Lunch was delicious. Have you tried these tempeh strips before? Super tasty and convenient.
I made a sandwich with hummus and tabbouleh, as well as steamed greens and cherries.
Soâ€¦ The Husband and I spend a lot of time together. Except when I go on a run or swim, he plays golf, or I leave the house to work from a coffee shop, we are together. We live together, work at the clinic together, eat together, and sleep together. Iâ€™d estimate that we are in each otherâ€™s presence at least 140 hours a week.
140 hours a week is a lot of time to love each otherâ€¦ or a lot of time to hate each otherâ€™s guts.
When I quit my office job to become self-employed, it was immediately apparent that I would also be the Husbandâ€™s
secretary administrative assistant when he started his acupuncture practice. Why? Well, if I work for him, he doesnâ€™t have to pay someone else to do it. More money in our pockets. By working for the Husband, he was able to turn a profit much more quickly than he wouldâ€™ve been able to otherwise.
I was very nervous that working together would ruin our relationship, but (like most things in life) itâ€™s all about how you approach it. Here are my six tips for making a working relationshipâ€¦ work.
Talk about whoâ€™s â€˜in chargeâ€™ and follow these guidelines as you would at any other office: When we are the clinic, the Husband is my boss. He asks me to fax documents, call people, clean things, and other miscellaneous tasksâ€¦ and I do it. Itâ€™s my job to follow his orders while weâ€™re at work. And I donâ€™t mind because I accept that our roles at the office are not the roles in our relationship. Thus, I think it is very important to clearly define working roles and duties and how they differ from your personal relationship. Once the stage is set, if youâ€™re the â€˜underling,â€™ allow your spouse to direct you, just as you would from any other boss! If you are equal partners in the business, itâ€™s a good idea to discuss who is responsible for what, so no one feels like theyâ€™re carrying all the weight.
View your working relationship as an opportunity to get to know each other better: People always say that you should leave work at work and not bring it home, which I do believeâ€¦ to a point. Talking about work at home has actually brought us closer in many ways. We talk about things that most coworkers wouldnâ€™t, like emotional reactions to difficult situations. Work is a very big part of someoneâ€™s life, and I feel like we explore how work impacts each other more deeply than we did before now that we work together.
â€¦ However, know when to stop talking about work: Once, after a five hour meeting in our living room, I declared a cease-fire. We donâ€™t answer the clinic phone (a cell) after 7 PM. We donâ€™t answer the phone on Sundays. We go out to dinner and refuse to talk about work. I think itâ€™s important to draw the line between your real life and your work like â€“ no matter WHAT your job or WHO you work with!
Similarly, donâ€™t bring work drama home: We use the car ride home to hash out any dramatic situations. Once the door to the house opens, itâ€™s personal time.
Share ideas but donâ€™t feel frustrated if your partner says â€˜noâ€™: Iâ€™m more â€˜business-mindedâ€™ and the Husband is more â€˜patient-oriented,â€™ so sometimes I have business ideas that the Husband doesnâ€™t think will work or are in the best interest of his patients. On the other hand, sometimes I have GENIUS ideas (if I do say so myself) and he takes me up on my suggestions. But either way, I donâ€™t mind because I know he is listening. I think this is key â€“ listen to your partner!
Keep it kosher: Never, ever fight or kiss in front of customers. Many of the patients donâ€™t even realize that Iâ€™m the Husbandâ€™s wife. Others know that itâ€™s a family business (my father-in-law, mother-in-law, and sister-in-law are also involved in the Charlotte clinic and run the Florida office), and they LOVE the fact that weâ€™re all related. In fact, I know a few customers come back over and over again specifically because they like to support a family business. So tell customers youâ€™re related â€“ just donâ€™t rub in their faces.
Do you work with family? How do you survive?