First Father’s Day

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A few days late, yes, but it would be remiss for me to skip a Father’s Day post. Because I am lucky enough to have a wonderful husband, and Henry is lucky enough to have a wonderful father. And he deserves to be honored!


I met Kristien when I was rather young (19), and I was coming out of another intense relationship.  When we eventually started to date, I wasn’t in the mindset of, “Could this be my husband?” as I might have been if I had met him a few years later. I imagine that if I was older, I would’ve held him up to some imaginary checklist of what I’d want my husband to be like. I would’ve discussed his characteristics and qualities with my girlfriends, fantasizing about whether he’d be a good dad and provider.  But way back then, I just knew that I liked his personality and we had a lot of chemistry.


Days turned into months, and the months turned into years, and we were still together and happier every single day.  We started to build a life together, moving into the same apartment when we were 22, and before I knew it, I looked at my hand and saw a beautiful ring.  By 24, we were married. I felt so old and mature at the time, but in hindsight, we were just getting started.


A few weeks back, my brother-in-law asked me for my #1 piece of life advice. I immediately said, “Make sure you pick a good partner,” but the thing is – I don’t feel like I consciously selected Kristien.  In many ways, Kristien and I grew up together, and who we were at 19 is not who we are at 29.  When we were dating, I never held him up to an imaginary husband checklist.  But knowing everything I know now about what I want and value about life, if I had done that, Kristien would’ve checked every single box.


The (big and small) reasons I love Kristien:


We are sad when we are apart, even for a few hours.  We do lots of stuff alone, but we both get lonely without each other.

He takes care of the zoo – caring for Henry, feeding the pups, cleaning up after the cat.  He does it all without being asked because he loves our crazy crowd.

He really, really loves animals and get upset when he sees roadkill.  What a softie.

He sings all the time.  And he’s pretty good!

He works extremely hard.  I am bursting with gratitude every single day.  I cannot thank him enough for the effort he puts in at work.

He does all the lawn care.  I hate yardwork!

He protects and prioritizes me.

He is passionate about his hobbies and supports me in mine.

He lets me sleep in on his days off.

He has lots of funny nicknames for Henry – my favorites are “Bud Spud” and “Monster Munch.”

We know what the other will say before they even open their mouth.

He likes couch and TV time as much as I do.  He likes exploring and trying new things as much as I do.  The perfect mix of homebody and busy bee.

Whenever Henry sees Kristien, he erupts into a stream of “Dad! Dad! Dad! Dad!”  You know a dad is loved when the baby repeats his name over and over again.

Hello! British accent.


I don’t talk about Kristien too much on the ol’ bloggy, but I just had to shout it from the Internet rooftops: He’s the best husband and father that I could’ve hoped for.  Henry and I are so lucky, and we are thankful for his love every single day.


Sometimes I get emails asking me how Kristien and I have such a perfect relationship and how we avoid fighting – that makes me want to laugh because we certainly have our battles and do not have a perfect relationship!  No one does.  But what does make him the perfect husband for me is that he is always willing to talk, grow, and learn with me.  He’s a true partner, and although I don’t feel like I picked him, I know that I am pretty damn lucky he fell into my lap.


Happy Father’s Day!



  • Kendra June 19, 2013, 12:34 pm

    You are very blessed indeed! I feel the exact same way about my husband and our children are so lucky he is their father! Hooray for good men!

  • Ashley June 19, 2013, 12:51 pm

    That picture is just precious!

    I feel all those things about my partner as well- the moment I realized that we could have something serious was when he asked me about my twin cats (they are seriously identical) and if they had different personalities that made it easier to tell them apart. 4 years later and I still swoon when he says “our cats” (dorky, I know).

    Now if only he had a British accent…

    • Caitlin June 19, 2013, 12:52 pm

      Love this comment. Husbands who love animals are the best.

  • Caitlin June 19, 2013, 12:52 pm

    I love this!! And amen on knowing what the other is going to say- sometimes my husband and I will just look at each other out in public and know exactly what the other person is thinking. I don’t think there’s some secret trick to a successful marriage, but I do think you should marry your best friend and the person you can literally spend all of your time with.

  • Verna June 19, 2013, 12:53 pm

    I feel the same way about my husband. We are totally different people now than we were when we started dating. I was 20 and he was 21, now I’m 30 and he’s 31. We are about to have our 3rd baby and have the beginnings of a hobby farm. Haha! Not exactly what I would have pictured at 20 but I love every second of it! I’m so so so thankful for him and glad that we get to learn together!

  • Jill June 19, 2013, 1:03 pm

    Wow, together since you were only 19 (a baby 🙂
    Kristien does appear to be a good guy…a good heart, character, intelligence and kind. You got a good one.

  • Joy June 19, 2013, 1:16 pm

    I love this post so much, especially because I feel the same way about my husband. We don’t have human babies, but our two cats are our kids and he’s the best father to them, and the best husband to me.

    I, too, met my husband when I was 19. We have grown together and truly value each other and I always like to tell my single friends that it’s important not just to love your partner, but to like them as well. My husband is my best friend and even after 18 years of being together, I get excited to see him if we’ve been apart for even just a few hours.

    Henry is lucky to have you two as parents!

  • mindy @ just a one girl revolution. June 19, 2013, 1:18 pm

    Caitlin, I adore this post. If I ever get married, I hope it’s to someone I can speak as highly of. You and Kristien are freaking adorable.

  • Emily June 19, 2013, 1:36 pm

    Such a sweet post!! I feel the same way about not “picking” my husband because we started dating when I was 21 and just thought we were having fun. Four years later we’re married and have a great life together and we’re still having fun. I already can’t wait to have kids together because just the way he treats our puppy makes me tear up! He picks him up and holds him like a baby and they both love it…it cracks me up!

    Hope Kristien had a wonderful fathers day!

  • Aishah @ Coffee, Love, Health June 19, 2013, 1:54 pm

    Such a sweet post! One of your best 🙂

  • Lisa June 19, 2013, 2:16 pm

    I love this post! You are both so lucky to have each other and it’s so nice to see you appreciating each other. I feel like you are a great example for me personally!

  • Suzanne June 19, 2013, 2:18 pm

    What a beautiful, heartfelt post! Both those boys are lucky to have YOU!

  • Rachelle June 19, 2013, 2:35 pm

    Thank you for this post. Lately it seems like I have been giving up on finding that special man, but this post gives me hope! Thank you.

  • Sarah @ Yogi in Action June 19, 2013, 3:04 pm

    Adorable- I love it!

    Happy Father’s day to your husband indeed!

  • Halsy June 19, 2013, 3:31 pm

    What a nice post to honor your hubby! I get what you mean about not picking but if you did have a list your hubby would be the list. My hubby and I started dating in high school when I was 14 and got married at almost 20. We just had a daughter last year a few weeks before Henry was born. I know at 14 I wasn’t looking for a husband but I am so blessed that he asked me on a date that November day 12 years ago!

  • Cate June 19, 2013, 5:07 pm

    I love this post. What a thoughtful heartfelt message for father’s day. You are both lucky to have one another and Henry is lucky to grow up in a family full of love.

  • Katie @peacebeme June 19, 2013, 5:11 pm

    Such a sweet post! Made me tear up. I am so lucky to have my husband too, he’s the perfect man for me!

  • Jelena@FabLifePhD June 19, 2013, 5:30 pm

    Somehow, I think that even when I was 15, I was looking for a guy which I could imagine as my husband. I am not saying that there was a check list in my head, but I always had to see the future with that person. I think we all subconciously have this list. I met my boyfriend when I was 22, and he was 21 and from the first day, I could always say that we can have a future. For these 7 years, we really grew up together, but still, our personalities can be only modified, but not changed

  • Jessica R @ FromtheKitchentotheRoad June 19, 2013, 5:35 pm

    This is a very sweet post!

  • kirsten June 19, 2013, 6:44 pm

    Great post! I started reading your blog when you were planning your wedding, it’s so nice to see you and Kristien are just as happy as when he was “future husband”! 🙂

    • Caitlin June 19, 2013, 7:04 pm

      Thanks for reading for sooooo long!!!

  • Joy June 19, 2013, 7:06 pm

    Love this post. I unfortunately know too many unhappy couples, so it’s so nice to see a couple (and a family) who love, respect, admire and most importantly like each other. Happy belated Father’s Day to Kristien!

  • BroccoliHut June 19, 2013, 7:54 pm

    This was such a sweet post, Caitlin! Thank you for sharing with us. I, too, have been reading since the See Bride Run days, and it’s been a joy to see your relationship flourish 🙂

    • Caitlin June 19, 2013, 9:37 pm

      Thank you!!!

  • Janelle June 19, 2013, 8:21 pm

    So beautiful and so well said! I feel the same way about my hubs.

  • Heather June 19, 2013, 11:02 pm

    The British accent would have been enough for me.

    Really similar to me + M. We also met young (19 + 20) and really have grown up together, which makes for an interesting relationship because we’ve had many, many life events together.

    Happy Father’s Day, Kristien!

  • Catherine @ A Two Storey Home June 20, 2013, 7:41 am

    Awesome…Very sweet shout out 🙂 My father-in-law has a British accent, but my husband can’t hear it because he grew up with it. Sometimes I will repeat something he’s said, British accent included, to my husband, and he always says, “What? Who are you imitating?” It cracks me up!

  • Katie D. June 20, 2013, 9:00 am

    I love this! My husband and I have a real marriage – full of ups and downs, stubborn fights and laughing fits. Even on our worst days – He is the only one I want to be with!

  • Julie June 20, 2013, 9:52 am

    Awww… love this!

  • Sydney June 20, 2013, 9:52 am

    Aww so sweet. My husband and I also met when we were 18/19 & I definitely feel like we’ve “grown up” together. Our story seem so similar to yours (except that the baby came before marriage in our case, and my hubs has a South African accent rather than British!)

  • Meganerd June 20, 2013, 10:25 am

    I love you guys. Sweet post, pal.

  • Sarah June 20, 2013, 9:15 pm

    Amazing. How sweet.

  • Karen @ Runner Girl Eats June 21, 2013, 8:58 am

    Such a sweet post. Happy Fathers Day 🙂

  • Megan (The Lyons' Share) June 21, 2013, 3:17 pm

    This is so sweet! Congrats on working towards such a strong, healthy relationship! And happy (late) Father’s Day to Kristien!

  • Marie June 23, 2013, 10:29 am

    This is a beautiful post! I understand the need for privacy but it was awesome to read this post. I have enjoyed your blog and enjoy it even more so now that you are a mother. It is wonderful to witness yet another side to you. 😉 I feel the same way about my husband; he is a wonderful husband and dad to our twins and fur baby. I didn’t grow up with pets; he has and always said he wanted our kids to grow up with pets and now I couldn’t a imagine life without our pup.

  • Marissa @Barefoot Colorado July 1, 2013, 10:13 pm

    This made me smile! I’m so happy for you both!

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