Out of Sync

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I feel like the universe is working against me this week, at least when it comes to fitting in my workouts.  The biggest problem has been kiddo sleep and, actually, as I write this post at the ass crack of dawn, I keep interrupting myself to silently walk Henry back into his bedroom.  Regardless of the time I’ve put him to bed, he’s been waking up paiiiiinfully early.


So early, in fact, that “before the kids wakeup” workouts have been impossible to coordinate, as has anything besides “run downstairs and slam coffee ASAP.”  And so early that he falls apart by 4 PM, which is when the gym childcare re-opens for the evening.  He was so exhausted yesterday afternoon that I couldn’t convince him to leave the house or even sit in the stroller for a jog!   


I felt bad for him, but I felt worse for me.  Hah.  I actually tried, “Henry, I have to swim 1500 meters, bike 28 miles, and run a 10K in two weeks – work with me, pal!”  No dice.  Kiddos come first, but seriously – this is killing me.  I do believe that I have a decent enough strength and endurance base to pull this race out of me come August 9 but… it might be ugly.  Really ugly.


The weather has been working against me, too – a huge rainstorm that closed the pool RIGHT when I was about to leave to swim laps.  Hmmph.


And, of course, painfully early wakeups mean that I’m pretty bleary-eyed and mostly surviving on an intake of dark-brewed coffee.  I know what I need to do – ride out Henry’s weird sleep fluctuation by going to bed early myself and doing my workouts at the extreme crack ass of dawn, but… I just can’t pull myself together for it. 


I did manage to do one really short run this week.  It was 2.2 miles, but I did speedwork at the same time.  This was a big scheduling feat, so I was pretty proud. 


And although I haven’t had time to pound the pavement, I did make a big decision for my triathlon – I’m going to wear a wetsuit in the swim!  I have only worn a wetsuit during one other race, and I usually shun the idea of a wetsuit, so this is a big deal for me.


I decided to wear one because I think I’ll appreciate the added buoyancy during the race – I’ve heard wetsuits can cut time by about 10% or so.  


And last, but not least, I have scheduled a big workout for Saturday morning.  I’m doing an open water swim followed by a bike, and I’m aiming for 1500 meters (race distance) and about 15 miles or so.  Getting it on the calendar has been a bit of a challenge, but I know I need open water experience before this event, and… heck… I know I won’t have any trouble whatsoever waking up early to make the event.  Henry will be pounding on my door at 5:15! 


What part of your life makes it hard to get to the gym?  Kids, work, school?  What solutions do you have?  For a few weeks there, writing my workouts down in my calendar was really helping me coordinate gym time with kids and work.  I need to get my family back into a decent rhythm STAT!



  • Regina July 30, 2015, 7:08 am

    Oh man do I feel ya! For two weeks straight my oldest (he’ll be 3 on August 19) was waking up between 3:45 and 4am every.single.day. It was a nightmare. I tried everything, convinced he wasn’t actually awake but he shares a room with his youngest brother (almost 16months) and if I left him there to put himself “back to sleep”–hahaha, yeah right, he’d inevitably start yelling his brothers name and the only thing worse than a kid waking you up at 3:45 is TWO kids awake at 3:45am. So we spent two weeks blearily sleep walking to the living room to turn on netflix and I’d collapse back to sleep on the couch in between restarting Thomas and manny until my youngest would wake up at 7. Finally last week we moved their bedtime back an hour and he’s now waking up between 5-5:45am which is a world better but still difficult. My husband and I have to go to bed when they do or were all cranky and sleep deprived. Did I mention I’m 13 weeks pregnant and NEED to sleep!?!?!? Anyway. Just letting you know you’re not alone. Solidarity, mama.

    • Caitlin July 30, 2015, 7:10 am

      Woooooah. You win.

  • Jill July 30, 2015, 7:51 am

    I am super fortunate with my workouts. My gym (with a pool) is a 2 minute walk from work, so I can either pop up there at lunch for a swim (I’m slooowwwww, I can only cover a couple of km in my lunch break), or just change into my run stuff and head out the door for a quick run during the workday. During the summer, we have flex hours so I can get in another workout before I go to pick up my kiddo, and on the off days that I do a third (such as a bike ride, which I do from home bc we have just the one bike rack at present), I can meet up with my husband who is usually coming from a lake swim (can you tell it’s tri-season?) to hand off the kid(s) and then hit the bike.

    As for the sleeping thing – have you tried putting Henry to bed earlier? To me, it always sounded counter-intuitive, but it worked for us. I say “worked” because my kiddo is now in a phase where we put him to bed at 7:30, he sings and talks and plays in his bed until 9, and is up every morning at 6:30. Hopefully you guys will figure out what works for you. Good luck!

    • Caitlin July 30, 2015, 8:02 am

      This totally makes sense but I don’t think he could go to bed earlier. I’ve tried everything from 645/730 this week. 🙁

  • Beks July 30, 2015, 7:52 am

    Honestly, work makes it hard for me to have energy to make myself go to the gym. I only work four days a week, so the three I don’t, I’m usually more than willing, but those four that I work 10-hour days, I’m basically a zombie.

  • Sara July 30, 2015, 8:17 am

    My son keeps waking up at around 3:30, standing at his door and gibber-gabbering to himself. He acts wide awake, but if we put him in bed with us (not the best idea, I know) he’ll go back to sleep until we get up for work. If my husband sleeps in his bed with him, he’ll just talk to him. So weird. The first couple weeks he was in his big boy bed, he would put himself back to sleep if he woke up at night…not sure what changed… I’m 7 weeks pregnant so we need to get him back to his room all night… our queen bed is crowded, ha!

    Workouts…I’m just trying to get in 10,000 steps a day and that’s really hard working a desk job. I would have to get up at 5 a.m. and try not to wake up my son, husband or our dogs to go outside and walk in the dark, or do it at lunchtime when it’s so hot out. I hate the treadmill…so that’s not really an option. I keep trying to remember just to get up every hour and walk for at least five minutes, but I forget…oh and nausea is at its peak in the a.m. so getting up at 5 isn’t really an option unless I puke first, then walk… ha ha! But I’ll keep trying!

    • Caitlin July 30, 2015, 9:10 am

      No puking!!! Feel better soon 🙂

  • mary July 30, 2015, 8:37 am

    Wear your wetsuit during your ows this weekend. Especially if you’re not used to wearing one it can take a bit to get used to it again. I love my wetsuit, have worn it for all my races and ows (I’m in Canada – it’s COLD and I seem to pick colder water IMs) and still this year, during my first OWS I felt like it was constricting my breathing. Don’t let that lack of practice with it mess up your race!

    • Caitlin July 30, 2015, 9:07 am

      I’m gonna try to wear it!! I have a sweet reader who is shipping it to me as a loaner. If it get it in time, I will wear it.

  • eve July 30, 2015, 8:52 am

    as a mom of 2, i totally feel you. finding time to work out isn’t easy, and to be honest i dont often make it my priority.
    While it’s unfortunate that you don’t have time to workout some days, I hope you realize that you pretty much have everything going for you 98% of the time – you are a stay at home mom, your kids are healthy, your husband is home a LOT, your gym offers day care, etc.
    The rest of the world doesn’t have it that easy – people have full time jobs or have multiple jobs to make ends meet, don’t have gym memberships because they are expensive, people might be single parents, don’t have family nearby, etc.

    maybe you won’t publish this post, but I just hope you realize how easy you have it compared to most other moms out there

    • Caitlin July 30, 2015, 9:07 am

      I work 25 to 30 hours a week. Also, I work multiple jobs. You’re reading one of my jobs right now. 🙂 But it’s really not a competition on which mom has it the hardest. I wrote an honest post about how I’m struggling to find time to be healthy. That’s all.

    • Regina July 30, 2015, 10:13 am

      Yikes. Your comment made me cringe. There will always be someone who has it worse than you do but that doesn’t mean you can’t feel overwhelmed by your own life or feel like you have no time between all the directions you’re pulled in. I completely respect and appreciate Caitlin’s honesty in this post and am always very impressed and in awe of how much she accomplishes in the same 24 hour period we all get a day (and how well her and her hubby coordinate their schedules to make it work for them). Can’t we all just share some mama love and build one another up?!

  • Krista July 30, 2015, 8:54 am

    Oh, poor you! I’ve so been there. All my friends kids magically sleep in until 8:30, so they don’t get it.
    I saw the comment on Instagram about a gro clock. We been using one since 17 months (2.75 now), and that’s the only way I can make it past the early wake-ups. It’s set for 6:20, so even if he’s up at 5, I get to sleep/lay in bed until then.
    Good luck! It will pass!

  • Amber @ Busy, Bold, Blessed July 30, 2015, 9:17 am

    No kids here, but I’ve definitely been off schedule for the past few weeks. It’s so much easier for me when I stick to set days. Right now I’m battling an injury so I only go based on how I’m feeling and what the actual working involves.

    Keep pushing 🙂

  • Natalie July 30, 2015, 9:24 am

    Imagine if you had to get yourself AND your kids together and out of the house every morning to get to work and daycare on time, especially after a sleepless night! Now THAT is rough.

    • Caitlin July 30, 2015, 9:26 am

      Seriously. Getting Henry out the door in my pajamas is hard enough. 🙂 What’s your secret to a successful exit?

  • Jessica July 30, 2015, 9:38 am

    It can be tough with two kids. Summers are especially hard at our house because my husband works CRAZY long hours and often we see him for two hours a day at the most. Since we don’t do day care or school yet and I don’t have help from family I wake up at 4:40 to get my runs in. This gives me time to run and have coffee and breakfast in the quiet OR get strength training in too before my babies wake up. The exercise and the alone time truly sets the standard for my day and helps me be a better mom.

    SOMETHING has to give, ya know? Something has to be sacrificed. I know sleep is more important/more necessary for a lot of people, but for me I will choose running or alone time over sleep almost anytime. I function pretty well on 6 hours only of sleep but I am not at my best with no quiet me time. I am too introverted I guess. 🙂

    And to the people saying, ‘you have it sooo much easier than most’: Everyone has it worse and everyone has it better than someone. There is really no point in comparisons.

    • Caitlin July 30, 2015, 9:41 am

      Quiet alone time is a must. I’m okay with 6 or 7 hours of sleep but obviously, more would always be nice!!!

  • Grace July 30, 2015, 10:07 am

    Ha, I have to agree with the other commentors – this is a “suck it up, buttercup” situation! What time is Henry waking up? 6 am or 5 am or earlier? Honestly, if his early rising is after 5 am, I would get up at 4, hop on the trainer and knock out some early am workouts. I often do 4-5 am workouts and they are really not that bad. And go to bed early! As long as Henry’s getting more than 9+ hours of sleep overnight, then you have time to get 8 hours of sleep and at least an hour of working out (either super early in the am or in the evening), and once your tri is over in a few weeks it will be a non-issue. If you really want it, you’ll make the time. We all do. You can solve this problem easily by making some simple changes. 🙂

  • Katie B July 30, 2015, 11:22 am

    You’re going to be fine. You’ve already put in the bulk of the work and you’re not going to lose (or gain, for that matter) any fitness in the next few days. Rest is your friend! You’re going to go into the tri perfectly tapered. Don’t get in your head too much 🙂

  • Malinda July 30, 2015, 11:25 am

    I was at a session with a sleep expert who said that any issues with sleep like you described, the solution is to put them to bed earlier. Which does feel counter intuitive, but apparently works. Even if it means putting them to bed ridiculously early, like at 5:30pm or something. I am currently expecting my first babies, so I definitely don’t have the experience yet, but I thought it was interesting. Good luck.

    • Caitlin July 30, 2015, 11:34 am

      congrats on your pregnancy. are you having twins?? 😉

      • Malinda July 31, 2015, 10:31 am

        I am! Boy/Girl due in October. 🙂

  • Ida July 30, 2015, 1:50 pm

    i’m sure you’ll do fine at your tri- the hay is already in the barn, as they say.

    i dont have kids, but work and commuting take up a lot of my day. i just have to prioritize and make a schedule for myself. i think it’s also important to pick races that you realistically have time to train for.

  • Maria July 30, 2015, 2:55 pm

    I can totally relate to the Henry issue! I have a 5 week old baby and a 2.5 year old daughter who is not the world’s best sleeper by any means. She has been regularly been sleeping til 6 since the baby arrived, thank goodness, but its usually earlier. I don’t mind that much during the week (I’m a middle school teacher and have to be up at 5:30 anyway), but I always hated it on weekends. She also has decided that she is too old and grown up for the stroller, so in order to get in my daily “exercise” (or as close as i’m allowed five weeks post c-section) I have to bribe her with a lollipop each day to get her into the double stroller next to her little brother so I can walk a few miles. Not my proudest mom moment, but I do what I have to (like, for instance, the fact that I’m sitting in my car typing this because a drive was the only way I could get her to nap, lol!)

  • Jameil July 31, 2015, 2:12 am

    ugh. The suck it up because someone has it worse commentary is so irritating. If you never acknowledged difficult days, someone, probably the same someones, would be calling you out for that. My son’s sleep SUCKS right now. I’m lucky if we get 7 somewhat uninterrupted hours. He’s ONE AND WON’T SLEEP! A 4 am workout would net me about 3 hours of sleep. And I’m already not a morning person? Yeah no. My runs are fueled by the coffee I never drank before this lovely child and delirium. Lemme go rage against the machine in my sleep.

    • Caitlin July 31, 2015, 9:34 am

      I do agree with this… When I blog like everything is roses and sunshine, I get yelled at for not being real, but when I write a post about my struggles, I get yelled at for struggling. Hah.

  • AJ July 31, 2015, 6:50 am

    My 21 month old hates the gym child care so I try and squeeze in a quick gym session on work days and try to get in 10000 steps a day.My pre-kid self would think that’s pretty poor but it is honestly all I can manage. Caitlin I think you are amazing even attempting to train for a tri with 2 babies!! You ‘ll get there!

  • Jill July 31, 2015, 8:51 am

    I have two small boys (ages 4 and 1) and work full time outside the home. The best time for me to work out is on my lunch break. I feel very fortunate that my building has a women’s locker room with a shower and personal lockers. I don’t know what I would do otherwise! I just go running outside, go to one of the campus pools, or an occasional spin class. I also feel lucky to work at a university…not the best in terms of pay, but great benefits and place to work!

    I don’t like comparisons either, but I often feel it would be harder to be a work from home mom such as yourself. At least I am able to do the exact same routine everyday (husband drops off at daycare, I pick up…it really never changes). I think trying to get work done AND find time to work out all with the kids being home would be terribly hard. I know because when I have to stay home with them for whatever reason (day care closed for a holiday, they are sick, etc) and I try to get some work done, it’s SO hard!! Kind of impossible for me, actually 🙂

    So just keep it up, you’re doing great! It’s hard, but you will get back into a routine again! As far as the sleep problems, I have found everything is a phase, that’s why I know you will get back to normal soon!

    • Caitlin July 31, 2015, 9:34 am

      Thanks Jill – I do think I need to remind myself that the sleep thing is probably a phase. It’s just so soul crushing when he wakes me up before the sun rises!! HAH.

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