A Worried Fiancée sent me the following question, “I know you’ve said before that your journey to a healthy lifestyle began with an "intervention" from a friend. I’m basically trying to do the same thing with my fiance. He is somewhat depressed, mostly from his job, and has been coping by eating fatty foods, drinking too much and basically just vegetating on the couch. He says a lot of it has to do with his current job situation, but he was never the healthiest of people by any means when he was happier in his job. I’m honestly worried about his health. He’s about 40 pounds overweight. I guess my question to you is was there anything specific that your friend said that really got through to you and made you turn your life around? I try to talk to him about being healthier, but it’s like I’m not getting through. He acknowledges what I’m saying but doesn’t do anything to change his sedentary lifestyle.”
I wrote back to A Worried Fiancée and told her that my friend snapped me out of my unhealthy funk by telling it to me straight. My friend told me either stop complaining about my health or get my booty moving. I also asked her if she could help him prepare his meals or help him work out.
A Worried Fiancée wrote back and said, “Unfortunately, I’m more of the one that is complaining so I don’t think that tactic will work! A huge part of the problem is that his work schedule is really crappy. He works all sorts of different hours – sometimes a regular 9-5, sometimes 2pm – 11pm and sometimes 3am – noon and just can’t get into a routine. I often make dinner for him, but I guess I could make his lunches, too. I don’t even know if he even eats lunch, or if he does, it’s probably fast food.” She also added in another e-mail, “I hate to admit it, but I’m definitely not as physically attracted to him. Our sex life is weird because we have conflicting work schedules so it’s hard to tell if the lack of sex is from his weight gain or not.”
I’m hoping that YOU can help A Worried Fiancée out.
- Have you ever had to confront someone about their unhealthy habits? How did you do it?
- Has anyone ever confronted you with your unhealthy habits? What techniques work and which don’t?
- Have you ever had a similar problem with your significant other? Do you have a “I Promise Not to Let Myself Go” Pact?
Advice for A Worried Fiancée would be appreciated!
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