It’s that time again – Healthy Tipping Point Success Story Time!  I love sharing other people’s stories about getting fit, finding balance, having children, falling in love, overcoming addiction, discovering their passions, and/or living their life to the fullest.  But HTP stories are generally pretty serious, which is why I think it’s time that I share a more humorous HTP


Meet Maura – she changed her life, focused on become healthy (mentally and physically), and jumped back into the Santa Monica dating scene.  While looking for love, she found… herself


Maura says, “My Healthy Tipping Point came in January 2009.  I woke up in the New Year realizing that I was out of shape and had a frown painted on my face most days.   Almost two years later, my pant size has been cut in half.  I dropped meat from my diet, and I became a runner – a sport that I thought was for the "elite."  An activity reserved for someone who is a bad-ass.  Turned out that there was a bad-ass living inside of me, just waiting to come out.


I think this morning’s 4 miler is just another example of how running is not innate. I still need walking breaks. I’m not fast. But really, who cares? I never claim to be Flo-Jo, and I’ve run enough races and miles where I think it’s fair to say I’ve been upgraded to the “bad-ass” status.  


The race that flipped my life upside down was the marathon I did in June of this year with Team in Training.  My outlook on charity, cancer, and the ability of the human body and spirit is forever altered.


I cannot tell a lie though. I originally signed up to Team in Training…to meet boys. It’s shameful, right? But here I was having lost 30 pounds, feeling fabu, and hoping to meet a guy to share my new found confidence and athletic passions with. Or hell, even just a date would have sufficed!


You see, I’ve been single for a very. long. time. And looking back its clear why. I’m pretty sure the type of man that I want to attract is not attracted to a woman who enjoys knocking back Patron Silver like it’s going out of stock and spends the weekend sitting on the couch. When you’re slurring your words and not able to stand in your heels without swaying, your chances of attracting a man – at least a quality one – are pretty slim. It ain’t rocket science. 


But I seriously cleaned up my act and was now emotionally happy, a bad-ass runner and successful career woman. Unfortunately, I didn’t meet any boys in Team in Training. I was, however, given a life-changing experience. Fair deal to say the least.  :)  But months after the marathon was over, I was left feeling a little dissatisfied. I got healthy, ran 26.2 miles, lost my 2 extra chins, started a blog, and was always smiling…so honestly? WHERE IS HE? 


I was posed with the question “Well, what are you doing to be proactive in finding a guy?” My first response was, “Ew. Mind your business.” But after a little self reflection, I realized I could make more of an effort. So I sent a mass email to every girlfriend, basically telling them to rack their brain and set me up. I went on a few dates that I thought went well…but was met with radio silence.


I signed up for and eHarmony, knowing online dating was now very much a social norm. I “winked” at cute boys. I wrote interesting guys what I thought were interesting emails….and again, was met with radio silence. Seriously, you would have thought my profile headline read, “I cause lots of drama and will cling to your side like a needy puppy dog.” I was baffled.


Now let’s not omit the fact that some men did contact me. Like the one who described himself as – and I do not paraphrase – “a conservative, free-market, liberty-oriented Jewish Republican who only drinks a few times a year, and listens to Rush Limbaugh every morning.”  It wasn’t that he was Jewish and I’m Catholic.  I am a woman of equal opportunity.  You say Shalom, I say Slàinte. That wine’s kosher?  Well pass it down!  It was the “conservative, free-market, liberty-oriented Republican, Rush Limbaugh” thing that did not bode well for my bra-burning ways.  🙂 There’s not enough make-up sex in the world that would allow for the arguments that I’m sure would have ensued! 


And let’s not forget this gem that arrived in my inbox one day: 


Subject:  I’ll Be Honest With You…

I think you’re beautiful and want to hook up so let me know when you’re free and I can come over to your house text or call me since I don’t come to the site to often.

Phil (Enter Phone Number Here) 


Take away the fact that Philip is 40, divorced, living with his three children – not an ideal match in my mind.  Or that he doesn’t know how to use correct grammar – even just periods would be nice.   But who says these things to someone they’ve never met?   Dirty, dirty men, that’s who! The same kind of men who include this in their personal photos:


Taken straight from the pages of  I swear. 


Now listen, I’m a heterosexual female with blood running through my veins. Can I appreciate a nice bod? Of course! But does that make it okay to include this in your set of photos that are supposed to showcase who you are? It’s the equivalent of me bending over and taking a self-portrait of my cleavage. Not. Acceptable.  


So online dating, blind dates, set ups – and nothing has panned out. And I live such a rich and full life – overflowing with family, friends, and fun – that on a good day, being single is not a chore, nor all that hard. 


But there are days where it’s simply exhausting. Exhausting to know nothing I’ve done has worked thus far. To worry that a guy I do meet will Google-stalk me and find my blog – where I spout off about wanting to find love (that won’t scare him away or anything, right?) To live in LA – a seemingly impossible city to date in, but where my family and life happens to be.  


As a 29-year-old woman, I never imagined that I still would be alone. Some days, the fear of never being in love can be stifling. I don’t even attempt to choke back the tears some nights going to bed. Because I refuse to feel bad for wanting love and a relationship. 


Want and need are two different things. Do I need a man to lead a full life? No way – my mama raised me better than that! I’ve been forced to understand that life doesn’t come wrapped up in the package that we expected as little girls. And maybe I have years to wait to find my fellow bad-ass.  In the meantime, I have to keep living a healthy, happy life. The more miles I run, the more challenges I tackle, the more I work to exude happiness and confidence…the more I am raising the bar for what I will want and expect in a partner. And that’s a good thing. Mama also raised me to never settle. 


Some of us find love at a young age. Some of us didn’t waste time knockin’ back Patron in bars, or leading mentally and physically unhealthy lives, therefore creating a bigger window of possibility to meet someone.   But here I am, finally healthy, living in La La land and waiting it out. And I could either wait in misery, or I could keep striving to become an even healthier, more beautiful, confidant woman. Man or no man, there’s life and love in every nook and cranny, waiting to be found. 


And whatever my dating status may be, it never takes away from my status as a bona-fide bad-ass!”


Other Healthy Tipping Point Stories:


  • Michele:  Love Shouldn’t Hurt
  • Cynthia:  Healthy is More than Size / Dealing with IBS
  • Erica:  Positive Thinking in Real Life
  • Ben: A 120 Pound Journey to an Ironman
  • Erin: Young, Strong, and Beating Distorted Thinking
  • Tina:  Two Pink Lines Motivated Her to Get Healthy
  • Bo: A Man’s Healthy Tipping Point Journey
  • Emily:  A Slow Switch Helped Her Lose Nearly 100 Pounds 
  • Kayla:  The Fear of Going Blind Motivated Her to Get Healthy 
  • Maria:  A Gallbladder Stone Scare Showed Her The Importance of Real Food
  • Dani:  Learning to Run Through the Couch to 5K Program
  • Maissa:  Finding a New Outlet for Negative Emotions
  • Freya:  A Journey Out of Anorexia
  • Carrie:  Ditched Distorted Thinking and Ran a Marathon
  • Amy:  A Mom Who Lost Baby Weight and Became a Triathlete
  • Jenny:  Saw Lance Armstrong on Oprah and Decided to Ride a Century
  • Lauren:  Stays Active Despite Being a Busy Associate at a Financial Firm
  • Beth:  A Friend’s Serious Illness Inspired Her to Focus on Her Own Health


So – my questions for all of you!  Can you relate to Maura’s story? How did you meet your match?  Do you know any single, cute, active men in Los Angeles who are dying to meet a lovely girl like Maura (we’re serious)?



  • Samantha Angela @ Bikini Birthday November 4, 2010, 1:03 pm

    This is my favourite HTP yet!

    • Leanne @ Simplicitlee November 4, 2010, 1:25 pm


    • Amanda November 4, 2010, 1:33 pm

      I completely agree!! I can relate to Maura on so many levels!

    • Amy November 4, 2010, 1:52 pm

      Agreed! I relate 1000%. Yes, 1000%

  • Rose November 4, 2010, 1:04 pm

    I needed this. Thanks for sharing Maura.

  • Michele @ Healthy Cultivations November 4, 2010, 1:05 pm

    I’m in Maura’s shoes actually. And I can totally relate to the “want someone but don’t need someone else” to be happy part. Life is a funny thing, and it doesn’t always happen on the time schedule we’d like. That’s why it’s best to just live your life, and let things fall into place when they’re supposed to… hmm, if they’re supposed to.

    • Angela @ Eat Spin Run Repeat November 4, 2010, 1:11 pm

      I totally 100% agree on this! I’m in the same stage and keep reminding myself about that. It’s like you took the words straight out of my mouth!

  • Heather November 4, 2010, 1:05 pm

    What a great story, can definitely relate. Although I have a boyfriend now, I went through the whole dating round robin and it can be so frustrating. Everyone says it, but once I stopped caring and stopped actively looking that’s when my bf and I started dating. Someone I would have never thought I would have dated too, so it’s where you least expect it!

    • kathleen November 4, 2010, 4:32 pm

      my thoughts exactly. once i stopped caring and stopped trying to force things to happen everything just kind of worked out. here i am married and pregnant. i have no idea how it happened. if you would’ve told me i would be 2 years ago i would have laughed at you.

  • Jillian@ Reshape Your Life November 4, 2010, 1:05 pm

    This HTP is awesome! It actually sounds EXACTLY like my sister (who just ran her first 5k!) I had to check the name and picture TWICE just to make sure 😉

    Thanks for sharing!! And way to go on running a marathon Maura!

  • Sarena (The Non Dairy Queen) November 4, 2010, 1:05 pm

    I met my husband in college at the pool. Sixteen years later…I am still loving every second with him and we even work together!

  • lindsay November 4, 2010, 1:06 pm

    LOVE this! Maura – you are hysterical! Keep focusing on making yourself happy and healthy. That is what is most important 🙂

    Also love the TNT shout-out – I worked for LLS/TNT for 4 years and I just love stories like these!

  • Kelly November 4, 2010, 1:06 pm

    Love this post! With an attitude and personality like hers, I’m sure she’ll find an amazing guy soon!

  • J November 4, 2010, 1:10 pm

    Dating is so, so hard. Thanks for sharing this story- so many of us can relate. Maura- wish I knew a quality guy in the LA area for ya, but I’m sure one will come along soon! Just think about all the good things you have ahead of you.

  • Nicole November 4, 2010, 1:12 pm

    Love this post like so many of your HTP stories. I’m only 24 and feel the same away about my search for mr. right. I know I’m a beautiful, smart, articulate, etc. young women, but if that’s the case why am I still single? In any case like Maura I am embracing my singleness because I know I rock but it’s hard not to think about every so often especially when you start to have friends who are married or when coworkers invite you and your boyfriend to their house warming-except, I don’t have a boyfriend.

  • Dez @ Dezolutions November 4, 2010, 1:13 pm

    What a great writer! Funniest HTP yet. What is her blog address?

  • Carol November 4, 2010, 1:13 pm

    I loved reading this HTP! I can relate so thanks for sharing your story with honesty(and humour!).

  • Beth @ Beth's Journey to Thin November 4, 2010, 1:14 pm

    Hahah I love this post!! I love Maura’s hysterical writing style, and i do love that she’s not giving up though she realizes she doesn’t need a man.

  • Cat November 4, 2010, 1:14 pm

    Where/what is Maura’s blog/email address? I would LOVE to send her a note! Seriously, many, many things in common with this post!

  • Liz November 4, 2010, 1:14 pm

    Can you link her blog? Thanks!

    • Caitlin November 4, 2010, 1:15 pm

      I just asked her if she would want to share it – if she does I’ll put it in the post.

  • Heather November 4, 2010, 1:15 pm

    Oh gosh, I was rocking Maura’s shoes & have to tell you girl…do NOT give up! I met my hubby through & come to find out he went to school with my best friend (we met through work.) AND he lived just a couple miles from me. He was (IS) my prince charming & I went through A LOT of frogs to find him.

    Hang in there girl & I’m more than happy to share more of our story with you if you’d like. We’ve been together for over 4 years now & got married on Feb 27 of this year!

    He’s out there girl……he’ll find you 🙂

  • Jessica November 4, 2010, 1:16 pm

    I can totally relate to Maura. Only, I just came out of a divorce & am back in the dating scene – which is actually terrifying to me!
    Keep going with your bad-ass self!

  • Hallie November 4, 2010, 1:16 pm

    Hmm. I know a few people involved with Team in Training in LA (not well, but I went to high school with one and college with another) they are girls, but maybe they know those cute active boys? I can maybe link you gals up if you think that would help.

    I agree with this in a million ways. I know it’s cliche and terrible to say to a single woman “it comes when you’re not looking for it” but that’s how it always happened for me and clearly, Maura is awesome and will find her man soon enough.

    Oh and P.S. I’m going to try somehow to fit “You say Shalom, I say Slàinte” into my wedding next year, since I’m Jewish and my fiancé is not.

  • Amara@GirlinaWhirl November 4, 2010, 1:17 pm

    I had to comment on this! You are awesome! My sister went through the same thing. Honestly I think she was so successful, smart, and beautiful, that she intimidated most guys. She had some beautiful friends in the same boat too. Finally, at around 31 (sorry –but it’s her happy story and not yours) he showed up, and was everything she had hoped for. Hold strong! No settling –you’re worth enough to wait for what you need.

  • Lesley November 4, 2010, 1:18 pm

    Love this, and can totally relate 🙂

  • Diana @ Diana Tries a Tri November 4, 2010, 1:19 pm

    Hah I LOVED that! I can relate in so so many ways. Online dating definitely has it’s fair share of weirdos that’s for sure, and I think I’ve been messages by at least half of them! I love how Maura mentioned that she refuses to feel bad for wanting love and a relationship. AMEN! Keep it up Bad-Ass!

  • Julie November 4, 2010, 1:19 pm

    Ha ha! I was at this point, too! That was almost 3 years ago. I had given up on the prospects of companionship, having not had a boyfriend 9 years ago in high school. So I went around, trying to be my “bad @$$” self, knowing that love was not for me.

    Fortunately(?), my plans were intercepted by a guy I met at the gym (running changed my life!), and he would not give up on me and the man-bashing ways I had as a consequence of my past rejection/experiences. It was unexpected, almost unwelcome, but I’m glad I gave us a chance!

    It has taken me these years to actually start imagining my future with someone else. I was SO convinced it would not happen that I already had my life planned as a single woman. It actually seemed pretty awesome!

    P.S. I live in the LA area, too. Did all the online stuff and had a similar experience to you.

  • Leah @ Why Deprive? November 4, 2010, 1:20 pm

    I LOVED this post!! What a great attitude!

    Maura, you are a definite badass! Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  • Jodi November 4, 2010, 1:20 pm

    Haha. Wow. Seriously…are we seperated at birth?! I am going through the same thing right now! I’m about to be 33 years old and just got out of an emotionally manipulative relationship. Did my share of travelling and partying and livin’ it up. and through it all, spent lots of time eating with my butt on the couch! after the breakup, i’ve discovered running, run my first race, healed the emotional scars, and tried to find forgiveness in my heart. Now i’m jumping back in the dating pool and it’s scary and discouraging sometimes because like you, i also feel like settling isn’t an option (should it ever be?)… all i can say is, keep your spirit, keep your humor, trust that you are on the right path and you’re perfect partner (for you) is heading your way with every step you take. thank you for sharing your story! It’s nice to hear from a fellow “single gal” out there!!!

  • Marisa C. November 4, 2010, 1:20 pm

    I can totally relate! I have been through all sorts of interesting dates, online profiles and gotten some interesting e-mails. 🙂 Everyone is on their own schedule, but it can be hard sometimes!

  • Kristen November 4, 2010, 1:20 pm

    Maura, Thanks so much for sharing this, I felt as thought I was reading my own words. I don’t NEED to be in a relationship, but I WANT to be in one. I love my friends, but it’s starting to get old just hanging out with them, going to bars. I can’t wait to begin reading your blog!

  • JenATX November 4, 2010, 1:21 pm

    I can relate, it is so hard to meet good guys! My sis actually met her current boyfriend of a year on & they both live in southern LA so maybe there is hope yet! Hang in there Maura because you sound awesome.. and like a badass 😉

  • Kim November 4, 2010, 1:23 pm

    I was SO in her shoes. I actually met my partner on Match. My advise is not to put all your eggs in one basket and to keep an open mind. I was so focused on my check list that I wrote a ton of guys off. My boyfriend’s shoes would have been a deal breaker if we met a year before. He’s my perfect match and I love him in all of his geekiness….including the shoes.

  • Brittney November 4, 2010, 1:23 pm

    This. Post. Rocked.

  • Michelle @ a Whole lot of Life November 4, 2010, 1:24 pm

    I love this story! Maura, you rock and are so funny!

    Am I missing the link to Maura’s blog in the post? I would love to check out her blog…

  • Leanne @ Simplicitlee November 4, 2010, 1:24 pm

    Thank you Maura for sharing your story!

    I think that you going out there and pursuing your passions & tackling challenges is the best thing for you! Love always finds you when you’re not looking.

    I am going to think of myself as badass from now on when I’m running 😉 hehe I love that!

  • grocery goddess jen November 4, 2010, 1:25 pm

    I really loved this story, genuinely. Who knows why so far it hasn’t worked out. Clearly Maura is awesome and will absolutely find the right person, and who knows, maybe this post will lead to that someone??

    I’ve been with my bf for four years. Marriage is in my future, but who knows when!

  • Raya @ Raya Runs November 4, 2010, 1:29 pm

    OH. MY. GOSH. THIS IS MY LIFE. Seriously. I’ve done the same things-Match, Eharmony, running, etc…and I feel exactly the same way!!!! I’m 28 and so single it’s not even funny. And it’s hard sometimes when most of your friends are dating/already married. “The right one will come along when the time is right” is not always easy to hear when you’re going to bed alone, again. Thank you for posting this, this made my day!!!! 🙂

    • Julie November 4, 2010, 3:18 pm

      ugh. you’re speaking my language sister. 28, single, been on every dating website known to man, and yet I still go to bed alone.

      • Raya November 4, 2010, 10:46 pm

        Haha, I’m loving reading everyone’s comments!! It’s always good to realize we’re not alone!

  • sara November 4, 2010, 1:30 pm

    This is a great HTP! Love it.

  • Tina @ Faith Fitness Fun November 4, 2010, 1:30 pm

    What a great and different HTP. I love reading these even more after sharing my own on here.

    And Maura – you’re gorgeous. You have an awesome attitude. You basically rock. I would date ya in a heartbeat if I were a dude. 😀

    • Maura November 4, 2010, 4:23 pm

      Hahaha, right back at you woman (minus that whole married thing you have going on!)

  • Rachel November 4, 2010, 1:33 pm

    Love this!!!

  • Dani @ Dani Does It November 4, 2010, 1:34 pm

    Maura is a total badass (and really funny!), no way she’ll stay single for too long! Also, I think love finds you when you least expect it…

    By the way, my boyfriend Matt does have a LOT of single friends… want me to ask him???

    • Maura November 4, 2010, 2:55 pm

      Um, yes please! 😉

    • Caitlin November 4, 2010, 10:25 pm

      Seriously – ask 🙂

  • Sarah November 4, 2010, 1:35 pm


    I actually met my husband in the cliche “I decided I was going to stop obsessing over finding a man and focus on myself and then all of a sudden there he was” way. When I was single I hated those stories (because the women that told them were happily married and DIDN’T UNDERSTAND) so I’m a little embarrassed to have one myself, ha.

    I chronicled our meeting here … … if anyone is curious!

  • Jenn November 4, 2010, 1:35 pm

    Great HTP story, and so relatable for me. I’m 29 (30 next week!) and single. I spent my 20s travelling and generally having fun and thinking I had a lot of time later for a serious relationship. Suddenly it feels like it’s later and I’m looking around wondering if I missed my opportunity.

    Anyway, I also am trying online dating and it is TOUGH! There’s so many strange people out there. But I really think it’s one of those things where you just have to keep trying. Two of my best friends met serious relationships online, so I know it’s possible! Good luck.

  • Simi November 4, 2010, 1:39 pm

    BEST ONE!!!
    I was on the same boat as maura 🙂

  • PAM November 4, 2010, 1:42 pm


    You are hysterical..Love the way you keep being upbeat. Hang in there, someone special will come along.

  • ashleigh November 4, 2010, 1:47 pm

    Like many others, I can totally relate and I love this HTP. Thanks for sharing Maura!

  • sweetkaroline November 4, 2010, 1:48 pm

    i am for sure in Maura’s shoes right now. except i’ve given up on dating websites and am just trying to stay as busy as I can hanging out with friends, working, and exercising

  • Deirdre November 4, 2010, 1:48 pm

    This is great! I can totally relate to her as a very Irish girl living in a big city(NYC) who is struggling to date but still be satisfied with my singledom. I also relate to online dating! I’m still on it but its hard! She rocks! Caitlin, I really enjoy this series! I love how you cover people from all over with many different stories.

  • katie November 4, 2010, 1:49 pm

    excellent story!

  • Lee November 4, 2010, 1:49 pm

    This is awesome! I’m going to check out her blog right now.

  • Sara November 4, 2010, 1:52 pm

    LOVE LOVE LOVE this one!

  • Karen November 4, 2010, 2:02 pm

    What a great story. Sounds just like my life!!!! Maura, you rock it girl. There have to be good guys out there! I experienced the same b.s. with match. haha. Keep on running (that’s what I do) and know you are amazing:)

  • Stephanie November 4, 2010, 2:11 pm

    I love this HTP! I am soooooo in her shoes. I spent 4 years in a relationship that ended out of the blue. 29 and single and living in NYC is not as fun as it sounds. The majority of my friends are married or engaged. At this point, I feel like I’m a professional bridesmaid. I’ve been set up by friends and faked a smile on more bad internet dates that I can count and yes I’ve gotten my share of emails from men with no shirts on. GROSS. Where are all the sweet, fun, and most importantly “normal” single guys?

  • Meg November 4, 2010, 2:16 pm

    I am sooo in her shoes right now.. I was in a relationship for 3 years and I thought he was the one. I loved his daughter as my own and thought all was well in the world until it wasn’t… I really can’t say when it was over but when it was I was devastated…and relieved.

    The relieved part made me feel guilty but also gave me hope that he was not, in fact, the one and that my future husband was still out there looking for me.

    Its now been a year and a half since I have been single and I feel its time for My Mr. Right to find me because I always dreamed, I would be married and having babies by now (age 26).

    I can totally relate to Maura and hopefully our men will come find us soon!

  • Tracey @ I'm Not Superhuman November 4, 2010, 2:25 pm

    I loved this HTP! So funny!

  • Vanessa November 4, 2010, 2:26 pm

    Been there! It’s when you stop looking that love will find you, cliche I know but very true!

  • Jen November 4, 2010, 2:28 pm

    I love the way Maura writes! I have a similar story. At 33, I sorta started triathlons to meet men. Well, I got injured and now I’m married to my chiropractor. Maura – don’t give up hope! However, keep in mind…I asked HIM out first. It never would have happened if I had waited for him to ask!

    • Cathleen November 4, 2010, 3:04 pm

      “I got injured and now I’m married to my chiropractor.”

      Excellent! This got a big giggle out of me.

    • Maura November 4, 2010, 3:08 pm

      I love that you asked him out first. I cringe at the “rules” of dating – I say toss ’em out! Doing so looks like it paid off for you 🙂

  • Katie November 4, 2010, 2:28 pm

    Preaching to the choir! I can’t buy a date :/ I don’t get it! I just want a guy w/ a job and doesn’t get raging drunk on the weekends 🙁 Good luck sister if not, I’ll come out your way and we’ll show them how fabulous singles live life.

  • Paige (Running Around Normal) November 4, 2010, 2:30 pm

    What a cute HTP story! Girl, you are one badass chick 🙂

  • Carolyn @ Perfectly Imperfect November 4, 2010, 2:32 pm

    I am totally in Maura’s shoes right now. I am also 29 and always envisioned myself being married long ago. I always assumed it would just happen. I’ve now been single for several years and let me tell you, it is tough to meet men, especially good ones. I hope I find him someday, but at my age, I’ve decided I have to live my life intead of waiting around.

  • Errign November 4, 2010, 2:33 pm

    Favorite HTP. I’m at work and I seriously LOL-ed so many times reading this.

  • Sara @ OurDogBuffy November 4, 2010, 2:35 pm

    Love is out there, Maura! I’m sure. I’m glad you recognize you don’t NEED a man to make you happy. Too many women think they need a man to be happy. I have friends who are single, looking for love but still haven’t found it, so hang in there! I always thought that would be me, since I didn’t date in high school, but love found me when I graduated high school to my surprise. You never know how life will turn out!

  • Juli D. November 4, 2010, 2:36 pm

    I was pretty much single until I met my man at age 24. My BFF is 29 and single – and she’s the most amazing, beauitful, good-hearted person that ever walked the planet. But I think that’s part of the reason she hasn’t had a BF in a long while – she’s great and won’t settle for any halfassed loser. Love will find her and I’m sure it’ll find Maura too – but it’s true that the waiting can suck.

  • Suzanne November 4, 2010, 2:39 pm

    Love the post! Keep on runnig, Maura, someday he will be right behind you!

    I met my husband through Craigslist. He was new to the area and was looking for new friends. I had a few friends move out of town and needed to meet some new people too. We emailed a bit, met up, and became best friends for about a year. Then we realized that since we were pretty much already dating, we might as well make out too! Just got married 2 months ago! 🙂

  • Holly @ couchpotatoathlete November 4, 2010, 2:41 pm

    What an awesome post Maura!

    I met my husband in 2007 – I was 24 and I had never had a boyfriend! I was so nervous around new people that I honestly thought I would never find anyone. I joined the police reserves in my city (yes to try to meet someone!) and I did! The first night I went I met Jason and everything just fell into place. I was 24 and he was 28. We got married in less than a year of meeting each other.

    So as corny as it sounds, don’t give up. If you want someone, you’ll find him. It just might not happen the way you imagine.

    I love that you have such a healthy relationship with yourself — that is more important than any other relationship.

  • Tab - Just Weighing In November 4, 2010, 2:45 pm

    I was cringing as I read this because I have been there, done that. And I, too, got the occasional bootie call request. I mean – seriously.

    I ended up meeting my husband through work. I came out to DC to work and leave my old world behind and what would you know – I met my man. Totally wasn’t expecting that to happen!

    Wish I had someone to fix you up with. I will say to not get discouraged and continue to be happy with yourself because that’s what matters most

  • Maura November 4, 2010, 2:55 pm

    Wow. For me, the thing about being single that can be so hard is being surrounded by so many married/hooked-up girlfriends. As if there is no one who really “gets it.” I feel anything but alone after reading these comments. Thank you! Xoxoxo.

  • Erin November 4, 2010, 2:55 pm

    A family friend was visiting from LA a few weeks ago and he, too, was complaining about how difficult it is to date in LA. But, no, Maura, I’m not going to hook you up with him. Unless you really want an almost-50 year old neurotic computer nerd who loves to ballroom dance. If you do, let me know 🙂

  • Runeatrepeat November 4, 2010, 3:00 pm

    I met Ben online. I immediately deleted any messages from anyone who seemed sleazy (um, hello shirtless pic guy). Don’t waste a minute on anyone sending a message that basically says, “call me so we can have sex.”. DELETE.

    There are good guys out there. My co-worker is engaged. He found his love on eharm after I urged him to stick with it.

    I say stick with the online dating. Eharm not Match (just my personal opinion).

    How close are you to Long Beach? I might know someone…

    • Maura November 4, 2010, 6:11 pm

      Very close, and born and raised in Long Beach 🙂

  • Ellen@FirednFabulous November 4, 2010, 3:02 pm

    Ohmygosh, Maura’s a riot! You’ll find love, girl. One thing I ALWAYS remind my single friends is that the older you get, the less time you have to spend with the courting/dating phase. At this point both people know what they do and don’t want. Not knowing when/who/where is daunting, but it WILL happen!

  • Rachel @ EatMoreMeatLess November 4, 2010, 3:04 pm

    Great HTP story! Maura – I will keep thinking of my guy friends that live in LA for you… 🙂

  • The other Maura November 4, 2010, 3:06 pm

    I can totally relate to Maura’s HTP. In fact, it’s similar to my own. I loved the Patron a little too much (must be a Maura thang) and now I’m working on become a healthier, more confident version of my self. I’m also single (and have tried the online dating thing- to no avail). The only huge difference I see is our age (I’m 23) and location (Boston). Good luck Maura & thanks for sharing!!

    • Katie November 4, 2010, 10:25 pm

      Other Maura, not to be creepy.. I was just reading comments and I’m about to be newly living and employed and single in Boston. Good luck!!

      • Maura November 5, 2010, 1:23 am

        To the other Maura – I will vouch for my fellow marathoner Katie for not being creepy.

        And the Patron must be a Maura thang. As must Boston. I went to school there and my mother is from there…hence her calling me “Marah.”

        Good luck to you in your endeavor to become healthier and happier!

        • The other Maura November 8, 2010, 9:06 am

          Hahah- love this thread! Thank you to both of you 🙂
          Katie- if you need a guide around the city. Let me know!

  • Debbie November 4, 2010, 3:07 pm

    Funny…I always remind my husband that I don’t NEED him…but I WANT him…very different things…I didn’t meet my husband until I was 35 and now looking back I am soo happy that I had that time to enjoy my single life, travel and have fun…it made me happy and that is what attracted my husband to me. I didn’t have my first baby until I was 37, second at 39…you have plenty of time! Enjoy your life, have fun and he will find you! I know it seems like it will never happen..but like they say, when you are not looking it happens..hang in there!

  • Sara November 4, 2010, 3:09 pm

    Maura, I wish you lived in the DC area, because I’d want to hang out with you all the time! Sadly, I don’t know any eligible bachelors in LA, but I’m in the same boat as you! Are the nice guys all taken? It cannot be!

    Stick with the online dating and keep on doing the things you love to do (like run for charity!) and eventually you’ll find a great guy. After talking to some married friends and being assured that marriage, though wonderful, is not the sunshine-and-unicorns solution to all of life’s problems, I’ve decided to enjoy the gift of a few years to myself! I live in a fabulous apartment in the city, I travel, I go out when I want, and my time is ALL MINE! In a few years when I hopefully have some babies pulling at my pant legs, I’ll miss my 20s. So, Maura, keep being you, because you totally rock.

  • Amber K November 4, 2010, 3:14 pm

    It sounsd like Maura has the BEST personality! I don’t know why guys wouldn’t be down with that!

    I met my husband online chatting through AOL eight years ago. I had been chatting with his roommate and one day the roommate was out of town when I called. We ended up talking for hours and it was definitely the start of something good.

  • Amanda Davis November 4, 2010, 3:16 pm

    I used to feel the same way. I thought I would never meet anyone and was even starting to get questions from my mom about why I thought I was still single. I know it sounds corny and a cliche but when I stopped looking is when I found my now fiancee.

    I was in my last year of undergrad in the process of applying for grad schools on the other side of the country when we met…not the best timing to be sure. However, we just clicked and fell very much in love and even though doing long distance for the past year and a half as been tough I couldn’t be happier and can’t wait to get married!

  • Lindsay @ The Ketchup Diaries November 4, 2010, 3:26 pm

    Maura, I love you. HYSTERICAL. Seriously, though, almost all of my girlfriends are 27 with no one on the horizon either. I don’t think it’s abnormal at all. It will all come in due time.

  • Caitlin November 4, 2010, 3:30 pm

    One of our family friends was in a similar situation. She was thirty, totally in shape, and really successful, but had not yet found a husband. She just assumed she would never find love, bought a house, and lived her life. Then one night, she went to a bar and met the man of her dreams. They seem so happy together and have a wonderful life with a wonderful family.

    I think it was almost a blessing to them to meet later in life because they were both independent, happy, and financially stable, so they didn’t have much to work through or worry about.

    Seriously every adult I talk to tells me to get married after 30.

  • Jenny November 4, 2010, 3:33 pm

    Haha, I LOVE this HTP. So well written Maura 🙂

  • Carla @ Will Run for Health November 4, 2010, 3:34 pm

    Funny story…I actually met my boyfriend at a blog meet up. Katherine ( made her friend Mark tag along. I thought he was cute, but really didn’t get a chance to chat with him much that day. A few months later, Kat and I made plans to get together while she was in Clemson. She brought Mark with her! Later that night I gave Mark my number (I number bombed him in the most awkward fashion possible). I’m happy to report that we’ve been dating 4 months.

    This is the happiest and healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in and I think it is in part due to the fact that I’ve learned so much about myself the last 2 years. Maura, just keep pursuing your passions and the right guy will appear along the way!

  • KitKat @ Pursuit of Happiness November 4, 2010, 3:50 pm

    Maura, I can TOTALLY relate! This is my life too! It seems like so many women in their late 20’s are also in the same position. The good news is more and more I hear the wonderful stories of them meeting the *right one* at the *right time*.

    I’m glad you have such a positive perspective though and focus on still being happy and doing what makes you happy.

    The best advice I have gotten (although I still haven’t met anyone recently) is to branch out and do activities that will introduce you to men, or even new female friends (who hopefully have friends, brothers, whatever!). One of my friends recently met her boyfriend through a co-ed social soccer team. I met my current crush (not someone I’d really date, but it’s still nice to have a crush) in boxing class. I also noticed it was man heaven recently at a football game. 😉

  • Beth @ DiningAndDishing November 4, 2010, 4:07 pm

    i LOVE this 🙂

  • Wei-Wei November 4, 2010, 4:26 pm

    LOL. Great story! I found it too too funny, yet so true at the same time. 😀

  • Michelle November 4, 2010, 4:37 pm

    This HTP was cracking. me. up! Loved it!

  • Kelly November 4, 2010, 5:18 pm

    Um this HTP was awesome- WHO describes themselves at “liberty-minded”? lol.

  • Holly November 4, 2010, 5:31 pm

    This is an amazing post! I actually “retired” from dating a year ago. I know that when you’re in the midst of the search, the last thing you want to hear is “once you stop looking you will find him.” Ugh. I hated hearing that. But then, once I retired from dating, I found him. My own favorite quote from a guy: “I was told this is a good place to find casual sex…I’m really just looking for friends with benefits.” Gross! Who says “friends with benefits” after the age of 21? I’m not in L.A. but I’ll keep an eye out in San Diego for you Maura!

  • B November 4, 2010, 6:21 pm

    You are hysterical! Hang in there, someone special will come along.

    Great story, thanks for sharing.

  • Taysa November 4, 2010, 6:39 pm

    I met my partner when he bought a used book at a bookstore that used to be mine and googled my name (it was written on the inside of the front cover.) We started writing emails and, well, three years later and a 2-state move, we are still going strong.

    It’s really cliche, but I think there is truth to finding someone when you’re not looking. If you’re feeling good about yourself, you’re just going to exude that confidence with everything you do.

    • Michele @ Healthy Cultivations November 4, 2010, 10:09 pm

      That is one of the best “how we met” stories I’ve ever heard. I’ve heard so many people say what you said about finding someone when not looking. It’s all about living life and letting things happen… organically and not contrived.

      • Caitlin November 4, 2010, 10:22 pm

        wow – what a story!

  • stacey-healthylife November 4, 2010, 6:53 pm

    I’m going through a divorce right now and can totally relate to this story. I am 30 and feel like I’m starting over and time is running out. But then I step back and think that I’m happy and healthy and deserve only the best in a partner. Then I realize that life will be okay.

  • Camille November 4, 2010, 7:26 pm

    Maura, YOU. ARE. AWESOME!

  • Dee November 4, 2010, 7:58 pm

    ^DITTO to what Camille said! 🙂 I am now forwarding this to my BFF. It’s perfect! 🙂

  • Sofa November 4, 2010, 8:08 pm

    that’s my dawwwwwwwwg! 😉

  • Susan November 4, 2010, 9:28 pm

    I’m so much like Maura it hurts. I’m 36, grew up fat. Took off the weight about 8 years ago. Started running January of this year, planning my first half marathon for January 8 (Disney!)

    I’ve never had a boyfriend (man-friend?). Take that for what it is. There are definitely days that it hurts to consider, but most of the time I am okay with it.

    • Caitlin November 4, 2010, 10:22 pm

      Your manfriend is out there waiting for you 🙂

  • TheHerBehindItAll November 4, 2010, 10:06 pm

    I know this sounds totally crazy because I am young {19} but I had this irrational fear of not getting married. In high school I dated a guy for two years and then was single for two + years. For a better part of those two + years I was actively looking for a man and was going on dates but not meeting any keepers. I have known “the boyfriend” for six years and we ran into each other one day {and had been shamelessly flirting for years… he even tried to get me to break up with my ex boyfriend so that he could date me!!}. When we ran into each other that night we started texting and now we have been dating for 7 months and are in love (: Some people say that you can’t find love young but I don’t buy that. I am 19 years old and have found the man that I am going to marry <3

    • Caitlin November 4, 2010, 10:21 pm

      This comment makes me happy!

      • TheHerBehindItAll November 4, 2010, 10:25 pm

        Thanks Caitlin! It makes me smile & blush too (:

  • Katie November 4, 2010, 10:18 pm

    Maura- I don’t regret a lot but I regret not meeting at San Diego! At least I creepily have a picture of you because you had the same outfit as my friend. Good luck to you and slainte!!!

  • Trish November 4, 2010, 11:01 pm

    I am single and 35. And STILL looking. Really, where is he? Some days I don’t mind being along. Others? Well, being alone gets lonely. I want to share my life with someone, I want a partner. I’ve tried online dating, speed dating, I’ve joined clubs – nothing. I’ve been on tons of dates and still go to bed alone. I try to keep up hope but honestly, there are days when it’s hard and I start thinking it just won’t ever happen for me. I never ever imagined I would still be alone at my age. So I feel your pain.

  • Lesley November 4, 2010, 11:54 pm

    Great story Maura! Really funny and hitting close to home for a lot of us! I’m thirty and have been single since my last relationship ended….when I was 24. It’s so easy to say that online and after reading other similar comments, but in real life I get so embarrassed by how long it’s been since I was in a real relationship. It gets depressing, but I just try to remember one of my good friends didn’t meed her husband of 18 years until she was 35…after she’d given up. Plus there have to be so many men out there that feel this way too. One day the right one of them will meet fabulous us, and it’ll all work out. Good luck!

    • Michelle November 5, 2010, 3:10 pm

      Same boat. two months away from 33, single since 23. When can we start bailing out of the boat? 🙂

  • Marika November 5, 2010, 6:00 am

    Great post and you sound like a great woman! I think the right person will eventually realize that.

  • Anna November 5, 2010, 9:15 am

    I’ve been reading this blog a long time but I had to make my first comment after reading this! I couldve sworn I was reading my life story! I totally feel the sane way!

  • Lisa November 5, 2010, 9:16 am

    Please don’t write off the “conservative, free-market, liberty-oriented Republican, Rush Limbaugh” types. You really never know! And if he’s open to dating a liberal feminist, that would say something, wouldn’t it??!!

  • Pattie November 5, 2010, 8:51 pm

    I don’t want to make any of you feel hopeless, but I just turned 40 and I’m in the same boat. Dating sucks, online dating is a minefield of dudes who think you’re just looking to have sex with them. Start living the best life ever you will be happier and happy people attract good things toward them. I’m sure all of you who are looking will find someone, I know I will too. 😉

  • Kim November 8, 2010, 4:03 pm

    Maura just told my own story! Well, sans Marathon. 🙂 I feel you hon! I finally found someone that is working out pretty darn well on Match was horrible. E-Misery was worse. OKCupid has a feature that lets you post random notes and things that aren’t part of your profile but are connected. And I have a little mini-rant on there about the shirt-off, mirror self portraits. And yeah, seriously, the super conservatives that contact me clearly haven’t read my profile AT. ALL.

    Anywho, I’m with ya sista. You have a sounding board in Des Moines, IA if you ever need one! 🙂

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