planned to do the same thing on race day, but my friend had some other running buddies meet her at the race. At the first water station, I slowed to walk through, but her friends didn’t even stop! I chugged the water and got a cramp trying to keep up with them, shortly we all split up. It’s definitely important to talk through plans with race buddies!

  • Sunny December 20, 2011, 8:54 am

    #5 is my pet peeve. I asked my friend who had not been running much to run a half marathon with me. She agreed and we trained together during our long runs and sometimes one other run a week. We discovered she is a much faster runner than I but our long runs went fine because she ran my pace. The night before the half marathon she said, I’m just going to run my pace because this is the only half marathon I’ll ever run. I was so mad and although I did great the next day it still really ticks me off. If I’d wanted to run the half marathon alone I wouldn’t have asked her to run it with me. =)

    • CaitlinHTP December 20, 2011, 8:59 am

      I would’ve paced with you! Assuming I could’ve kept up!

  • Heather December 20, 2011, 9:25 am

    I like your rules, esp. the last one. I have gotten my feelings hurt before when a friend said they didn’t care about time, just having fun, and wanted to run the half marathon with me. I ended up getting injured and had to slow down, and she just kept going! I called her and asked what was up and we ended up getting upset with each other, during the race. It’s all ok now, but I def. don’t think you should say you don’t care about time and want to run together and then leave the other person at mile 10. I was bummed. 🙁

  • Theresa @ActiveEggplant December 20, 2011, 10:20 am

    These are perfect! I learned the hard way (training for a marathon together) that my husband and I are’t good running buddies – I would always feel rushed! I never realized that it was actually just as hard on HIM to slow down to my pace (he’s MUCH faster than me) as it was for me to put myself to run at his pace. So now we only run together when he needs a super easy day and I need a hard workout! We’re much happier this way!

    And I’m with you on the music while running with a buddy. A woman in my running group wore headphones on every single group run last year & it just seemed kind of rude!

  • Carolina John December 20, 2011, 10:21 am

    That is why I prefer to train and race alone. My speeds, my walk breaks, and I even talk to myself or don’t.

  • gracie December 20, 2011, 10:27 am

    Soooo basically the people I run with break all of your rules 🙂
    I, for one, have been on the hunt for someone just a LITTLE faster than I am to run with. I’ve been looking for this elusive runner for years – the one who is maybe 5 or 10 seconds per mile faster. I need that to push me!
    Funnily, when I run with my husband (who is slower than I am), he often listens to music or podcasts and I don’t. Instead I talk the ENTIRE time and I know he can’t get a word in edgewise because my “I can talk freely” pace is his “I am near death” pace. So this is a great time to discuss big life changes and large purchases. Just kidding.

  • Jason December 20, 2011, 10:33 am

    I think running with others while doing training is the best way to go because you feel like someone else is going through the pain with you.

    You can do social running and train at the same time. Everyone just has to communicate their goals for each run. If you want to do a tempo just state that upfront or you need an easy day just tell your running partners.

    Sometimes I find I get inspired to do workouts when other disclose what they are doing from a workout perspective.

    In the end, its all about communication and if your running partners value your friendship they will bend and you will bend as needed so the running experience works for everyone.

  • Axel December 20, 2011, 10:56 am

    My #1 running buddy was my wife (can’t wait to have her back after delivering our 2nd child – she’s already started running again, 2 months after c-section!). We always match pace and take walk breaks when needed, though oddly, we listen to our own iPods rather than chat.

    My #2 running buddy is my brother. I hardly ever get to run with him since he lives overseas, but since he’s an ex-competitive cross country runner, the pace is always a little faster than I normally would go. Each of us accuses the other of pushing the pace… sibling rivalry!

  • Rebecca December 20, 2011, 11:30 am

    I don’t think I could have made it to my half-marathon without my 5 training buddies. We became such a supportive team. We stuck together no matter what — even during reeeeaaaally bad stomach attacks on country roads with not a bathroom in sight…yep, we got to know each other real well 😉 Crossing the finish line was so much more special because we had been through a whole journey together!

  • Rachel December 20, 2011, 12:07 pm

    I know this might sound weird, but I don’t totally hate the running a few steps ahead of me thing. It kind of provides a nice balance between the social part of running and having some alone time to think (without actually being alone). I know I can catch up in a few steps if I want to chat, so I don’t mind. It helps me keep up the pace while still getting my thinking time in.

  • Alyssa December 20, 2011, 12:33 pm

    Like other commenters, I disagree with the walking breaks one. In my opinion, unless you experience some sort of emergency (stomach issues, whatever), or you’re on a trail, running with somebody means RUNNING. I know people who do the walk/run method, but they are always upfront about it in a running group or whatever, and don’t just assume that whoever is running with them will be cool with it. My body always hurts after walking then going back to running, I’d rather just slow the pace a tad if someone needs to, not completely change the activity. Discussing race plans and expectations is good advice for new runners, I learned it the hard way a few times!

  • Amber K December 20, 2011, 1:12 pm

    I don’t run much and have only done so with my husband, but we’ve always run side by side. We both bring music and decide when to listen to it and when to talk. All of your “rules” seem perfectly sane to me!

  • Laura December 20, 2011, 1:39 pm

    Yeah, I totally have all those same rules. I think in life, in general, it’s better to over-communicate to people. So I’m always upfront about the whole music/no music and taking walking breaks. I ran for YEARS by myself and now I’m just happy that some of my friends started running, so I tend to run whatever pace they want to. And running a race together and crossing the finish line holding hands, arms in the air is pretty cool! Even if you don’t PR. (I am kind of over “PRs” tho, I really just love running and when I am fighting for a PR, I don’t enjoy the race! Yes I am that freaky smiling lady who beams throughout the whole race).

  • LauraJayne December 20, 2011, 2:15 pm

    I think I subscribe to your same rules – but I really like running alone! I think it must be the introverted part of me, but especially in some of my 16+ mile runs, by the end of the run, I was barely able to smile, let alone talk to someone!

    • LauraJayne December 20, 2011, 2:19 pm

      Oh, and I 100% think that running breaks are imperative (or at least they were to my training plan). If a buddy wasn’t okay with it, then they couldn’t run with me! I walk 1 minute, run 10 for every long run!

  • Allison December 20, 2011, 2:19 pm

    Great suggestions- hope you don’t mind me using them and posting a “want ad” aka I need a running buddy!

  • Carina December 20, 2011, 2:20 pm

    You’re missing out if you don’t do speedwork with friends! I’ve run with the same crew for YEARS, but on speed days, it’s up to each person to keep up. And on race day, everyone runs their own race!

  • SkinnyRunner December 20, 2011, 2:35 pm

    my rule is simple: please wear deoderant.

  • Irina G (Fit Flexitarian) December 20, 2011, 4:05 pm

    I think it’s absolutely terrible when you can’t agree whether you’re gonna chat or listen to music and when a buddy makes you feel guilty for wanting to take a walking break! I’m actually looking for a new running buddy now, because of those two issues. But it’s good that the hubby learned his lesson! 😉

  • Laura December 20, 2011, 4:38 pm

    My friend runs in front of me all the time! I wouldn’t mind it, because sometimes we don’t talk when we run, but it makes me feel bad about myself that I can’t keep up with her! Then she stops and waits for me. So then I’m the slowpoke breathing hard while she stands there.

    Often though, me and my running friends run the last quarter to half mile at whatever pace. We know where the end is and we go as hard as we want and then meet at the end.

    I totally agree on race strategy! I’ve been on both ends. One where a friend didn’t train and had a horrible race and I was really ready to kick butt. She wanted me to stay with her and honestly I kind of resent her for it. It’s soured me on racing with friends. The other time I was the friend that bonked and I’m am soooo glad that my friend ran ahead without me. She PR’d and I would have hated to take that from her.

  • Julie S. December 20, 2011, 5:03 pm

    I’m not a runner, but I don’t think your “crazy” rules sound crazy at all! They just sound like common courtesy to me. 🙂

  • amanda December 20, 2011, 5:27 pm

    I don’t think rule number one is crazy at all. It totally pisses me off if my BF says he wants to run with me and then runs 10 feet in front me the entire time. I always think, “What the hell is that about?” Then I end up yelling at him. I’m happy to report that he has gotten better.

  • Lexi @ A Spoonful of Sunshine December 21, 2011, 4:18 pm

    I was running with a friend the other day, when I was reminded of this post. Said friend was basically doing the opposite of everything you mentioned, and we were both getting frustrated. Very helpful tips 🙂

  • Lea @Girl Loves Pearls December 22, 2011, 3:50 am

    OMG! My boyfriend ALWAYS runs a step or two (or three) ahead of me and I used to tell myself to chill out and not get seriously annoyed. Now I feel so much better I’m not the only one!

  • Stephanie@js-campbell.com December 27, 2011, 3:24 pm

    Thanks for sharing your rules, I think they are very good tips!

  • Katie @ cooklaughmove January 4, 2012, 7:44 am

    I love the rules! I swear that finding the perfect running partner is almost as hard as finding your spouse!

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