Morning! We are running so low on groceries, but I had just enough fruit to squeeze out one last balances meal:
I made French toast with Dakota bread (which doesn’t really work… plain wheat or a sweet bread is better!) and topped it with 1/2 a serving of honey Greek yogurt and blackberries.
Not that I’m complaining or anything. 🙂
Teenager Troubles: What to Say?
Sometimes, I get an e-mail seeking advice, and I simply don’t know what to say. Either I have no experience in the subject or the writer has already exhausted all the avenues I’d advise they take. That’s the issue with the letter below.
I’m only 8 years out from being a teenager, and I can definitely remember how HARD those years were. Although I was a “healthy” weight (and I use that term loosely because my behaviors weren’t healthy), I had my share of angst-y issues. And I know that having supportive parents were key in helping me resolve them, which is why my heart went out to the mom in the letter below.
Anonymous Mom wrote:
The reason I am writing you tonight is because we are having sort of a meltdown here. My fifteen year old daughter is very overweight and has been her whole life (my 19 year old is a healthy weight). She struggles with her weight and the sadness it brings to her on a daily basis. I’ve done all I can do to help her. I only purchase and prepare healthy foods and we keep going out to eat to a twice a month celebration. We do get occasional treats when her friends come over. I try to not make a big deal about it. I don’t want her to end up becoming anorexic or bulimic. I set a good example by exercising regularly but again, I try to not be preachy. She knows what to do. She just needs to get to the place where she will do it. We have seen the doctor and have even participated in a pre-diabetic class for teens. We went to Weight Watcher’s once (she wouldn’t go back.)
The thing that has caused the meltdown is that she had interviewed for a leadership position in her high school band and she did not get it. She is heartbroken. I was wondering if you could offer any words of wisdom that I can share with her or if maybe your readers could help. She is a beautiful young lady and a straight A student. She just has such low self esteem due to her weight issues. She is around 205 pounds on her 5’6" frame.
I’d love any suggestions from your readers.
Here are some of my initial thoughts:
- Obviously, it’s extremely hard to be overweight in high school (heck, it’s hard to be different in any way in high school). But losing weight will not necessarily mend the girl’s self-esteem issues. Maybe to lose the weight in a healthy way, she needs to first build up her self-esteem? What are some ways she can do this?
- Anonymous Mom didn’t mention trying to engage her daughter in any physical exercise. Maybe they could go on walks together? After all, it’s nice in the summertime! I love having a dog to walk, and I knew a mother and daughter who used to volunteer at the animal shelter and would walk the stray dogs. Any other ideas?
I’d love to hear suggestions from people who were in a similar place in high school. What do you wish your parents had said (and hadn’t said)? Is Anonymous Mom doing everything right? Is it just up to the daughter now? Will losing the weight mend her self-esteem or does she need something else, too?
PS – Jessica is giving away a copy of the Operation Beautiful book!
i definitely think engaging in some physical exercise might help – who knows? maybe she will find something she is good at, feels good about and that can help build her self-esteem. that is such a tough time in life, and my heart goes out to her. i hope she knows how loved, cared for and special she is!!!