I’m just trying to plow through work today – what about you? We don’t have any big weekend plans but I’m so pumped that it’s Friday.  I’ve definitely got one eye on my work and the other one the clock.  Come on, 5:00!




Grilled goat cheese sandwich > grilled cheddar.  Word up.


With a side salad and leftover veggies and quinoa.

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For Your Reading Pleasure


I know I said I was plowing through work, but we all need a break for some Internet browsing, right?  Here are a few stand-out articles that I read this week on the web:


The Way We Live: Drowning In Stuff


A summary of a new book (Life at Home in the 21st Century) that studies American ‘material culture’ – basically, how much junk we own and why.  Fun facts: American families own thousands of things (mostly children’s toys).  “Women’s stress-hormone levels spiked when confronted with family clutter; the men’s, not so much. Finally, there was a direct relationship between the amount of magnets on refrigerators and the amount of stuff in a household.”  How many magnets do you have on your fridge?  We have one, and I think we own a moderate amount of stuff.  Innnnteresting.


What Do You Do When Your 10-Year-Old Girl Says She’s Fat?


A thoughtful (and amusing, as always) Jezebel piece on what to say – and, most importantly, what not to say – when a little girl says she’s ‘fat.’   Some sad facts from the piece: 80% of 10-year-old girls say they have been on a diet, and "the number one magic wish for girls 11-17 is to be thinner."


How Subway’s 3 New Vegan Subs Stack Up


Thanks in part to a campaign from the vegan group Compassion Over Killing, Subway is introducing a new, higher protein vegan sub at their restaurants.  This is notable for vegans and vegetarians alike because the current vegan option is the ‘veggie delight’ – AKA a bunch of vegetables on bread (at least it’s a step up from the McDonald’s vegan option, which is a side salad minus cheese, and the BK option, which is a side salad minus cheese and the French fries).  They are currently testing three flavors at eight Subways in the DC area – this post provides a review of which one is the tastiest, as well as a list of Subways breads that are vegan. 


How They Let Me Be Me


I’m a huge supporter of the international non-profit organization Girls on the Run, which started here in Charlotte.  Recently, a similar program – but for little boys – began here, too.  It’s called Let Me Run and, like GOTR, it culminates in a 5K.  My friend Jon is a coach and recently wrote a great post on his experiences with Let Me Run. 


The Problem with Nursing Covers


Here’s a post that I’m sure will generate a debate – a critique of nursing covers (nursing covers are basically pieces of fabrics that you drape around your neck so you can ‘discreetly’ nurse in public).  There are no local or state laws that forbid nursing in public, although people often give moms a hard time for it.  So far, the only place that I’ve breastfed besides my house are the hospital and the backseat of my car.  I own a nursing cover but am not sure if or how I’ll use it when nursing in public – the arguments presented in this post against nursing covers are pretty convincing (to me).  The author argues that nursing covers makes breastfeeding seem abnormal and weird, are cumbersome and annoying to use, labels breastfeeding as inappropriate, creates an unnecessary separation between mom and baby, and reinforces women’s status as objects of sexual desire.  Personally, I think it’s refreshing when women (tactfully) nurse in public spaces and appreciate it when my friends aren’t shy about nursing in front of me in our homes.  I’ve learned a lot about nursing from watching my girlfriends nurse their own children.


Which Diet Works?


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A very interesting piece about a study that found that certain diets resulted in higher caloric burns, challenging the thought that ‘a calorie is a calorie.’  From the article: “There’s an increasing body of evidence, however, that calories from highly processed carbohydrates like white flour (and of course sugar) provide calories that the body treats differently, spiking both blood sugar and insulin and causing us to retain fat instead of burning it off…. It’s time to reacquaint ourselves with minimally processed carbs. If you take three servings of refined carbohydrates and substitute one of fruit, one of beans, and one of nuts, you could eliminate 50 percent of diet-related disease in the United States. These relatively modest changes can provide great benefit.”


Your turn! Do you own a lot of stuff and have many magnets on your fridge?  What would you say to a little girl who hates her body?  Opinions on nursing covers and public breastfeeding? If you’re a vegetarian or vegan, what is your go-to restaurant for fast food?



  • Stacie @ Snaps and Bits June 29, 2012, 12:47 pm

    My fridge is stainless so magnets don’t work. I wish they did, I’d have a ton (plus kids artwork). I have no issue with public breast feeding. I did not have a cover but tried to be discreet in public places. I only had boys. I hope those girls are told they are beautiful the way they are.

  • corrie anne June 29, 2012, 12:49 pm

    I’m not vegan but I’d love new options at Subway!!!! Sounds awesome. I have quite a few magnets and hardly any stuff. We’ve moved a lot in the past few years so we’re bordering on minimalists. I don’t think I’d have a real problem with nursing coverups because they would make ME feel more comfortable. I don’t think that’s necessarily saying it’s abnormal.. but it is more of a private thing that everyone in the whole wide world needs to be a part of. But I think you could be more casual with family and friends.. just like with everything else. At least that’s what makes sense to me right now..

    Happy Friday!

  • Hillary June 29, 2012, 12:52 pm

    I read that Times article earlier this week and found it absolutely fascinating. And, even though I’m not vegan, one of those MD Subways is about 10 min from my house, and I’m tempted to try those new sandwiches out!

  • Amber June 29, 2012, 12:54 pm

    Way to go working so much already. You rock!

    I had to chime in to ask, since when is discretion equal to shame? People are discreet about a lot of very natural human processes. Sneezing/blowing your nose into tissues, using gender specific and enclosed restrooms, picking food out of their teeth…the list goes on and on. We do all of these things to keep ourselves and others comfortable and breastfeeding is just another example.

    • Caitlin June 29, 2012, 1:25 pm

      Good point!

    • corrie anne June 29, 2012, 1:44 pm

      Aha. There you said it. Exactly.

      • Amanda K. June 29, 2012, 2:19 pm

        i agree. covering yourself doesn’t mean you are ashamed. i’m not ashamed to nurse my son, but i don’t want strangers to see my breast.
        i wasn’t ashamed to give birth to him, either, but i wouldn’t have done it in public.
        when i’m at home or with very close friends i don’t use a cover (or blanket, etc.) but even then i’m discreet.

    • Amy @oveAmyx June 29, 2012, 2:25 pm

      I think it depends on what motivates the lady to use a cover, for her or her child’s needs or for the general public’s feelings. The former is when it becomes associated with shame rather than discretion. Especially as many women feed discretely without the need for covers etc – obviously different for everyone tho and depends on the individual’s feelings.

    • Lizz @ Leading the Good Life June 29, 2012, 3:23 pm

      Yes! Very well said.

    • Cindy B. June 29, 2012, 4:16 pm

      Well said! Awesome perspective!

  • Kate June 29, 2012, 1:02 pm

    Caitlin, thanks for sharing the article about breastfeeding covers. Something about them doesn’t sit well with me, and the author did a good job of articulating why.

  • Annette@FitnessPerks June 29, 2012, 1:08 pm

    These are all so interesting! I want to read about the vegan subs, what to tell a 10 yr old, and the interesting evidence on different food intake vs. calories.

    We have NO magnets on our fridge….and we don’t own that much b/c neither of us are obsessed with ‘stuff’ (and we’re younger). VERY interesting indeed!

    YES to the grilled goat cheese! YUMM!

  • Angela @ Eat Spin Run Repeat June 29, 2012, 1:15 pm

    Interesting about the having stuff and magnets connection! I definitely agree with the point that having too much clutter increases stress hormones. I feel so amazingly cleansed after going through my closet or another part of my house, and either throwing out or donating things I don’t need. It’s amazing how fast stuff piles up!

  • Amber @ Busy, Bold, Blessed June 29, 2012, 1:19 pm

    Omg my parents’ fridge is COVERED in stuff, mostly pictures of us that have been up for years. People always come over and stare at our fridge and love it. There is a lot of stuff in the house that could probably go, but I like the fridge 😀

  • Allison June 29, 2012, 1:23 pm

    I did not have a cover specifically for breastfeeding, but I would just throw a blanket over my shoulder to cover the baby. I just wasn’t comfortable all out there. In fact, even though I exclusively breast fed my kids, I never really did it out in the open. I would do it in a restaurant if we were in a booth, other wise, I would go somewhere with a lounge or do it in the car. There is nothing wrong with covering up a little. That said, the situation/location matters a lot. In front of friends at home, I didn’t care. At my pool, on a weekday when it was all moms, I didn’t care.

    Very few magnets on our fridge! But my husband likes to get rid of clutter.

    My 11 year old son will ask me if he is fat. I hate it, especially since he is so incredibly active and healthy.

  • Janae @ Bring-Joy June 29, 2012, 1:32 pm

    Nursing covers: I do not do. I have had 4 kids & finishing up nursing my youngest who is 16 months. I mostly nurse at home, so no biggie. My kids see me nurse, but it’s not anything weird or unnatural. I think it’s all about time & place. Flashing your boobs just ‘cuz isn’t appropriate unless your a stripper, or in the privacy of your own home. Showing some because your nursing is part of the process. I think it should be up to the woman. Personally, I’m a very modest person, so I always cover up when I’m in public among mixed company. But I don’t like the nursing covers because my babies have always hated them & I can never remember where I put it last or to take it with me…so I just use a blanket (or sweater) as needed.

    • Amy @oveAmyx June 29, 2012, 2:22 pm

      Totally agree, plus my little one gets pretty warm snuggled into me without being cocooned in fabric.

    • Stephanie C June 30, 2012, 12:26 am

      I agree! I think that our society should be more open to public breastfeeding without a cover, but I don’t think I’d do it without a covering unless I was in my own home.

  • @HilaryFleming www.hilaryfleming.com June 29, 2012, 1:39 pm

    I don’t see what the big deal is about nursing covers. Obviously it’s like “Hey I’m nursing over here!” but I think its a nice way to be modest about it. Also, I’m pretty sure that people who have a problem with a woman discreetly nursing in public, are secretly perverts. It’s one thing to just whip out the nipple and flash everyone in a crowded area, but it seems that once you get the hang of nursing, it’s pretty easy to do it without giving away the goods. And hey, if you’re in your own home, all bets are off. I probably didn’t even wear a shirt for the first few days…But when in public I’ve nursed on planes, at football games, and on park benches (with a nursing cover or a swaddle blanket) and I’ve never really gotten any dirty looks or flack from people. And if it makes someone uncomfortable, that’s their weird issue.

  • Gwen o. June 29, 2012, 1:45 pm

    Interesting articles! I breastfed my daughter for a year. For those times when we were in a public place I used a nursing cover. It is funny how the same actions can mean differ things for different people because I felt like the cover brought her and I closer! Mine had some thing in the top fabric so I could look down and see her face and she could look up and see me. My cover wasn’t just a drape. IIt bended out a bitso she had plenty of air. I personally was not comfortable nursing out in the open where anybody could see. My daughter could also get easily distracted so I think having a cover helped her block out other distractions and just focus on nursing. But I do absolutely respect other mothers choices and think nursing in public, whether under a cover or not, is good for everyone.

    • Amy @oveAmyx June 29, 2012, 2:20 pm

      I think it depends what motivates you using the cover, if it is what you and your daughter needed to feed successfully in public then it was a great product. However, if you wanted to not use it but felt socially it was required of you then it would be sad in my opinion.

  • Amber K June 29, 2012, 1:51 pm

    I haven’t had a grilled cheese sandwich in yeeeears. Yours always look delicious!

    I have a few magnets on my fridge, holding up pictures of loved ones and a few “save-the-date” magnets even though those weddings have come and gone. It just feels weird to throw out magnets with my friend’s faces on them!

  • jen June 29, 2012, 1:56 pm

    quick question caitlin!

    can you tell me what brand(s) are your go to peanut butter and sunflower butter (i think those are the only nut butters you have?). i need a change up to some new tasty ones!

    thank you so much. 🙂

    • CaitlinHTP June 29, 2012, 1:57 pm

      Whatever is at Trader Joe’s 🙂

    • Amy @oveAmyx June 29, 2012, 2:17 pm

      It is very very easy to make your own…

      • jen June 29, 2012, 2:30 pm

        that’s what i’ve always done and i’m so burnt out on it, LOL. so i want to find an organic one i can buy that the ingredients are only nuts and sea salt (preferably raw). i’m open to any and all suggestions from readers!!!


        • Tammy June 29, 2012, 9:55 pm

          Sunbutter with ingredients as the seeds, dehydrated cane juice solids, salt. Those are PERFCETLY fine ingredients. I never ever make my own nut butter, too inefficient. Why not just try different brands? And ingredients like cane syrup won’t hurt you at all. Not sure why everyone shies away from the extra non-harmful ingredients, unless you are a hard-core raw or health-nut follower!

  • Sam June 29, 2012, 1:56 pm

    LOVE the discrete vs. shame response up above. Totally agree. Personally I’d prefer not to see someone else’s boob while I’m eating, I have to say. Also, I can’t help but think that most covers I’ve seen are uuuugly and the size of a house (WHAT COULD BE UNDER THERE? I thought the first time I saw one). Perhaps some of the problem could be alleviated if they were cuter and comfier…kind of like a snood for boobs and babies.

    • Amy @oveAmyx June 29, 2012, 2:16 pm

      Honestly when feeding discretely you see less boob on show than most women display whilst wearing a ‘cute’ evening top or dress.

  • Amy @oveAmyx June 29, 2012, 2:12 pm

    **disclaimer: I am sleep deprived and on shutdown mode as it’s Friday night. Hopefully the following reads ok**

    I have consciously chosen not to use a breastfeeding cover despite several ‘encouraging’ conversations from my Mum because I don’t want to hide that my baby is feeding. Just as I have consciously declined offers of side rooms etc to feed in. I am very pro-choice for breastfeeding vs formula feeding and don’t believe there is a right and wrong way. However, as I went into the world of breastfeeding I felt I had a duty to feed publicly in a confident and discreet manner with the hope that I might inspire a Mother to feel confident enough to feed publicly or just to enable children, teenagers and people in general to have a positive experience of breastfeeding.

    I don’t find it necessary to have a cover in order to be discrete and if anything find extra ‘things’ get in the way making it more difficult to keep everything covered. Plus I believe eye contact is important whilst feeding as well as the ability to see what is happening to ensure good latch etc. At times, when we have been in a nosy setting which has disturbed William and distracted him from feeding I have used a scarf but that is to mute things a little.

    One ‘I love this product sooooo much’ recommendation is ‘Breastvests’ – they have been amazing as tho I am confident feeding publicly I am self-conscious about my jelly, stretchmarked tummy.

    • Cristina June 30, 2012, 11:22 pm

      I totally (and politely) disagree with this. I believe in breastfeeding personally and as a health care professional, I I encourage all my patients to try to breastfeed, unless they are incapable or have an a medical reason not to. However, just because breast is best does not mean that I think women should (or have the right) to breastfeed wherever and however they want. Going to the bathroom is completely natural and should be done often, but that doesn’t mean it should be done in public. Everyone needs to eat but I can’t go into any store, plop down, whip out my lunch, and demand to be allowed to eat right there. What makes nursing any different (other than having really passionate proponents for public acceptance)?

      I think many women (and I don’t mean this as a personal attack on you at all) do more to make nursing feel weird by being TOO open and too pushy about it. I was recently out to dinner with a group of moms. One discreetly breastfed her baby under a cover, while the other openly took her boob out of her shirt and nursed. It was quite uncomfortable, while I can’t imagine anyone was offended by the under-the-cover action also going on. The bottom line is that both children got excellent nutrition in public, but one mother did it quietly and the other acted in a way that seemed to be trying to make a statement and left a lot of the other guests feeling uncomfortable.

      Personally, breasts don’t bother me and I come into contact with them daily on a professional level (I know that sounds weird) but there’s a big difference with being comfortable with something and wanting it in your face.

  • Jen June 29, 2012, 2:12 pm

    I love your round-up of links. The nursing cover post is brilliant. I have no children but work in infant feeding research and talk about breastfeeding A LOT. The statements in the post are a lot of what I have said to my unmarried/childless guy friends (and even some girl friends). I wish more people talked about these things! Thanks for sharing.

  • Allispin June 29, 2012, 2:13 pm

    I’m not strictly vegetarian, but at Subway I often get the Veggie Patty. It’ s pretty tasty and does have a good amount of protein (although not vegan). I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with using a nursing cover if you are a woman who just doesn’t want to expose herself in public, that’s a personal choice.

  • c June 29, 2012, 2:25 pm

    Who would have thought that nursing covers could be controversial? I didnt use one at first but it quickly became one of my Top 5 must-have baby items. I made sure to have one in the stroller, my purse, car, etc so that id never be without. I absolutely refuse to breastfeed in a bathroom (would you feed your toddler solid foods in a bathroom!?) and with a nursing cover i could be anywhere and not worry abt having to find a place to feed. As the baby gets older, he’ll get distracted so easily by all thats going around him or by you talking to a friend next to you so getting him used to eating while being covered is great for the baby as well.

  • Kris @ tryingtotri June 29, 2012, 2:31 pm

    I has issues with breastfeeding, so 2 of my 3 were bottle babies. And I don’t think nursing covers existed 16 years ago when I had my first! I used a receiving blanket to discreetly cover while nursing, but it wasn’t a big deal. As for if I see a Mom nursing in a mall, restaurant, etc. – I could care less. I’m more interested in the baby! 🙂

    No fridge magnets here either, and I have far less clutter than I used to. As girls and the “fat” question, I have no good answers. My own body image has been screwed up since I was 9 years old, or younger. I try to make sure my boys have a healthy image, and don’t let them trash talk themselves.

  • Katie @ Peace Love & Oats June 29, 2012, 2:39 pm

    Ahh I saw that subway has vegan sandwiches, I just wish they’d get gluten free bread! I miss subway!

  • Amelia June 29, 2012, 2:42 pm

    Do you own a lot of stuff and have many magnets on your fridge? We purged so much of our belongings when we moved sold our house and moved across the country and back two years ago, so not hoarders for sure! I like a clean fridge, so no magnets, except for a couple on the side.
    What would you say to a little girl who hates her body? I’m reading through other replys on this one. I was this little girl and I have no idea how to reply.
    Opinions on nursing covers and public breastfeeding? It’s completely natural and if some people can show too much skin (short shorts, cleavage, etc) then why not FEED YOUR BABY??
    If you’re a vegetarian or vegan, what is your go-to restaurant for fast food? This was so hard to do this past weekend because we traveled up 1-95. The only road option was subway (veggie) but once to DC, we were able to have a lot more options. Hello delicious Thai Food!

  • Erin Hack June 29, 2012, 2:42 pm

    Fun fact regarding the Subway article: the Burger King in my town (and others in the midwest) offers Boca burgers for vegetarian customers. It isn’t on the menu board but they have them available for those who ask. This has come in handy on road trips and on bad days when I needed a “burger” and fries. 🙂

  • Nicole N. June 29, 2012, 2:46 pm

    I wish it weren’t the case but I have had the “I’m fat” conversation with several little girls. My go to response is first to ask “why do you say that?” Sometimes that answer will help guide my response, for example with a six year old she pointed to her belly and was saying it was too big, wewere able to talk about how sometimes when your body is getting ready to grow in height it saves up some extra energy and then you even out. With a teenager, she mentioned all her friends wore a certain size except her so she couldn’t trade clothes, well she was not built in a way that she would ever wear that size it had nothing to do with “fat” but we figured out what things she could swap with friends so she wouldn’t feel left out.

    No matter what we talk about how healthier foods make us feel and look better but that there is always room in a healthy diet for the occasional treat. I also fall back on the phrase “you are just right” especially for the youngest ones who are questioning their size.

    God, it makes me sad that I have gone through this so many times, but truly it is a sad epidemic.

  • Claire Zulkey June 29, 2012, 3:02 pm

    I think your assessment of your grilled cheese sandwich is apt: word up, indeed.

    I meant to look up Life at Home in the Twenty-first Century after reading that Why American Kids Are So Spoiled article in the New Yorker. Did you check that one out? It’s not too long and I feel like you could get a lot of grist for the mill from it. Definitely made me think about how I was raised and how I would like to raise our babby.

  • Tanya June 29, 2012, 3:06 pm

    Hmmm, I am definitely not a stuff gatherer. I like minimal living and getting rid of stuff. On the other hand, I buy refrigerator magnets whenever we travel so my fridge is covered with them. Guess I never was normal.

  • Anne Weber-Falk June 29, 2012, 3:17 pm

    I never used a cover when I nursed. I nursed my children everywhere…walking in the grocery store, the park, at other’s homes and even in church. I find them unnecessary as long as one is discreet. I did not whip out the breast for all to see, and as a result never had anyone make any comments other than surprise when they found out what I was doing at the moment. They didn’t realize I was nursing because I was DISCREET. It just looked like I was carrying my baby. And why purchase a special cover when you can use a nice receiving blanket instead.

  • Elizabeth June 29, 2012, 3:17 pm

    I grew up playing sports with boys and played multiple competitive sports until I went to college. I didn’t go through the “I’m fat!” crisis until I was 16 (and I was very obviously not fat at all). What happen was that I had outgrown my mother, a naturally and extraordinarily petite woman, when I was 15-16, which precipitated a crisis of identity and self-worth; you’re not supposed to outgrow your mom. One day, after my parents had recognized my new body image issues, my mother told me that “The body that you have can do things that I could never dream of doing — you can play basketball, run fast, and do all sorts of things athletically that I never had a chance to do. You are so lucky and I am so proud of you.” Problem solved, right there.

    I believe one of the best things we can do for our daughters, current and future, is to encourage them to participate in athletics and to love their bodies for what they enable them to do.

  • Jill Will Run June 29, 2012, 3:23 pm

    I wasn’t going to get a “hooter hider”, but was given one at my baby shower last week. Not sure if I’ll use it though. In the breast feeding class I took the instructor was very against them. Partly due to the separation between mom and baby, but also because she said, “for something that is supposed to make breastfeeding in public more discreet, nothing alerts the public to the fact that your boob is out than these things.” Plus she said since we are allowed to breastfeed anywhere in public (except at the tables or machines in casinos – even Vegas has standards!) we shouldn’t keep acting as though the practice is shameful or sensual.

  • Stacy June 29, 2012, 3:29 pm

    I used a nursing cover because I’m self-conscious about baring my breasts in public. I don’t even wear low-cut tops for this reason. It’s NOT because I was ashamed of breastfeeding my babe.

  • clare @ fittingitallin June 29, 2012, 3:36 pm

    Love this – one of the reasons I don’t go to subway much is because of the lack of vegetarian protein options!

  • Alex @ Healthy Life Happy Wife June 29, 2012, 3:39 pm

    Taco Bell (surprisingly) has a lot of vegan options – of course, you have to modify everything like crazy! But their refrained beans are vegan as well as their tortillas. More options than most places!!

    I love that Subway is trying out vegan options – I just wish they were trying them out near me!!

  • Brenda June 29, 2012, 3:39 pm

    The magnets theory cracks me up! Does it matter if they are on the front or lesser-seen side of the fridge? Just last week I took off all the pictures and magnets from the front of the fridge and moved all of the magnets and only ‘important papers’ to the side of the fridge. Does this mean I have a lot of stuff, it’s just where people can’t see it?

  • Erin June 29, 2012, 4:07 pm

    The nursing cover debate is interesting to me not as a mom (I’m not one), but as someone who happens to be an American living in a different country/culture.

    I live in Asia (Mongolia to be specific) and women in Mongolia never use nursing covers or blankets or anything to cover themselves up when nursing. It is expected, encouraged and normal for women to breastfeed anywhere, anytime and to not feel weird about it. It took me awhile to get used to seeing women with their breasts hanging out in public (although my mom was a La Leche League leader my whole life and I have grown up around lots of breastfeeding women).

    I think the way different cultures approach women’s bodies and how we then approach our own bodies impacts how we relate to breastfeeding and its appropriateness in public a lot. I would not be comfortable sitting at a cafe with my breast hanging out while I was breastfeeding, but there are many women here who are.

  • Julia H. @ Going Gulia June 29, 2012, 4:10 pm

    My family’s fridge is COVERED in magnets. Magnets & photos & papers & more magnets. We also have wayyy too much clutter in there. Makes sense now!

  • Caralyn @ glutenfreehappytummy June 29, 2012, 4:18 pm

    what a great post! these are really interesting articles. and yay for subway!

  • Amy June 29, 2012, 4:20 pm

    Lovee the extra reading, especially about the 10 year olds body image, really hoping to do more work with that when I start my master this fall, so thanks for the extra reading! Also, any thoughts yet on who Baby Henry looks more like? He still seems to be very fair in color but don’t know if that is just because he is still so young?

  • Liz June 29, 2012, 4:42 pm

    That article on diet types was fascinating! Your grilled cheese looks delicious. I’ve been obsessed lately with grilled cheeses made in my panini maker – soudough bread + 1 slice of baby swiss + 1 slice of havarti. Yum! 😀

  • Jen June 29, 2012, 4:49 pm

    I honstly DO NOT CARE how people choose to feed there child. If a mom wants to use a cover because SHE feels uncomfortable, then that is for HER to pick. If othere mom’s don’t care then that is for them. I wish people would stop picking on mothers and their everymove and trying to find some motive behind why the do things. Parents do what is best for them and their child. As long as the child is not indanger – leave them alone. Just my two cents. I don’t judge other others if they are doing what they want and the child is safe.

  • Vicky (Little Baby, Big City) June 29, 2012, 5:12 pm

    I nurse in public. I used to use he cover but my baby gets too distracted! So now I nurse him in a ring sling or the Ergo…. No cover, both the Ergo and ring sling cover enough!

  • Margaret June 29, 2012, 5:15 pm

    If/when I have kids, I’ll probably plan to breastfeed, and I would expect to feel somewhat self-conscious doing so in public… which is why I can’t imagine using a large cover like that! It just screams – look at me, my boobs are out!!!! I’d think a small blanket would suffice to cover parts as needed.

    In reading your blog as you’ve gone through pregnancy and birth, I’m filing away things for potential future reference, and I’m realizing that there’s an issue with not sharing information in general. Maybe we’re all too discrete… I find it strange that we have to pay professionals to learn how to do things that should be natural. Like lactation specialists. It’s great to have that resource, but that resource used to be built-in by simply watching our friends and family do what we needed to learn how to do.

    I’ve only actually seen in person a woman breastfeed once, a few years ago. (I’m now 27, and my closest friends aren’t married yet, much less having babies.) An acquaintance from college, so she was my age, we were at a friend’s going-away party, and all of a sudden I looked over and her shirt’s up and the baby’s eating. It struck me as odd and I felt a little uncomfortable, but not so much that I didn’t realize that it was actually a normal thing to do, and I can see that if people did that all the time, it wouldn’t be odd. But she was discrete, her shirt just pulled up enough as needed, it was easy to not notice. If she’d asked if people were uncomfortable, and put on some giant bib, that would have made it much more uncomfortable to me. The fact that she acted like it was no big deal is what allowed it to be no big deal.

  • Ashley M. [at] (never home)maker June 29, 2012, 5:17 pm

    Nursing covers are essential when you’re out of the newborn phase. My daughter does not stay on task in public without one. So, for me it isn’t a modesty issue/etc., it’s just practical.

  • Liz @ Tip Top Shape June 29, 2012, 5:57 pm

    Mmmm a grilled goat cheese sandwich sounds delicious!

  • Ali June 29, 2012, 6:06 pm

    BK has the BEST veggie burgers!!! 🙂

  • Bec June 29, 2012, 6:44 pm

    We always buy a magnet as a souvenir when we go someplace for a trip and now people give them to us from when they go somewhere, so we have a ton of magnets! But, our house feels far from cluttered and we are pretty good at throwing/giving away stuff we no longer use. The most cluttered place in our house is the fridge door-haha!

  • Laura June 29, 2012, 7:40 pm

    Do you own a lot of stuff and have many magnets on your fridge? Yes to stuff, but no to magnets! My fridge front is really orderly. Strangely enough…

    The Let Me Run link made me teary…what a neat group, and you know you’ve got something special when a team goes back for the one still finishing the course to support him.

    And finally, I’m dying for the vegan subs to come to GA. My husband loves Subway and we never eat there because I can’t get excited about okay cheese, okay bread, with okay vegetables. Decent protein options for vegetarians would be wonderful!

  • Dee June 29, 2012, 7:52 pm

    Heres when I was really really glad to have a nursing cover: When I had to travel cross country for work and had to pump on the plane. There is no way I wouldve felt comfortable pumping out in the open (nor in a yucky airplane bathroom). It was weird enough to cover up and have wires sticking out, it wouldve been worse if I just strapped it on outright. Maybe not everyone would feel that way, but for me its modesty… even though I lose *most* of my modesty when I had my son, something about whipping my boob out to hook up to a pump in public says ‘cover up’ to me.

  • Marissa C June 29, 2012, 7:54 pm

    I’ve got one of those covers and love it. I honestly don’t want most of the world up in my business. I’ll nurse at home in front of my family, even my brothers and father, but in public, it is really really hard to nurse discretely with a 6 month old who is distracted by EVERYTHING. I’d be showing far more than Janet Jackson to random strangers without the cover.

    Plus it means I can wear normal clothes…not all shirts are conducive to nursing and I don’t want the world seeing my muffin top and stretch marks.

    So while I like the spirit of the article, I’d argue it isn’t really practical for every one.

  • Kristin June 29, 2012, 8:35 pm

    I hate the way nursing covers are so bright and patterned… I have one and it is off white with an eyelet design… It is very discreet. I use it when I nurse in public. I would feel uncomfortable without one. I am getting bolder as I get more experienced with nursing. I could def see why a cover is practical for hiding the baby from distractions, my 4 mo old is super distracted while nursing even at home!

    I do wish people were more comfortable with nursing in the US.

  • Sara June 29, 2012, 9:09 pm

    I found the nursing cover to be incredibly awkward and difficult to use. It was hard to see Liam’s face to make sure he was aimed properly, and it seemed like despite my best efforts I kept flashing everyone anyway. Plus he was a messy, noisy eater and it was just a huge hassle. So I used the nursing cover exactly once. After that if we needed to go somewhere, I usually took a bottle of pumped breast milk with me and figured if I HAD to feed him again after it was gone, the boob was there. And then we ended up having to switch to formula after 4 months so it became a non-issue. But more power to all the ladies who are able to nurse in public without getting themselves and their babies soaked. I just didn’t have those mad skillz. 😉 BTW, I love the facial expressions on Henry in the photos (and the nickname Hungry, Hungry Henry). Thanks for sharing your journey!

  • Mary Nell June 29, 2012, 10:24 pm

    I concur with the thought that it is more about discretion and modesty than it is about shame. I breastfed and didn’t use a cover; however, I also moved to a side room when in public–just because I happen to have very large breasts and there was no way to breastfeed without a cover without showing my breast to others, which I think requires a very intimate relationship. Even at home, I only wanted to breastfeed in front of certain friends and family members other than my husband. I have had friends and family members who breastfed in front of me and it never bothered me; however, they were also able to do it without showing everyone everything.

    On a final note, I don’t think I have ever been more uncomfortable than when a 2 1/2 year old told her mommy during a parent conference that she wanted milk and the mom unbuttoned her blouse, picked up the child and fed her–not because I find breastfeeding abnormal or shameful, but because I saw the breast of a student’s parent during a conference. Just plain weird for me regardless of the context.

  • Maddy June 29, 2012, 10:53 pm

    A mill thanks for the great reads! I’m very much looking forward to joining GOTR Orlando when I move next month. Such a wonderful organization!! -Maddy

  • Sonia the mexigarian June 30, 2012, 12:17 am

    I have Over 20 magnets on my fridge. I’m screwed with clutter. Lol.

  • Sarah June 30, 2012, 2:48 am

    I never used a nursing cover. I was out and proud with BF my boys. But I live in Sydney, Australia so maybe things are more casual here. I just popped them out and they latched on and fed away… I’m sure the ‘general public’ occasionally got a glance of nipple every now and then. But I never cared and in my 24 months of doing it never EVER had anyone comment to me. The ONLY people who didn’t cope (initially but eventually sucked it up and got over it) were my in-laws who fled from the room the first time I did it.
    I’ve fed in malls, in planes, on the beach, in church, the library, in cafes… I cannot think of a single situation I’d not feed my kids if they needed it.
    Needless to say I think the covers are silly!!

    • Sarah June 30, 2012, 2:49 am

      I’ll also add that unless I was in my swimming togs I ALWAYS wore a stretchy singlet top under my clothes that I would pull down so I never revealed a flash of belly or back fat 🙂

  • Angie June 30, 2012, 6:58 am

    For my first 3 children I did not have a nursing cover and either draped a blanket or didn’t use anything. With my 4th, I got a nursing cover that I used a fair amount when he was very small, mainly because I would be nursing him places like church (!) and at my other kids’ events. But for the last several months (he just turned 1) he has been very resistant to the cover so I don’t use it. His trying to get the cover off of him creates more of a scene than if I just discretely offer him the boob. I will nurse him anywhere (2nd row of my oldest son’s voice recital, front row at a swim meet) because I shouldn’t have to miss things just because my baby is hungry. And the beauty of nursing is that you bring their food with you and the baby becomes remarkably portable!!

  • Morgan June 30, 2012, 7:43 am

    I used a nursing cover to feed my daughter in public because it made me more comfortable. I have big boobs when not nursing and while nursing they were ridiculous. My one and only nursing bra was a size 30H!!! I don’t know if I just lack the skills of other mamas but I was never able to master not exposing my whole boob while nursing. I have gotten enough negative attention for my large breasts to last a lifetime so covering made me able to leave the house. I actually hate the nursing cover debate because I think it puts unfair pressure on nursing mothers to change the views of society. I applaud any woman I see nursing a baby covered or not. I would potentially have switched to formula outside of the house I’d nursing covers were not an option. It felt that uncomfortable to me.

  • Megan @ The Road to Skinny June 30, 2012, 8:02 am

    I had to comment & weigh in on the nursing cover debate. I have one, and I used it to nurse my at the time, 2 week old baby, and I absolutely hated it. If the baby starts choking how the heck do you get the baby out quick to burp her? I will admit, I used it again at a friend’s birthday party, and it was better then, but I understand what the author was saying about making breastfeeding in public more awkward and strange. It’s really hard for me to be okay nursing in public, heck, I have a hard time doing it around my male in-laws. I so want to be that mom that doesn’t care, but it’s hard in our society to step up and do it, which is a shame.

  • Samantha June 30, 2012, 8:09 am

    On nursing covers – I use them for my own comfort. I don’t like showing my boobs OR my post-pregnancy stomach out in public! The nursing cover makes it possible to just wear one shirt, instead of layers, and I like to bring my boob all the way out when I nurse – it’s just easier for me. The cover makes me feel more comfortable and relaxed, which is a better experience for both of us. Especially when they get to the 5-6 month age where they hear a noise, let go of the nipple, and sit up/turn away to investigate, leaving my boob completely exposed. Some women can nurse without flashing everyone, but those of us with big ones usually feel more comfortable with coverage.

  • Allison@commitcomplete June 30, 2012, 11:06 am

    Chipotle- Salad with guacamole on top.

  • Tara June 30, 2012, 11:08 am

    I’ve done pro bono work for Compassion Over Killing – they are SO great! I can’t wait for the vegan options to go nationwide!

  • Jon @Elements2Lead July 1, 2012, 2:09 pm

    Thanks for sharing about my boys Caitlin! It was so much fun. And they loved the frames and picture idea. It was nice to give them something that everyone had signed. Thank you for the idea! Hope you and lil Henry are staying cool in these heat. Have an awesome week.

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