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I am so excited because I FINALLY have a swim buddy… DadHTP!


I’ve tried for two years to convince a friend to fall in love with swimming, but no dice.  It’s easier to find a running buddy than it is to find a swimming buddy.  But when Dad moved to Charlotte, he promised that he’d start swimming with me (we have grand plans to do a triathlon relay together one day).  Today was our first joint swim, and it was quite nice.  Truthfully, I could’ve seen myself blowing off my workout, but knowing that Dad was counting on me motivated me to go.


During my swim (I did 0.5 a mile, whoop whoop), I was thinking about the different types of workout buddies:


  • Commitment Buddy: A friend who helps hold you accountable.  You set regularly dates with commitment buddies and feel bad if you blow them off, so you end up always sticking to your workout goals.
  • Social Hour BuddyNicole and I are this kind of workout buddy – we use our workouts to catch up with each other.  We expend a lot of energy talking to each other and, as a result, don’t usually push each other super hard.  But that’s okay with us.
  • Training Buddy:  Two people, one training goal.  Your workouts revolve around prepping for a specific event.  Megan and I were training buddies for the Disney Marathon.  We did almost all of our long runs together.
  • Serious Buddy:  A serious buddy is a no-fuss kind of buddy.  You exercise together to make each other work as hard as possible – especially when you’re training for speed.


Of course, social hour buddies can also be training buddies, and commitment buddies can be serious buddies, etc.  Then again… there’s a whole category of crap workout buddies!  Workout buddies who make you feel small if you can’t keep up with them, ones who promise to meet you at the gym but blow you off, and buddies who always suggest cutting corners.  Those buddies are no good.  Ugh.


Post-workout dinner with my two favorite guys (Dad and Husband, of course):


Pasta with spinach, cast iron tofu, and broccoli.  The pasta was actually a gluten-free, corn-based pasta… it wasn’t exactly like real pasta but it was pretty good.


Gonna rummage up an evening snack.


I’d love to hear workout buddy stories… Good ones, bad ones. Horror stories!  Or are you a solo exerciser?



  • Brie April 24, 2012, 9:43 pm

    I do CrossFit so I have a whole gym full of workout buddies! I go to a 5:30 am class and the “morning crew” always makes it more fun. Plus, the other pregnant women and I gossip about pregnancy stuff, which is fun.

  • Alex @ Raw Recovery April 24, 2012, 9:50 pm

    I always tried to get my college roommate to go to the gym with me but she never did. I actually enjoy exercising on my own because I can’t exercise without my ipod, unless I’m in yoga. Gotta have my tunes 🙂

    • Alex @ Raw Recovery April 24, 2012, 9:52 pm

      Oh and I’m sorry but I can’t resist- does sex count as having a workout buddy?

      • CaitlinHTP April 24, 2012, 9:53 pm

        hahah yes, that is a very fun kind of workout buddy.

  • Army Amy* April 24, 2012, 9:54 pm

    I ran with some coworkers who begged me and a friend to run with them. We show up, and they take off at lightening speed. I guess we should have talked about our expectations ahead of time, but I thought we were all going to run together. I wish they would have slowed down; we’re just running for fun, after all!*

  • Callie @ The Wannabe Athlete April 24, 2012, 9:54 pm

    So which type of buddy is DadHTP? 🙂

    • CaitlinHTP April 24, 2012, 9:55 pm

      Commitment buddy!

  • Callie @ The Wannabe Athlete April 24, 2012, 9:55 pm

    Oh and I totally hear you on the social buddy thing. That’s my friend Katie. For instance we are meeting at 5:45am tomorrow to “run” – which really means chat for about 30 minutes while we attempt to put one foot in front of another at a semi-decent pace. 🙂

  • Meg @ My Chocolate Covered Life April 24, 2012, 9:57 pm

    I joined a Masters Swim Team because I simply couldn’t force myself to swim an hour on my own – it is too boring! The coach is fun and motivating, and I really look forward to seeing my teammates 3x a week. This will be my fourth year swimming competitively with the Masters Team and it makes all the difference.

  • Tanya April 24, 2012, 9:59 pm

    I started running partly as a way to get me time when I three small kids. I still enjoy the solo runs. However, when my 13 year old son spent nine months training to run a marathon with me, it was the most incredible time. Don’t think I’ll ever get a better workout buddy.

    • CaitlinHTP April 24, 2012, 10:00 pm

      Aw that is so sweet 😉

  • Bec April 24, 2012, 9:59 pm

    My friend Katie and I made amazing social workout buddies. Not only would we get our run in at a pace we were both comfortable with, but because we were gabbing most of the way we didn’t notice how tired we were and it didn’t make pushing out those last couple of miles as hard. Granted, the time we almost got murdered in the woods doing a trail run wasn’t our finest moment, but you know. Those things happen….right? No? Ok.

    • CaitlinHTP April 24, 2012, 10:00 pm

      Please tell the rest of the murder story (ECK!!)

      • Bec April 24, 2012, 10:12 pm

        The park we grew up near had tons of neat hiking trails that were perfectly safe 99.9% of the time. We were running a trail that ended near the railroad tracks – the tracks had steep bluffs to one side and the river on the other side. So not a place normal people would hang out. Just as we came up to the tracks, a scraggly looking dude in a trench coat (it was in the 80s)comes around the bend and starts power walking towards us. I have never run so fast uphill in my life. It didn’t help that a train came through to provide creepy sound effects. Needless to say when we made it back up to the park we both looked at each other with a total wtf just happened face. I don’t think we ever ran the trails again after that…

  • Katie @ Peace Love & Oats April 24, 2012, 10:04 pm

    I’ve always been a solo exerciser! The only time I had a workout buddy was my best friend in college and I would go to Jazzercise classes together several times a week!

  • Faith @ For the Health of It April 24, 2012, 10:05 pm

    I much prefer running solo – I don’t like feeling pressured to adapt to someone else’s pace!

  • Anna S. April 24, 2012, 10:05 pm

    I’ve had a commitment/motivation workout buddy but moved from that town. Boo. Now I sometimes work out with my grad school classmates.

    I ran most of my long training runs for my marathon/half marathon with my dad. He lives close enough to drive to me for that. He also runs the races with me. I can’t imagine doing a half or a whole without him.

  • Jenny April 24, 2012, 10:16 pm

    I have hiking buddies, but no workout buddies. I’ve only tried to run with one person and she was way to competitive for me so we only met up twice. I’d like to have a running buddy but none of my friends run and my SIL lives 8 hrs away (we get to workout together maybe 2x/year). For now that’s ok because my solo runs are when I figure out my life!

  • Amber @ Busy, Bold, Blessed April 24, 2012, 10:19 pm

    I’m a member of an online running group, you post your run, what pace, location, etc. and then people RSVP and join you. I have this girl who is significantly slower than me and she keeps coming to my runs (even though the pace was posted) and bogging me down. The other day me and another girl actually left her behind because she couldn’t keep up and told us to go ahead. It’s really awkward and I don’t want to tell her that I don’t want to run with her, but I’m trying to improve my pace!

    Awkward guilt inducing buddy?

    • alanna April 24, 2012, 10:39 pm

      That is awkward. I hate situations like that where you don’t want to be mean, but you kind of have to lay it out on the table. You could always invite a slower running find along to keep her company…

      Your online running group sounds awesome. I’m always looking for people to run with and that sounds like it makes things so much easier.

      • CaitlinHTP April 25, 2012, 8:33 am

        Ugh – that’s tough. Admittingly, this never happens to me 🙂 haha. But maybe you can run with her on your recovery days?

  • Ali April 24, 2012, 10:31 pm

    I like having workout buddies but I am training for my first half marathon and since motivation has always been a problem of mine, I wanted to prove to myself that I could actually do it on my own…and I have been! Just finished a 13.15 miler on Sunday and I just need to clean up my pacing, then taper time! 🙂

    Also – have you tried Tinkyada brown rice pasta? They make it in regular and organic and all sorts of shapes and it is amazing! You just have to be careful to not overcook it (just like any other pasta) and to rinse it when it is done cooking.

    • CaitlinHTP April 25, 2012, 8:33 am

      I think I have tried it… I need to try it again though. When I first went GF I was really against fake pasta but now I think I’ve forgotten what real pasta tastes like. LOL

  • alanna April 24, 2012, 10:36 pm

    I’ve always run by myself, but two years ago I joined a running group. I got into the habit of running with the 2 or 3 folks who were the same pace as me. Once the group ended, I was incapable of running alone, especially long runs. I tried for a few months, but just couldn’t motivate myself. So I started running with one of the guys from the group and my neighbor. My running group guy helped me improve my seed and my neighbor made it social and fun. I keep trying local running groups, but I’m so shy – meeting people is sooo hard! And you never know if anyone is going to runt he same pace as you.

    Funny things is tonight I went to a blogger run meetup and I meet two new running buddies. And last week I was invited to a 14 mile long run by a girl I only meet once. After 15 years of running, I’m finally making running friends! Now if I could just find someone to lift weights with…strength training is so boring and I know if would be a thousands better and I’d accomplish more with a buddy.

    Weird question: Any body else have a boyfriend who has a serious problem with male running partners?

    • CaitlinHTP April 25, 2012, 8:35 am

      Why does he have a problem with it? Is he jealous because he’s not a runner so you guys can’t share the hobby?

      I asked the husband if he would mind and he said, “Well, how hot is this dude?” LOL!!

      • Kelli April 25, 2012, 10:49 am

        I can understand a spouse being jealous of a running partner. If you are running distances regularly, you are going to get to know each other really well. I think it is easy to have conversations that are too intimate, etc. Not saying that you will, but just that it would be easy to get too close to someone. I have close friends who are dealing with this right now. He is running a marathon this weekend & has trained w/a female the whole time. Some genuine issues have come about because of all the alone time he has spent with this woman. I know everyone won’t have this problem, but it definitely can happen.

  • Chelsea April 24, 2012, 10:48 pm

    Solo exerciser! Seriously this past week I was talking in the hall at school about how I prefer working out alone because I feel like people hold me back (strength training wise at least). I love running buddies though! Then this jerk decided to tell me that not having a workout buddy is my “downfall” and I could get so much better if I had one. I got so offended. He was pretty much accusing me of having zero motivation and saying I’m weak because I don’t have a guy leading me in workouts. I went off needless to say. It was a touchy subject.

  • Jess April 24, 2012, 10:50 pm

    I had a buddy who would constantly blow me off. Like, all the time, for stupid reasons, like wanting to clean her house. We would sign up for races and she wouldn’t train at all, and would then complain the whole time that we could be doing the same thing around our neighbourhood for free. Stuff like that. She has now decided that she is ‘too busy’ to even see me, and I’m not worried at all!

    • CaitlinHTP April 25, 2012, 8:36 am

      Yeah… I wouldn’t be too worried either. Lame!

  • Katie @ Soulshine and Sassafras April 24, 2012, 11:06 pm

    I was working on a show in college, and I had a crush on one of my castmates (who I went on to date for 2 years). After rehearsal, a lot of us would go to the gym, and I always tried to snag a treadmill near him. Having a hot guy next to you that you want to impress is awesome motivation to work out as hard as you can.

  • Claire April 24, 2012, 11:14 pm

    Definitely a solo exerciser – I am way too competitive with myself and wouldn’t want to adapt to someone else’s pace. I’ve never had a problem with motivating myself to go for a run.

  • Allie April 24, 2012, 11:37 pm

    I actually met my running buddy WHILE running. She passed me, then I passed her, then she passed me. Finally she asked if I wanted to run together. I said “sure”, even though I was really thinking, “eh, fine.” Before her, I had always hated running with other people – they were always a different pace and it was too much pressure. But with her, we run the same pace, have the same goals, and we both want to run as much as possible! Plus, we’re at similar life stages (career oriented, no kids), so we can run a lot, but can also be flexible – we usually run at 8pm, but if one of us gets caught at work, it’s no problem to push it until 8:30 or 9.

    At first, we started running once a week. Now, we run as much as we can – usually 4 or 5 times a week. On April 15, we celebrated our 1 year runniversary. I would guess we’ve logged close to 1000 miles together, and now I can’t imagine life without my BRF! (Best Running Friend).

    • CaitlinHTP April 25, 2012, 8:36 am

      Aw that is so cute 🙂 Love it.

  • Peach April 25, 2012, 12:03 am

    I love exercise buddies! When I lived in NYC, my sister and I lived down the hall from each other and at least once a week we would go running together, we called it our “therapy” sessions. I miss that!

  • Laura @ She Eats Well April 25, 2012, 12:56 am

    I am a total solo exerciser. I think I just love that time to myself. However, I joined a running group last Sunday and plan to go this Sunday purely (selfishly) to see this cute guy. Hoping he’s single. Ha. Seriously.

  • KaraHadley April 25, 2012, 3:50 am

    I tend to be a solo workout person because none of my friends like to go as hard as me and I kind of hate to waste a workout. (I get in a crazy intense zone in the gym.) But a lot of the times the trainers at my gym are working in the same area as I am, so I push myself to work harder than them. That almost counts as a serious buddy, right? haha

  • mary @ minutespermile April 25, 2012, 6:18 am

    working out with friends is a great way to push yourself in all sorts of way- physically, socially, mentally! thanks for the encouragement.

  • Cait @ Beyond Bananas April 25, 2012, 6:22 am

    I tend to work out solo. I had a running buddy for a half, but she got injured. I do enjoy taking classes sometimes because I definitely think I push myself more when I am in a group of people because I am very competitive!

  • Hillary April 25, 2012, 7:10 am

    My dad is a “talker buddy” if that makes sense at all. He would much rather spend his time at the gym chatting than working out most of the time. Although he’s also my favorite walking buddy because I never get bored!

  • Chelsea @ One Healthy Munchkin April 25, 2012, 7:55 am

    I love that your dad is your new workout buddy. You guys have the cutest relationship!

    I’m more of a solo exerciser – I like to be able to go at my own pace and do what I want. Sometimes I like to drag a friend to spin class with me though!

  • Jodi @ Jodi, Fat or Not April 25, 2012, 8:02 am

    My sister has been my best workout buddy…we don’t live that close but share our workouts over the phone and email and do races together. She definitely pushes me to go harder on days I don’t want to run.

  • Andrea April 25, 2012, 8:34 am

    I have mixed feelings about workout buddies. I don’t have a specific one per say, but I will sometimes bring various friends with me to the gym or to classes at the gym. Bringing friends can be a great motivator for me commitment wise! I sometimes go on runs with my sister (wayy faster than me but is good about slowing down to match my pace) or my Dad (wayyy slower than me and I usually end up leaving him in the dust, but he doesn’t mind). So I guess I do enjoy working out alone but I also enjoy mixing in a workout with a buddy every once in awhile. Variety!

  • Krista April 25, 2012, 9:12 am

    My hubby is my workout buddy and he’s a trooper! He runs MUCH faster than me but is A-OK with me tagging along on his runs even though he’s really only “fast walking” when I go. LOL

  • Shannon April 25, 2012, 9:19 am

    My two co-workers and I decided to do some intense cardio/circuit workouts. One is intense, dedicated, and supportive; the other is overweight and whined throughout each and every activity. He COULN’T do it, blah blah blah. I think we burned more calories convincing him to do it than actually doing it….quite emotionally draining and I had to quit the group.

  • Alyssa @ Don't Look Down April 25, 2012, 9:59 am

    My friend Laura falls into several of those categories. When we were in college she was a commitment buddy and also a training buddy. Now we are long distance training buddies while still helping each other stay accountable, but when we are together we are mostly social hour buddies.

  • Lori April 25, 2012, 10:11 am

    My hubby is my work-out buddy! We always go to the gym together three times a week and then run afterwards. I just love working out with him. He’s the best!

  • Corrie Anne April 25, 2012, 10:12 am

    I love social hour buddies because I’m a little too serious about my workouts usually!

  • Sunny April 25, 2012, 10:27 am

    My husband has just started running with me (well we run at the same place and start at the same time, he’s way faster than me!) but he gets me out there each day. We are commitment and training buddies! The goal is a sprint triathlon by the end of the summer.

  • Kelli April 25, 2012, 11:07 am

    I am such a social exerciser! I am lucky because I have quite a few friends who I workout with. Now that I’m pregnant I’ve cut back on how much running & weight lifting I do, but I have a running partner who I miss! We meet up for lunch still, but it isn’t the same as chatting for a couple of hours on long runs. I feel that most of my workout buddies are a combo of all- we push each other, chat, hold each other accountable. It is great! I feel really fortunate to have so many like minded healthy peeps in my life.

  • kwithme April 25, 2012, 11:29 am

    I have only had one running buddy and it was my neighbor who lived across the street. She was an experienced runner who was trying to get back into shape after 2 kids 14 mos apart. I was a newbie doing the Couch25K. She was the best. As the newer one, I set the pace and workouts and controlled the timer. We talked the whole run usually which was really good for keeping me from going too fast. She never made me feel like I should be doing more. We signed up for a 5k and she ran it with me. She moved 3 weeks after our 5K and I cried on our last run. We only ran together for 5 months but I give her alot of credit for getting me through the toughest part.

    I am trying to learn to be a good running buddy. I have only run with 2 other people. I think I pushed too hard without meaning to. I hope I never made them feel bad. I will be training for a half this summer and I’d love to find someone to run some of the long runs with.

    One funny experience, at a local 5k, a woman I knew from our kid’s school and I were signed up. I suggested running together. She said ok, but I knew in the first 100 yds that I could not keep up. She ended up taking 2nd in our age group at 25min and change. I finished around 31 mins. There was no way that I would have kept up with her. We then waited for the other women that we knew and cheered them on.

  • Anna April 25, 2012, 12:33 pm

    That is awesome! Go you for encouraging your Dad! I also swim with my Dad..he is the one who got me into swimming and triathlons. I wish he was closer so we could be workout buddies though!

  • Amber K April 25, 2012, 12:56 pm

    I actually hate working out with other people. I could go for a walk with my husband, but if I want to work out I don’t want to talk or be accountable to anyone else.

  • Ebernst April 25, 2012, 1:01 pm

    I think right now I have more swimming buddies than running buddies! It probably helps that I’m teaching several people how to swim competitively for triathlons. (Best way to get swimming buddies!) But several of us from my job swim at lunch together a few days a week!

    I had the best group of commitment, social, and training buddies while training for my half! I don’t think I would have gotten through my long runs without them! And I got to be my sister’s commitment buddy the past two weeks for her 10 mile runs! I think training with people is the best!

  • K @ Finding a skinnier me April 25, 2012, 1:12 pm

    My two favorite work out buddies are, my old dog and my husband. The puppy is too young to really be a motivation and she is lazy. But the older dog LOVES exercising, seeing her unhappy because we haven’t walked recently gets me out there and moving, then my goal becomes to tucker her out, which is hard work even if she is old. My husband is my best cheerleader, he is always pep talking me, telling me I did great and he is up for anything, walking, running, bicycling, the gym, whatever. I don’t have a lot of friends that exercise regularly so sadly those are my only two work out buddies at this moment 🙂

  • AlisonJ April 25, 2012, 1:59 pm

    The light fixture looks awesome!!!

  • Lisa in IL April 25, 2012, 3:46 pm

    I have lost every workout buddy I have ever had except or my son. He goes to the gym with me every day and rides me if he catches me slackin or doing something incorrectly. He also pushes me to do just one more of anything he’s teaching me. He’s tough but nice. He won’t walk with me – says he can’t keep up with me so every race I enter I enter alone, kind of lonely out there by myself but my goal is to finish & finish well.

  • jameil April 26, 2012, 8:12 am

    My running partner was awesome for the first 3 months of our time together! We had the same goals, we met three times a week and had everything aline. We could chat on easy days, do long runs and get in some quality work. Then she lost focus and was always 10-20 minutes late, didn’t want to ever run hard, flaked out on doing a race together. I had to cut her off. We’re in the same running group so we still see each other and we’re cool (she seems to have regained her focus but now on short distances versus my long) but I don’t rely on her to get out of the door anymore.

    • jameil April 26, 2012, 8:13 am


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