Iâ€™m making a real effort to get back on track in all areas of my life. Healthy eating â€“ CHECK. Sleep â€“ CHECK. Fitness â€“ CHECK. Catching up on Fear the Walking Dead â€“ CHECK (and AHHH! So good). And last, but not least, Book a Week! When I was about 15 books into my New Yearâ€™s Resolution, someone asked me if trying to read a book a week would burn me out on reading. At the time, I said, â€œNope!â€ Butâ€¦ It did. I definitely had a period where I did not want to pick up a bookâ€¦ so I didnâ€™t.
Iâ€™ve been getting back into the habit. Hereâ€™s a GREAT parenting book that I just finished this week.
This book is AMAZING, thought-provoking, and insightful, and I highly recommend that all parents of young children (2 â€“ 6 years old would probably be the best) pick up a copy. This book was given to me by Henryâ€™s preschool director, as many of the philosophies described guide the schoolâ€™s procedures.
This book has a huge emphasis on unstructured play, which I love. And the book discusses so many crucial topics and gives great guidance on handling many â€œdisciplineâ€ issuesâ€¦ which actually arenâ€™t discipline issues at all. I loved the idea of â€œchanging the place, not the childâ€ when it comes to so many things, like roughhousing, messy art, or even swear words. This is a very progressive book that places a lot of emphasis on understanding and respecting a childâ€™s emotions. It also gives a good look at what kids are developmentally capable of understanding/appreciating.
The title â€“ â€œItâ€™s Okay Not to Shareâ€ â€“ focuses on the fact that the author does not support â€œforced sharing on demand.â€ Adults do this, she says, because of social politeness, but what weâ€™re really teaching kids is that 1) they canâ€™t trust adults to protect their play and 2) they should get what they want instantly. She also argues that forced sharing doesnâ€™t actually teach generosity. Instead, the author advocates taking long turns and sharing only when one child ready to be â€œdone,â€ which actually benefits both kids on the equation. Makes sense to me! If this mindset sounds logical to you, check out another chapter of the book here!
I think the hardest part of applying these â€˜renegade rulesâ€™ is applying the rules in public with parents/kids who donâ€™t follow the same philosophy. Thereâ€™s a section at the end of each chapter about this very issue, which I really appreciated! I have actually long been against forced sharing; this rule is easy to enforce when your kid wants something someone else does. But its haaaard when a stranger is demanding your kid share on demand. The other day on the playground, another mom told Henry to get off the swing for a kid who had just walked over! She said, â€œItâ€™s his turn now. Get off!â€ I wasnâ€™t sure what to do so I spluttered out a, â€œHenry, this boy would like a turn. Are you ready to be done? No? Okay, well when you are, let him have the swingâ€ but I felt SO AWKWARD because I was definitely going against the grain. Thanks to reading this book, I know that I was politely supporting his right to play (just as I wouldâ€™ve protected the other kidâ€™s right if Henry had wanted his swing).
A reader on Instagram asked me for a list of parenting books that I have read and love. Here you go!
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